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ORIGINAL: oceanwynds

Greetings everyone
i did not open to my submissive nature until my mid-fifties. Was in a vanilla marriage for 29 years until hubby died. When met Sir 2 years ago, i never heard of BDSM, Ds or Ms. There was a pull in me though to open myself up to see if i am submissive. These past two years have openned my heart to such a depth that words cannot describe. i still consider myself very new to all this and will be forever growing. Wondering if anyone else open to their submissiveness later in life and  how did you move out of the mind set of a vanilla relationship to a Ds/Ms one?

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ORIGINAL: corsetgirl

In my 20's, I repressed my submissiveness because I wanted to be the independent, strong feminist who naively believed that if a woman behaves that way then she is degrading herself. 

I also grew up Catholic, which was expected of me to go to that vanilla route of being married, having a nice Catholic husband, and raising children.  I was married at a late age, do not have children of my own and later divorced the husband because there were issues of mental and physical abuse.

I was 43 years old when I first experience being submissive and when this is with the right person who has that connection, this relationship is wonderful.  I no longer have a dom but I am learning about myself and some valuable lessons along the way. I have now come to realization that a sub or slave can have a sense of strength, empowerment, and liberation, yet have that softness, which is very appealing to me.