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neither of us are silly we dont tend to take risks where we dont need too

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ORIGINAL: berrysurprise

Its been a little while since I updated. Just wanted to say about the emergency thing. We always carry our wallets/purses and phones with us when we meet. I guess in an emergency the other would be able to use our licence etc for details. We pretty much know most things about each other and neither of us are silly we dont tend to take risks where we dont need too. not sure if that makes sense just thought i would add it in. - hope your all well.. We are still going happiely... and no i still dont know his surname~

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ORIGINAL: subtee

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ORIGINAL: berrysurprise

I am a very blessed sub, i have been lucky enough to have a great relationship/friendship with a very noble Dom.

How do you come to that conclusion since you

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dont know much about him.

How has he

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been [your] rock for almost two years now

if he is a

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Dom that was not to involved

?

I honestly don't understand this...

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I'm going to assume you two are only fuckbuddies and not much else...

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ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I'm going to assume you two are only fuckbuddies and not much else...

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

In the far distant past when I had fuckbuddies it was a don't ask don't tell type of relationship. We hook up when we both needed a little something and then we went our separate ways again..no names, no knowing if they are married or not, no nothing..just a "next weekend then? Same time same place?".

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko

...never mind. I know I'm a little uptight about all that stuff.

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko

Even so, though....at some point, even if just fuckbuddies, don't you have to know his full name? I'm not up on how the whole fuckbuddy thing works, but I would imagine at some point I would want to be sure he isn't fuckbuddying with anyone else, like a wifebuddy. Don't you know what he does for work? Shouldn't you? I don't understand how you could be comfortable being with someone that you know so little about. I mean for health reasons. Not the emotional part. You want to just fuck someone for awhile and leave it at that, more power to ya'. But after five years, with neither of you wanting more of a relationship with each other, then where exactly are you getting your relationship-type needs met? And is there no fucking going on in that relationship?

It's just.....I just don't understand.

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
It's been five years and you still don't know his last name?  Can I sell you a bridge?

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ORIGINAL: leadership527

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
It's been five years and you still don't know his last name?  Can I sell you a bridge?

You know myself and Davan still converse regularly... and we have been doing so for a few years now. Honestly, it was only a few months ago that I figured out her last name. I'm not 100% sure she knows mine. We go by xxxxx & Jeff. Nor do I know her address... she gave it to me once so I could send a gift but I promptly lost it again.

Not every relationship really needs this sort of information.

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ORIGINAL: leadership527

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven


Not every relationship really needs this sort of information.

This is true for me, for sure.

I have a friend I've known for a year in rl. We belong to same music group and the ONLY reason I know his surname is because we are on the same mailing list for the group, therefore I spotted it there. I'd never have thought to ask his full name. He'd still be *David, the guitar player* otherwise. He probably knows mine for the same reason but I can't be sure he knows, or remembers mine. Plus he calls me by me by one of my rl-nics.

I don't know where he lives, I've never seen his home, let alone been there, even though he only lives a mile away, yet we meet up and go out to festivals and gigs and he spends evenings at my home regularly. I know what he THINKS and feels about many things but I know very little about his personal circumstances. I don't care to know, I don't so much as think to ask and we have managed to get to know each other very well without that.

I don't know everything about M and I've known him for over 10 yrs. HE knows practically everything there is to know about ME, is involved with my children, my parents, my friends, my life.......... but I am not with his. I don't need to, nor do I particularly want to. Again, I know much more about the way he thinks and why, than about his personal circs. It's not remotely odd to me because those things have never been of great interest to me.

I have young men staying in my home daily...I've never met their parents, nor do I know where they live when they are not here, and I don't know their surnames either......they've been staying here for years. They do the dishwasher, don't leave sugar crumbs when they make tea, put their shoes in the correct place and never fail to find me in my study to say *Hello, how are you?* when they arrive and * *Goodnight, I'm off now* if they leave to go home.

I seem devoid of that kind of curiousity. I have always had an interest in knowing someone, not knowing about them.

The calibre of a person doesn't lie in these things....for me. The things that resonate with me don't get fulfilled by information of that nature. But that's coming from someone that jumped on a plane to Norway to stay with a good online friend without even seeing a photograph of him, with no landline number and in fact, no address until I got there. I knew him, I just didn't know ABOUT him.

It CAN take a few clicks to know ABOUT a person but that's just not the route I've ever taken.

The one difference between me and the OP is that if I want to know something badly enough, if it's important at any given time, I WILL ask. I wouldn't deliberate about it a great deal, make a post or worry too much about it...I'd just ask.

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