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Sub03 -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 12:38:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Monkeyontuesday I've had my fair share of psycho ex-lovers... God knows... lol. I have T-Mobile (and don't have a home phone, thus it is my only line), and they told me they wouldn't block numbers. Jerks. See, I'm a nice person; I really am. I try to be kind and considerate... But when it comes to that point, I threaten them with my 13-inch butcher knife and the Castle Law in Texas and invite them over... Or I attack their ego to a point they're too embarassed to call or even get in touch with me... Plus it's nice to vent my frustration on annoying little boys ;-) Well that's interesting. I have t-mobile too, my cell number is the only one he has. So I guess I can't block his calls.....I might have to change my number, I would just really like to not have to go that route.

mistoferin -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 12:41:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sub03 quote: ORIGINAL: mistoferin How long have you been broken up and how long have you and your new Master been together? We have been broken up about 2 and a half years....me and Master have been together a little over 2 years. How long will it be before your Master comes home? He should be home sept. 15th crosses fingers Can your new Master call him from wherever he is and tell him to stop calling you? No he cant unfortunetly So this has been going on for 2 and a half YEARS? Your Master must be an extremely patient man.

Sub03 -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 12:43:05 PM)
No it has only been going on since my Master has been away. When my Master was home I didnt hear a word from him. I guess he figures I'm easy prey now that my Master is gone.

softness -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 12:48:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sub03 No it has only been going on since my Master has been away. When my Master was home I didnt hear a word from him. I guess he figures I'm easy prey now that my Master is gone. to be perfectly honest ... you aren't doing all that much to correct his opinion I know Owners are there to support us ... but they are not a band aid .. solve this yourself before he gets home and save him a job to do ... its called good service. you have been given really good advice by several differnt people ... I suggest you use it

christine1 -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 12:49:17 PM)
OP, why does your ex know that your master is gone?

azropedntied -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 12:50:00 PM)
You messed up in the fact that you took him back be it briefly and though you may regret it now you did the ooops , then you answered the call oops two . To him ooh she payed attention to me kewl i shall keep after it persistence shall win her over . He's a nut job you can not pander to period , change you # block you # through the phone company , if he does leave messages and emails print copy and keep them . DO start that creepy EX file for the courts if it come s to restraining orders of protections which is the next step short of hitting him with your car " on accident of course " but no more need to speak directly to him if you have made it clear once already its over .There really is nothing else that needs to be said after buuubye . Weigh out the hassle s of doing some number changing and giving it out to others VS dealing with mr X , if its that big of deal- then having him ring you an text you a bazillion times per day is no biggie . Yes its a hassle but hey you can contact pals and say hey here is my new # what have you been up to etc . so NO MORE CONTACT would be the key . At best/worst,if you have not done this already , if he calls answer and tell him this is the last contact you shall have with me and the next step will be involving the police and the courts , ask if he understands , speak of nothing else and be done with it . I know its contradicting no more contact but thats only if you have not made it crystal clear .

mistoferin -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 12:51:47 PM)
I'm not trying to be nosy...just trying to get a fix on how persistent this guy is. How long has your Master been gone? I ask because I just noticed a thread that you wrote back in April that was about kind of the same thing...a guy who seemed to be pushing harder than he should have because your Master was gone.

azropedntied -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 12:51:52 PM)
Goood gravy if he is stalking you and parked outside the place call the cops .If your saying to him , Master is gone ..bad bad bad . borrow one of shezillas gun stash .. quote: ORIGINAL: christine1 OP, why does your ex know that your master is gone?

Monkeyontuesday -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 12:55:23 PM)
I suggest, like everyone else, since T-Mobile is a bunch of sillies, to actually call the cops and get a file started. I nearly had to do that quite a few times, especially as there was one in particular that I thought really might come after me (hence threatening with my knife).

Sub03 -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 12:57:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: softness quote: ORIGINAL: Sub03 No it has only been going on since my Master has been away. When my Master was home I didnt hear a word from him. I guess he figures I'm easy prey now that my Master is gone. to be perfectly honest ... you aren't doing all that much to correct his opinion I know Owners are there to support us ... but they are not a band aid .. solve this yourself before he gets home and save him a job to do ... its called good service. you have been given really good advice by several differnt people ... I suggest you use it I never denied I was part of the problem. That is why I am trying to change my behavior. Hence me trying to ignore his calls and everything else. All I'm saying is is that it hasn't been working. He won't take no for an answer and ignoring him just makes him call me more. I just don't want him to show up on my doorstep demanding to know why I haven't answered his emails or calls. I know he is fully capable of doing just that. I dont know his address or even his last name to get a restraining order against him. I know his cell number thats it. Edit.....He knows my Master is gone because it says on my profile that he is and Ive mentioned it in other places that he could have seen.

divi -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 1:01:39 PM)
Looking back at all your responses gonna suggest the cricket bat again( wink softness). I mean if you don't want to change your number

Sub03 -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 1:02:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mistoferin I'm not trying to be nosy...just trying to get a fix on how persistent this guy is. How long has your Master been gone? I ask because I just noticed a thread that you wrote back in April that was about kind of the same thing...a guy who seemed to be pushing harder than he should have because your Master was gone. My Master has been gone for a year and a half. Yes he has been persistent the whole time. He is relentless and just dosen't give up.

Aileen1968 -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 1:03:37 PM)
If you're really serious about stopping this then stop putting personal info on your profile. In fact, deactivate your profile. Don't answer any call. Delete all emails unread. Texts too. You are allowing him access. You are making it easy for him.

softness -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 1:05:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sub03 quote: ORIGINAL: softness quote: ORIGINAL: Sub03 No it has only been going on since my Master has been away. When my Master was home I didnt hear a word from him. I guess he figures I'm easy prey now that my Master is gone. to be perfectly honest ... you aren't doing all that much to correct his opinion I know Owners are there to support us ... but they are not a band aid .. solve this yourself before he gets home and save him a job to do ... its called good service. you have been given really good advice by several differnt people ... I suggest you use it I never denied I was part of the problem. That is why I am trying to change my behavior. Hence me trying to ignore his calls and everything else. All I'm saying is is that it hasn't been working. He won't take no for an answer and ignoring him just makes him call me more. I just don't want him to show up on my doorstep demanding to know why I haven't answered his emails or calls. I know he is fully capable of doing just that. I dont know his address or even his last name to get a restraining order against him. I know his cell number thats it. Edit.....He knows my Master is gone because it says on my profile that he is and Ive mentioned it in other places that he could have seen. block his number notify the police of his cell .. and explain the situation tell him you ahve done this IF he turns up ... unlikely ... call the police quit finding excuses ... you realise all this could have been done in the time you have been refusing to listen

azropedntied -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 1:06:34 PM)
You dont know his last name ? his address ?wow this is all basic info , he has the upper hand in knowing where you live , your info , your email , etc I suggest you become a detective quick . If this escalates from your lack of regard for your own personal safety you may have to hire a PI do get the police and courts involved .Perhaps the police can get a detective on it but its low priority for them at this stage is harrasment . Away or not you should also contact your Master and tell him what is going on .

TheDarkSideOhio -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 1:06:56 PM)
The only way your going to get him to stop is to stop anwering his calls, emails, text msgs. If that doesnt work read over this link it deals with the harrassment laws for the state of washington http://apps.leg.wa.gov/rcw/default.aspx?Cite=10.14 log everything keep all records of him calling you, regretfully emails and IM's are not legal for harrassment in most states right now as there is no way to really identify who is sending them with ip address that can be changed and emails'im's that can be altered.

UR2Badored -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 1:07:12 PM)
If he is your ex and you have no idea what his last name might be, here lies the problem. Edited: AZ is correct.

Strongmindbody -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 1:07:31 PM)
Aw, geez, I just have to parrot the same thing EVERYONE else has said: ignore him 100% and either call the police or be ready to call the MOMENT he knocks on your door. No answered or returned calls, no email responses, nuthin. And if he shows up at the door, do NOT talk through the doorway. 911 is an easy call to make. And keep a log of the number of calls he makes and when. This problem will self correct shortly after you decide to make it go away. At this point, you have all the control you need and aren't exercising it. No, I don't know this guy, but stalkers can turn dangerous. To be blunt, quit fucking around. Sorry to be negative, but you have two pages of very similar responses and are still unsure? Please, for your sake, quit feeding him...

KyttynTheMynx -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 1:07:50 PM)
The problem lies in the fact that you let him have all this information about you, and you have zilch. If you had a relationship with this man, why do you NOT know his last name? Hell, I know every ex by first and last name, just in case one of them decides to catch a case of moron and wants to fuck with me, like your ex is doing you! Honey, you need to REALLY LISTEN to all the advice here. You cant depend on your Master to clean up all your issues. This is something that you can let continue to make you miserable, or you can man up, borrow some balls, and hit the fucker where it hurts.

mistoferin -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 1:18:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sub03 quote: ORIGINAL: mistoferin I'm not trying to be nosy...just trying to get a fix on how persistent this guy is. How long has your Master been gone? I ask because I just noticed a thread that you wrote back in April that was about kind of the same thing...a guy who seemed to be pushing harder than he should have because your Master was gone. My Master has been gone for a year and a half. Yes he has been persistent the whole time. He is relentless and just dosen't give up. Ok, well after a little more digging I think I have a better view of the whole picture. This man is very aware of the fact that where your Master is he doesn't even have control over what he gets for breakfast....so that means that he also knows that he can't have any control over the circumstances of your life and how he interacts with you. So that leaves it entirely up to you and it would seem that if you have not been able to get a handle on this in a year and half that you must have a problem with defining and enforcing boundaries. I'm sure that with the release date looming in the near future it is even more important that this guy gets the message and goes away. But YOU need to make that happen. Everyone's advice here has been good. Don't answer his calls....not one. Don't return his calls....not one. Don't answer the door if he comes there....not once. If he won't leave....call the cops. Take out a restraining order if need be. I think though the fact that you have allowed him to continually hound you is leading him on....so it just needs to stop.

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