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sunshinemiss -> RE: Profiles and such (8/4/2008 11:41:56 PM)
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ORIGINAL: missturbation
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do you think it's true?
I assume you are referring to where you say 'I've been thinking about it, and I believe I know the reason. I am authentic. My profile talks almost not at all about BDSM, I have no BDSM photos, I don't list my kinks. I show who I am, the woman, the person. I am polite and kind (except when cranky), and people can see the real me without it being all play time.'
If so then yes for you, possibly not so much for others and definately not for me. I personally think you have just been lucky. I actually think that your statement above is quite patronising. People who list their kinks and talk about bdsm interests are opening themselves up to troll mail? Jeeze its a bdsm web site!!
I don't think I've been lucky. I believe we create what we have (generally speaking). There may very well be other factors at work, but this conversation that I brought to the boards is the same one I've had in other areas recently, and it's an interesting idea. I'm sorry you took my idea as patronizing about others. I was speaking about me. If you are offended by that, so be it. When I am more authentic, people around me tend to be more authentic, or they leave because they don't get the drama from the hooks they throw out. As I've put more real life things in my journal and real life pix, I"m getting more responses about those things instead of "hey bitch, kneel." Even the "hi" emails ... not so much... If anyone writes me, they write usually in response to my words.
I believe that you've demonstrated my point. It's a BDSM web site. We are all here for the same general thing. The details are different. I think we may have a misunderstanding. I've read your profile. You have the list of kinks to the left, but you don't go on and on about them on the right. I'm talking about the verbiage that we create as opposed to a checklist. Sorry that wasn't clearer before, and thank you for pointing out the lack of understanding so I could correct it.
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Does authenticity on the part of one person bring out authenticity from others?
Myself and my friends on here are authentic but we still get troll mail so a no.
I didn't say I don't get any troll mail, I said it is decreased dramatically.
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Does it discourage the trolls?
Maybe, who knows. It also discourages those who may be compatible with you bdsm wise too.
Well, if it discourages people who aren't willing to say hey that's an interesting train of thought... and then actually have an intellectual discussion FIRST, then good riddance, I say. I don't need someone whose one and only wish is to find a kinky girl. I want much more than that.
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Is my experience an anomaly?
Not by the responses you have so far.
Thus the question.
And yep someone has seriously pissed on my cheerios this weekend [:D]
*gets you a new bowl. Clean and perty. *bon apetite *smiles
Peace and passion,
sunshine
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