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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 2:04:49 PM   
RavenMuse


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Brillant man try very hard to be extraordinary even if he is young.


To many, both young and old actualy 'try' TOO hard to be what they think they are supposed to be and don't try hard enough with who They are and who she is. That isn't age, but the older you are the more likely you will have learned it through experience.


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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 2:10:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		Age is just two numbers put together. It should never matter as long as two people connect. Hell my ex wife was 7 years older then me.

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 2:32:17 PM   
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It is really confused to me whether the age factor to find a sm partner is important.I am a dom,when I chat with the sub girl,they will leave after they know your age.Because what they want is a senior or above 35 men to dominate them. Young guys just make them feel not reliable and lack of the ability to control.
Does age matter,or just I got bad luck...someone tell me.....Thx


As others have said, it's only as important as it is for the people involved. Plenty of women want partners older than them for varying reasons. However I wouldn't give it a lot of consideration if I were you. Plenty of women also want a partner around their own age. Just consider them a mismatch and move on with your life.

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 2:37:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't have an ideal age, but as someone else stated before I've had horrible experiences with younger guys. With the worst being with someone just a year older than myself. I've always been drawn towards older men. I have an upper age limit, but with dating older men a lot of them have had families or children and therefore aren't that open to having more children now that they are older, which in and of itself is a problem for me because I'm still young and children are something I definitely want. Ultimately though I tend to go with someone that I click with. Someone that I connect with on all levels and usually age just doesn't factor in.

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 4:40:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		Just knowing me as I am, I would have a Very difficult time submitting to someone that was younger than me. My Preferance is someone at least 25 who has the experience and confidence that I could trust them with my wellbeing. If I suspect that they have the potential to Damage me (accidentally or otherwise), it is unlikely that I will play with this person.

I want someone I could learn from. Teach me things, open up my eyes, protect me, guide me. How can I entrust Myself to someone that does not understand what it means to Own someone, mind, heart, body, and soul? Or rather, the implications and responsibility that comes with Owning another person? Could I really believe that He/She can be equally responsible for my wellbeing? Could I give them ALL of me?

No.

Personally, I need someone that Knows what they heck they are doing if I am going to be Giving myself to this person completely, granted this is something that takes time but even so - trust will not make up for inexperience. In relationships with /Me/, inexperience can cause doubt. I Must know I can trust this person with my Safety. Perhaps I'm being harsh but it is impossible for me to believe that someone My age could really understand what /I/ want to Give and have the strength and need to take it All away from me - knowing full well what that entails and the amount of responsibility it means to have that kind of power... I think that's what I really mean to say...

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/8/2008 5:39:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		Just repeating what many posts have already said. Experience and maturity, not age, are what's important. Physical attraction can and does matter. That is sometimes dependent upon age.

If you are just into chat and online relationships, change your age and appearance. This is the internet! True, this will not grant you wisdom or experience, but it might help. Good luck!

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/9/2008 12:23:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		It matters a lot to me.  I have 2 sons around 24 yrs old to have a dom that age or just a few years older i feel like his mother instead of his slave.    It has made a lot of them mad and they have sent me nasty messages back which just showed their lack of maturity. 
I prefer a dom who is withn a 10 yrs age span of my age.  I am close to getting a senior discount.  I qualify for AARP now LOL.

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/9/2008 12:58:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		Age matters to me. I am 40. I have 2 ums and as patina says I would feel like a mother with someone in their 20's then a sub. I also have received nasty emails back because of it and just, as patina ,shows their maturity level then. I am not saying all that are in their 20's are that way.  Kudos to those who make it work in may-december relationship but knowing myself it is not for me.  On the other side I have a couple of years left before I give up my dream of having another child of my own. So I am looking for someone  no more than 5 years older than myself because usually men older than that have had their kids and are done.  So for the next couple of years age really matters to me in the upper age case.  So I look for 30 - 45 age range.

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/9/2008 1:16:40 AM   
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MasterAramis you must be new to the board. Most of the 18 -25 year olds who post on here think that they are way more mature and wiser that 43 years olds.


I don't really agree with you....it is true that some younger people think they're more mature and wiser than the elders when the're not, but at the same time, there are a good number of instances when they actually are more mature.

But of course, I don't think maturity comes with age. I think it comes from experiences, and you can experience things at any age, and sometimes yes, they do end up making people more mature at an earlier age.

I mean, just look at the majority of politicians...they're all old and gray...but during campaigns they fight like 3 year olds.



What's getting to me is that maturity, wisdom, and experience are getting all tangled up in the arguments. Age is just a number and has nothing to do with maturity, wisdom, or experience. Hell, maturity isn't that important. I'd rather have an immature, fun, humorous lover than a wise and mature one. As grape juice matures into wine, it just gets sour and bitter.

Wisdom and experience need to go hand in hand. Wisdom comes from experience, and to understand your experiences requires wisdom. Sometimes age can give you that, sometimes not.

Personally, I look at potential play partners and relationships in a certain age range (20-35). Any older and it starts getting squicky for me. It has nothing to do with BDSM or experience, but the fact of "Oh my god, you're old enough to be my father/mother!"


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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/9/2008 9:14:14 AM   
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MasterAramis you must be new to the board


<--- See I still have a vanilla cone - So yes Dnomyar, I am new! LOL. I see what you mean. I just read a post somewhere on here where an 18 year old claimed she was a slave, yet her profile said - Sub, Domme, Slave -- mostly sub and another of her profiles said she was into "Baby" whatever that is. I tend to wonder if someone at the age really knows what they are. While I have a dominant personality, I knew squat about myself at 18 and based on my experience in the lifestyle with people at that age and two children who are now over that age, I think that is the norm.

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/9/2008 9:17:15 AM   
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Hell my ex wife was 7


Yes, but seven years is not a lot when you are talking about 47 and 40 or 37 and 30. It is a lot when you are talking about 27 and 20. It all has to do with maturity and after raising two children (one boy and one girl) who are just at the 20 mark, I can tell you they have no clue.

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/9/2008 3:11:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		That's simple.  Until you're 40, you OBVIOUSLY can't be dominant.

It's like when you turned 21 and you were able to Drink.  You couldn't possibly drink until 21 because you don't have Alcoholimphises yet.  Kind of like Drivilimphoids that you develop at 18.

You don't get any Dominant Traits until you're 40.  That's why women want older men.  Case Closed.  The 35 is just like dating a man who will GROW Dominant Traits.  Wait 5 years and BAM, you're on the road!

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/9/2008 3:21:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		Age certaintly does matter to me.  To younge and they won't be able to go to the 21 and over places I go, but to old and they're life goals are not likely to be compatible with my own at my stage of life.

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ORIGINAL: clzs112

It is really confused to me whether the age factor to find a sm partner is important.I am a dom,when I chat with the sub girl,they will leave after they know your age.Because what they want is a senior or above 35 men to dominate them. Young guys just make them feel not reliable and lack of the ability to control.
Does age matter,or just I got bad luck...someone tell me.....Thx

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/9/2008 3:27:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64

ok instead of being s selfish sob about age does not matter looking at it i will be with anything or anyone     HOW about looking at this way your obligation to those around you carefor  unless you do not care   then your not what you say you are just playing the fantasy game    someone at twenty is not going to work for someone at fifity  its stupid to think other wise
we have different life rules for a reason  while it might be great to pretend to be hugh hefner  in the end  it sucks for everyone involed  


Really?

Better not tell that to my friend who is 61 and is happily married to a beautiful 24 year old woman. Stating absolutes helps no one-every relationship is different! 

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/9/2008 3:30:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have a better idea.  I just made a profile with some old guy's picture.  And dude...  As a 44 year old man.  I'm getting MAD attention from TONS of super hot attractive women.

Being an old fogie is great.

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/9/2008 4:19:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		Like almost all factors, age has some relevance.

What is probably burning you is that there is an instinctive belief that older is wiser/more experienced/etc. Many people have serious problems with the idea of someone close to their age or younger having authority or power over them. Age implies authority, like it or not.

There is definitely a trend that the younger you go, the less wise/settled/mature/etc they are. However, this is only an average. Most people under 30 just haven't got the maturity to see beyond age (like the irony there?).

Age differences can have a major effect on the ability to relate to the other person. Vast differences in age not only tends to mean one person has had a lot more life experience relative to another, but much different life experiences. These experiences tend to shape opinions and views on life. Someone born in 1990 is probably going to see the world much differently then someone born in 1970 or 1950.

How much all this matters, really depends on the people involved. In my personal experiences (with a range of six years my junior to thirteen years my senior), the people that are willing to see you as a person rather than a conglomeration of factors tend to be much more worth spending time with than those who are comparing you against a checklist.

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/9/2008 4:36:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well if age is a problem, my reasoning is alway's that is it the other person's loss. I don't judge on age, youger older, whatever. But I suppose that there is something of a Schism between older and younger Dom's in the perspective of others. 

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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/9/2008 4:41:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

MasterAramis you must be new to the board. Most of the 18 -25 year olds who post on here think that they are way more mature and wiser that 43 years olds.



And shockingly, some of us have our moments when we actually are.


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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/9/2008 4:49:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: zhouwuatsien

That's simple.  Until you're 40, you OBVIOUSLY can't be dominant.

It's like when you turned 21 and you were able to Drink.  You couldn't possibly drink until 21 because you don't have Alcoholimphises yet.  Kind of like Drivilimphoids that you develop at 18.

You don't get any Dominant Traits until you're 40.  That's why women want older men.  Case Closed.  The 35 is just like dating a man who will GROW Dominant Traits.  Wait 5 years and BAM, you're on the road!



Hahahaha, this is brilliant!

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ORIGINAL: MasterAramis
I tend to wonder if someone at the age really knows what they are. While I have a dominant personality, I knew squat about myself at 18 and based on my experience in the lifestyle with people at that age and two children who are now over that age, I think that is the norm.


This, however, I do not agree with.  It may be typical of some younger people- but many  exist that would disprove your theory.


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RE: Does age matter?... - 8/9/2008 6:50:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

MasterAramis you must be new to the board. Most of the 18 -25 year olds who post on here think that they are way more mature and wiser that 43 years olds.



And shockingly, some of us have our moments when we actually are.


It sometimes seems to me as though 99% of the common sense on the boards is owned by a few grizzled leatherfolk and a handful of 20-something entrepreneurs.  Older posters can be hornier, more frustrated, more broken down, less able to see the beauty sitting right in front of them.  I've noticed that in real life, too.


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