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MistressPav -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 2:36:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sub03 How do you get an ex to let go who refuses too? I don't know what to do anymore.....ignoring him dosent work, talking to him dosen't work....any ideas?? Helpful advice?? When you sever the head from the body, the nervous system ceases to function.

softness -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 2:36:42 PM)
good point ... well made ... has axe ... will travel

whiteslavebitch -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 2:38:51 PM)
You can't change the ex's behavior of calling, texting, etc. All you can do is make it exceedingly difficult to get ahold of you. I know you don't want to change your phone #, but it's really the easiest way to cut off contact. You can then text all of your other contacts your new phone # in one mass text so they don't lose contact with you.

restlessdreamer -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 2:42:03 PM)
Mad Master Beyond Thunder Dom! Two masters enter, one master leaves! Thrilling drama - but I echo the sentiments of other posters. Take aggressive action to remove this no-last-name-ex immediately! This is the worse time in your life to be nice and docile. Unless... of course, you are seeking the big fight scene at the end of your personal little show where the two might just square off and fight over you. Be careful. The 'one man' that 'leaves' might be the one you truly care for - we're all just guessing at which one it really is.

NuevaVida -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 2:50:58 PM)
I haven't read all the replies, but I did the following with my ex husband: * changed my phone number and didn't give him the new one * stopped answering his emails (unless they were about the divorce settlement), snail mail letters, and phone calls (prior to changing my number) * didn't answer the door * prior to the above, told him sternly and without reservation, that I do not love him, I do not like him, and I do not want him in my life. And I showed no emotional reaction to anything he said after that, nor did I respond to his suicide attempts. You simply cut him off. If there is no reaction from you (good or bad) to fuel his fire, the fire eventually dies. If he threatens you, save the evidence of that and get a restraining order.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 2:56:12 PM)
Call the phone company and have his number blocked. Tell them you are being harassed and they can check and see how often he is calling. They should be able to do it. Blocking his number will probably block his texts, or just remove text messaging from your phone service. And filter the mail from his address into bulk or trash. My ex was the same way after I moved, and these worked for me. DV

OTKkindaGirl -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 3:47:51 PM)
attention, whether it be positive or negative is still attention. he wants your attention and you DO have the choice of whether or not to give it to him. it IS that simple. you just need the fortitude and the strength to ignore. do not give in to your own weakness of submissiveness to this relentless man. you are the one with the power to decide the true direction you want to go. some people are happy with the chaos they create.... is this you? actions speak louder than words and if you keep responding to the ex then you are not being very honest with yourself or your current Master. ignore. ignore. be strong and ignore! all the suggestions given to you are indeed accurate and it sounds to me like a lot of us are speaking from experience.

NuevaVida -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 3:49:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OTKkindaGirl attention, whether it be positive or negative is still attention. he wants your attention and you DO have the choice of whether or not to give it to him. From my own personal experience, this can not be said enough.

windchymes -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 4:51:38 PM)
How about just keeping your phone shut off so all incoming calls go straight to voice mail. Then, when you check your messages, as soon as he starts talking and you realize it's him, hit the delete button. Don't even listen to it, don't get all riled up. As others have said, EVENTUALLY, be it weeks or months, he'll get tired of it, maybe even meet a new girl who floats his boat, and he'll leave you alone. Which is the bigger hassle, though? Putting up with his stalking you or notifying everyone of your new number? One would take an hour, the other, a year and a half and still going......

DarkVictory -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 5:25:54 PM)
People, people, people... this person has no interest in a solution. This is an attention suck thread.

NuevaVida -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 7:02:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: softness has axe ... will travel Oh I like this. I might borrow you some day...if DV lets me...heh.

NuevaVida -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 7:03:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: softness has axe ... will travel Oh I like this. I might just borrow you...if DV let's me...heh.

CruelDesires -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/5/2008 9:15:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressPav When you sever the head from the body, the nervous system ceases to function. Unless its a cockroach. The bodies live for approx a week without its head. C-D

greenearth21 -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/6/2008 6:54:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sub03 How do you get an ex to let go who refuses too? I have an ex who knows I am taken and knows that there is no chance of anything happening between us and yet he just wont stop trying. To be completely honest something did happen once after we broke up and I will always regret that bad choice, but I refuse to let something happen again and I know he thinks he can get me to change my mind. I tried just breaking off contact but he won't stop calling me and texting me, he calls me at least twice a day everyday for the past week and a half. I finally broke down and talked to him today but he just won't accept that it's over, he tries to turn all my arguements around to his way of thinking. The obvious easy answer is to have my Master talk to him but my Master is away right now so he can't take care of it like he would like too. And Him being away is part of the reason my ex won't leave me alone.....he figures with my Master gone now is his chance. I don't know what to do anymore.....ignoring him dosent work, talking to him dosen't work....any ideas?? Helpful advice?? tell him that you are overly satisfied wink with your new partner and could never go back to what he offered you (talk about an ego killer) change your phone number so he can no longer text you or call you restraining order (which prohibits him -legally- from contacting you in any way) Dont give him the time of day I dont know if this is your Masters battle, but rather your baggage that you need to take care of. Just my opinion

lostgirl83 -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/6/2008 8:23:53 PM)
My last ex was like this. We had some SEVERE issues, and when i left it was not on a good note. Anyway... he continued to call me/ text me/ email me on an almost daily basis despite the fact that i had made it clear to him that I had no interest. Eventually I even tried yelling at him etc (which is totally not something I ever do... he just got me that angry and frustrated) that didn't work either. What finally did work? Sending him a picture of me giving another guy head. Yeah.. cruel, unusual, but it got the job done... i havent heard from him in months!

CalifChick -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/6/2008 8:57:55 PM)
I'm not understanding the problem... he calls, you don't answer. He texts or emails, you delete unread. You become a black hole to him. What is the problem??? Have you really not figured out that you cannot change his behavior, only your reaction to it? I've read this thread looking for ways to deal with my own ex, but unlike you, we have a child together, so I am forced to communicate with him. I left him over two years ago, and he has been relentless. Other than the kidnapping incident he has done nothing to justify a restraining order. Calling me incessantly is not enough, as he is not threatening me. Today he called to ask me to bring the kids by on my way home, and just when I thought he was capable of a decent conversation, he started trying to talk me into having sex with him. So I reaffirmed my resolve to not answer when he calls, and then listen to the voice mail to see if it has something to do with the kids. Cali

girlygurl -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/6/2008 9:03:17 PM)
You can't control what he does and your Master can't control him either... just go about your life and eventual he will tire and move on. girly

candystripper -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/6/2008 11:54:30 PM)
If it's really bad and you can afford to, get a second phone; give the people you want to have the new number, and leave the old phone just for your ex, who can call and text to his heart's content without realising you're completely ignoring him. candystripper

MissIsis -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/6/2008 11:56:37 PM)
Fix him up with someone you aren't particuliarly fond of.

Irishknight -> RE: How do you get your ex to let go?? (8/7/2008 10:47:28 AM)
The best way to get an ex to let go is to smash their fingers with a hammer. Then they let go and fall a long way ...... I think I may have said too much.

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