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Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/11/2008 1:22:11 AM   
subswalow


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Status: offline 		Bird: My Daddy and I were talking this morning in bed and we started discussing the differences between our relationship (Daddy/little girl) and your atypical-by-the-book D/s relationship. Our relationship is very different from most other people's we've ever encountered. Some would go so far as to say it's hardly D/s, it's something entirely different.

I was just wondering if anyone other Daddys/little girls had a relationship that was way out of the typical textbook D/s lifestyle? If so, how different?

Any thoughts from Dom, subs, anyone else is of course welcome. =3

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/11/2008 6:04:26 AM   
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there are countless threads in which this subject has been argued and discussed

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/11/2008 6:27:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		There are numerous threads on Daddy Doms, feel free to search for more. In the meantime, here's a link to a previous thread that can help you get started.

(And yes, I have a Daddy myself. Our relationship is based on what works for us. Daddy/girl, D/s, friends, lovers, partners.)


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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/11/2008 7:28:35 AM   
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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/11/2008 7:30:36 AM   
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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/11/2008 7:42:00 AM   
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and there is always a quiz.


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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/11/2008 8:31:55 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

I don't think that most working relationships are usually "by the book".



I once gave a spanking that was "by the book"...while it was quite thuddy, I find paddles to be much more effective.

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/11/2008 8:55:55 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

quote:

ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

I don't think that most working relationships are usually "by the book".





I once gave a spanking that was "by the book"...while it was quite thuddy, I find paddles to be much more effective.

Taggard



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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/11/2008 9:05:14 AM   
subswalow


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Status: offline 		Bird: I know how to use the search function, but we are new here and I am tired of being a lurker, I wanted to start something that I was interested in and would be more willing to converse with people about than other topics of which I have lesser knowledge. I don't want to read, I want to talk to people! I was told the best way to meet people is to get involved in the forums. Sorry if I bothered anyone with my previously-discussed post.

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/11/2008 9:18:17 AM   
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ORIGINAL: subswalow

Bird: I know how to use the search function, but we are new here and I am tired of being a lurker, I wanted to start something that I was interested in and would be more willing to converse with people about than other topics of which I have lesser knowledge. I don't want to read, I want to talk to people! I was told the best way to meet people is to get involved in the forums. Sorry if I bothered anyone with my previously-discussed post.


Personally, I think it is terrific that you have decided to initiate discussion on a topic that interests you...
Welcome!



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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/11/2008 9:30:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		Actually, what'd I'd personally love is some sort of listing of ALL the terms bandied about here and some sort of rough idea what separates them dom and sub side both.  Although *laughs*, I suppose that's just begging for more sub/slave type trouble.  Perhaps it truly is best just to go with some generic identifier such as top/bottom and leave genuine discussion flesh out the rest.

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/11/2008 9:39:32 AM   
TallDarkAndWitty


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ORIGINAL: subswalow
I don't want to read, I want to talk to people! I was told the best way to meet people is to get involved in the forums. Sorry if I bothered anyone with my previously-discussed post.


I don't think you bothered anyone, but you are not really going to get a conversation of any quality going with a topic that has been beaten, quite figuratively, to death.  Don't ask about Daddy Doms or Sub v Slave.  Don't ask about Turning Your Vanilla Partner Into A Dominant/Submissive or complain that This Generation Of Kinksters Just Doesn't Get It.  You see, for those of us who have been around here for more than a few months have seen so many of those threads, that each new one just destroys a bit of our souls.

It's great to want to talk, but it is important that you have something to say.  Don't just start a new thread, look at the existing ones and comment in one of them.  If you are unfamiliar with what is being discussed, ask questions...you will get better answers, and, most likely, fewer Use The Search Functionality responses.

Welcome to the boards!
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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/11/2008 4:05:08 PM   
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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/11/2008 7:07:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		Not that I want to raise any more ire here, but it seems to me that if you have nothing constructive to add, you may as well just not read the thread.  There have doubtless been new members who've joined the forums since the last posts on these subjects and they deserve to add their input just as much as all the vets did when they were new.  Just because we've seen all these threads before does not mean we need to read them.  Just skip them and let people talk about whatever they like.

The thing I like the least about these forums (and has resulted in alienating some great people I tried to introduce here) is the elitist attitude of a few of the older posters.  Wisdom means helping others learn.  Not proving how jaded you are by it all.

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/11/2008 7:15:43 PM   
krikket


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Please don't be discouraged by those who start harping on the search feature.  I've been here for a while now, and I think it's fair to say that almost all topics have been discussed, talked about and rehashed any number of times.  Personally I don't mind re-discussing a topic because we're always getting new people on both sides of CM, and those people just "might" have something new to add to the topic, or a new way to say it that might make more sense to me than anything I've read before.  (and yes, others have said this same thing better than I have, but I still thought I'd add my 2 cents worth..lol)

So..welcome to CM, and/or the boards --

regards,
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quote:

ORIGINAL: subswalow

Bird: I know how to use the search function, but we are new here and I am tired of being a lurker, I wanted to start something that I was interested in and would be more willing to converse with people about than other topics of which I have lesser knowledge. I don't want to read, I want to talk to people! I was told the best way to meet people is to get involved in the forums. Sorry if I bothered anyone with my previously-discussed post.


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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/11/2008 8:48:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would say since there really is no "by the book way" to do bdsm an kink an relationships that technicall all little girls and daddies have relatrionships diffrent than "by the book" models.
quote:

ORIGINAL: subswalow

Bird: My Daddy and I were talking this morning in bed and we started discussing the differences between our relationship (Daddy/little girl) and your atypical-by-the-book D/s relationship. Our relationship is very different from most other people's we've ever encountered. Some would go so far as to say it's hardly D/s, it's something entirely different.

I was just wondering if anyone other Daddys/little girls had a relationship that was way out of the typical textbook D/s lifestyle? If so, how different?

Any thoughts from Dom, subs, anyone else is of course welcome. =3

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b i r d

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/12/2008 2:44:52 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		Hello to the OP:
If you've been lurking and you do know the search function and you decide to post anyway, you already know that you'll get "use the search" and IF YOU ARE LUCKY, LA will post that stuff for you.  She's our resident librarian... and the bomb!  And I see you are lucky.

I am of two minds about it.  I don't care to re hash things, but I'm also always learning too.  There's a thread over that way somewhere *points* about cuckolding - how many threads are there on THAT?!  But the fellow wrote a beautiful story that really clarified things for me and left me speechless.  So there is value in new threads about old topics.

End of editorial...

As for your question it is frankly so vague that I don't even know how to respond - how are you all so different?  Can you give some examples?  What does "by the book" mean?  (and I am refraining from making jokes about which book and the like... well ok MOSTLY refraining).  And if other relationships are by the book - how in the world are they atypical?  These are of course antonyms and your question just doesn't make sense.

I think you would get more informed responses if your post was a little more clearly defined.  I for one am at a point where I'd be interested in hearing about the nurturing dynamic a bit more... egads, perhaps even post about it. 

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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/12/2008 4:05:37 AM   
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Yay you. Good post. 


quote:

ORIGINAL: Solipsistic

Not that I want to raise any more ire here, but it seems to me that if you have nothing constructive to add, you may as well just not read the thread.  There have doubtless been new members who've joined the forums since the last posts on these subjects and they deserve to add their input just as much as all the vets did when they were new.  Just because we've seen all these threads before does not mean we need to read them.  Just skip them and let people talk about whatever they like.

The thing I like the least about these forums (and has resulted in alienating some great people I tried to introduce here) is the elitist attitude of a few of the older posters.  Wisdom means helping others learn.  Not proving how jaded you are by it all.


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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/12/2008 5:22:16 AM   
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RE: Difference between Daddys and Doms? - 8/12/2008 9:17:53 PM   
subswalow


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Status: offline 		Bird: Well, my question was kind of vague on purpose. I suppose I don't really want an answer, persay, I wanted discussion. *shrugs*

Sorry if I annoyed anyone, but like many people have already said (and I thank you ALL so kindly for that!) you don't have to post. Heck, you don't even have to read the darn thing. I think sometimes people forget that in a forum, you don't have to respond to every damn thing, just the things you WANT to talk about! It's like any kind of party - you don't make it a goal to talk to every single person who shows up (and if you do, you certainly don't have negative things to say to them. Sheesh.) only the ones that interest you. =3

*giggle* I know, I know, there's no "by the book" way to have a BDSM type relationship. I suppose I meant your more... traditional Dominant/Domme and submissive or Master/Mistress and slave relationship as opposed to the more... non-standard Daddy and little girl or Mommy and little boy relationships. I guess I say that because it seems like these kinds of relationships are more uncommon, or at least less discussed whereas the M/s dynamic is more.. almost openly accepted and certainly more talked about. I suppose I say THAT is because in all my years of research I'd never even heard of a Daddy/little girl relationship. *shrugs* It seems to me like they're a little less traditional. =]

And um... thanks Lucky, but no thanks. I already said I didn't want any links. Sorry you went to all that trouble. =/

Solipsistic: Agreed! Most of the reason I don't post on the other threads is cause ummm... I'm super intimidated. And when I'm intimidated I definitely don't ask questions, TallDarkAndWitty. Again, thanks, but no thanks.\

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