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RE: How do you.... - 8/6/2008 7:02:19 AM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

I don't know, I just don't get it either. I've gotten emails from male subs from other countries and they say "I'll do anything you ask!!" My reply is mainly... "ok, I could use a foot massage. Do you see the issue here???"
 
Then there are the ones that tell me they'll be in the US in such and such month... so my reply is "cool, contact me when you get here"... You know? That hasn't happened yet. I don't know, I don't really get the whole online only thing. I know people do it and I know people swear by it, but it does nothing for me.
 
Jewel


My feelings exactly.

They either get their ass here to pull weeds and wash my dishes or send copious amounts of cash to hire it done. For the fun stuff.......I cannot feel a naked ass through a computer or phone. My own, bores me.


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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: How do you.... - 8/6/2008 8:17:59 AM   
sillyslaveboy


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Status: offline 		Let me put it this way: the same way You do not have physical contact with the God, an online slave/sub won't have with You either. Imho a full devotion to Someone on a big distance is the purest form of submission. S/someone might be into it, someone not, just like with everything else. But there is lot of disturbance to such a beautiful act, as follows.

The big problem with this is a zillion of online wankers who are not a "s" of a slave or a sub AND another half of zillion of Women who just want to take the money and disappear or are dishonest in any other way.

The dark background (i will tackle only the Femdom part) of this is very hard oppression over BDSM people in many countries. Under influences of the environment, many people deny their inner needs and lust for BDSM. Afraid that somebody will find out, they lock it in the deepest cell of their mind, and let it rot there for a lifetime. Most of them are Women (because of the traditional role of Women in the family) and there is yet a problem: number of males that accepted theirselves hardly can find a match in the whole country, not in their area only. Natural reaction is to go seeking online but *ouch* they're so inexperienced and thus are most likely just to make bad impression, and then retreat, ashamed that they've failed. And yes, most of them is really unable to relocate, whatever they do.

Hard work.

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RE: How do you.... - 8/6/2008 9:27:14 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I can see how some submissives might gain some satisfaction from the process. However, unless you are a computer professional and I need some computer work done, or you are great at research and I needed something like that done.......I just don't see what might be in it for me. In fact, I would feel like a service top. Typing instructions for you to follow that do absolutely NOTHING for me. Not one thing about online has the potential to satisfy me. Which makes me understand why ProDomme's have websites for pay. I wouldn't give an, online only, submissive, a dominant minute of my time without there being something in it for me also.


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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: How do you.... - 8/6/2008 9:57:51 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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ORIGINAL: darchChylde   <lots of snippage, for brevity>

I don't worship Ma'am, online or in person.  Sure, i work my ass off for Her when She needs or simply asks me to; but i don't see how that has anything to do with "worship".
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Now, it looks to me that to worship somebody i would have to either deify <> them or objectify <> them.  I believe we can eliminate the latter as objectification of one's dominant is probably looked upon with disfavor in the majority of your acredited bdsm or Ds texts.

This leaves us deification of the dominant, which is particularly popular in many circles.  We see it all the time.  <>  I believe that when you treat somebody as something other than human, whether more than or less than, you run the risk of losing focus on the real person involved and that real person's real desires and needs.  <>



Now this is exactly the attitude I look for in a submissive, and believe me it is incredibly rare. 

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RE: How do you.... - 8/6/2008 10:05:17 AM   
sillyslaveboy


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Status: offline 		Yes, there is to be servitude, clear about that sub or slave is who is giving and serving. Somebody might just be wanting to watch an *unusual performance* and laugh more than from a good comedy, somebody may want to make cool videos (and share them with whoever), or maybe to call friends to have fun together with the slave, while sitting back and desiring what They will watch the next moment.

Somebody might as well be into more serious stuff. A year ago i was about to be engaged on building up a website for a Miss, but She gave up from the idea of having website from the reason(s) unknown to me.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
Typing instructions

But typing isn't the only way. There is possibility of voice communication too, Miss.

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RE: How do you.... - 8/6/2008 10:21:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Madame4a
How on earth do you worship someone, online?


Worshiping from afar seems quite possible to me.  Serving from afar, however, requires a bit more creativity.

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RE: How do you.... - 8/6/2008 10:45:29 AM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: sillyslaveboy

Yes, there is to be servitude, clear about that sub or slave is who is giving and serving. Somebody might just be wanting to watch an *unusual performance* and laugh more than from a good comedy, somebody may want to make cool videos (and share them with whoever), or maybe to call friends to have fun together with the slave, while sitting back and desiring what They will watch the next moment.

Somebody might as well be into more serious stuff. A year ago i was about to be engaged on building up a website for a Miss, but She gave up from the idea of having website from the reason(s) unknown to me.

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
Typing instructions

But typing isn't the only way. There is possibility of voice communication too, Miss.



You are not getting my point. While some women may find what you are describing of interest, I am saying that I don't. There is a distinction here. If another woman feels dominance, satisfaction and "served, watching a submissive person follow orders via webcam, more power to her. I don't. To me it is a huge waste of my time. To ME, it is not service to me at all. It would be ME servicing the submissive by giving them my time. Time I do not have alot of to waste.


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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: How do you.... - 8/6/2008 12:14:52 PM   
sillyslaveboy


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i have not a slightest problem with that, Miss. :) i am sorry if anything sounded like i am trying to do anything more than to contribute to the topic. However i indeed used Your words as a construction for that.

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RE: How do you.... - 8/6/2008 3:59:46 PM   
dragon2760


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ORIGINAL: darchChylde

I don't worship Ma'am, online or in person.  Sure, i work my ass off for Her when She needs or simply asks me to; but i don't see how that has anything to do with "worship".

wor·ship  1chiefly British : a person of importance —used as a title for various officials (as magistrates and some mayors)

2: reverence offered a divine being or supernatural power; also : an act of expressing such reverence

3: a form of religious practice with its creed and ritual

4: extravagant respect or admiration for or devotion to an object of esteem <worship of the dollar>
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/worship




darchChylde,  you of all people should know that we can't put literal definitions with words we use in a BDSM context.  If we did then there would not be anyone here who could indentify themselves as a "true" slave. 

I could see how being naked, on my knees and at my Mistress's feet could be viewed as a form of worship.  I just don't get the online part. 

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RE: How do you.... - 8/7/2008 2:36:13 PM   
MistressRouge


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Status: offline 		I dont get  the online either, much rather the hands on approach.

Seems rather, artificial to me, online that is

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