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RE: Suggestions for rewards - 8/11/2008 7:46:50 AM

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Reawards for me are easy for Master a night of cuddling, a massage (from him) with massige oil amd maybe candlight, A trip to the book store to buy some books because i love to read. There is a sexual reward i would like to get Master knows what it is, i actually got it wen i got an A in my college class. Just a few ideas oh also canllelit dinner at a fancy place.

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RE: Suggestions for rewards - 8/11/2008 10:34:50 AM

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ORIGINAL: leadership527

OK all you S types out there... I'd like to draw on your collective wisdom (and maybe humor). I'm putting together a series of "reward cards" for my slave. It'll be one of those "draw a card from the hat" type things when she particularly pleases me somehow. I'm putting together a bunch of cards and I'd like any ideas for more. To give you an idea where I'm at already, here's a few I've done...

Slave says "no" (decline one command)
You call the shots (the evening is yours)
You are forgiven (no punishment)

So, let's hear it S-types... What kinds of things would you like to have in your hip pocket?

Thanks in advance
~Jeff

Getting my nails done
Getting a massage at my favorite spa
Getting a pair of shoes
Jewelry that I choose
A scene of my choice

C~

Edited to add: a gift certificate to my favorite cooking supply store, a gift certificate to my favorite wine store (or a decent bottle of white wine)

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RE: Suggestions for rewards - 8/11/2008 11:31:08 AM

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Slave says "no" (decline one command)
You call the shots (the evening is yours)
You are forgiven (no punishment)

temporary removal of the dynamic, or a reversal of roles would not be considered a reward by this slave...it would feel diminishing to the dynamic we enjoy and rather like punishment.

this slave's biggest reward is being allowed to serve and focus on Him and be in His presence. being sent away to a spa or shopping trip or some other excursion without Him wouldn't be a reward...neither would hiring someone to serve this slave or take over her service to Him in some capacity be any kind of a reward.

it would be an uncomfortable game and one this slave would not be excited about playing...unless all the cards were focused on things He personally desires and would allow His slave to do for Him.

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RE: Suggestions for rewards - 8/11/2008 11:39:58 AM

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this slave's biggest reward is being allowed to serve and focus on Him and be in His presence. being sent away to a spa or shopping trip or some other excursion without Him wouldn't be a reward...neither would hiring someone to serve this slave or take over her service to Him in some capacity be any kind of a reward.

I agree. This whole thread's been making me nervous.

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RE: Suggestions for rewards - 8/11/2008 11:40:47 AM

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
it would be an uncomfortable game and one this slave would not be excited about playing...unless all the cards were focused on things He personally desires and would allow His slave to do for Him.

*nods* That is a different (and I suspect, more evolved) dynamic than ours. We may (or may not) get to someplace like this as role adoption occurs over time for the two of us. But as it sits now, she is not this focused on me and it would be premature (and downright stupid of me) to force the issue. Your point, however, remains... There are very definitely "serving me" type rewards that I can and should get into the deck.

One of the benefits of this thread (for me) is that even though a lot of the things were things that I might've thought of myself, people are popping up with ideas that I either just missed or else represent entire viewpoints that weren't on my radar.

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