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You had me at hello. - 8/12/2008 10:36:04 AM

missturbation

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I have always questioned the sanity of someone who would go to a club and play with someone who is a stranger. Judgemental yes i know, but i have. I have changed my mind though now, well either that or i am insane! One of the two lol.

Saturday i spent a few hours in the company of a woman along with a friend (who already knows her) and then we went to a club. I had no intention of playing at all, i was just having a nice evening out and getting the chance to wear some fet wear and real heels.

However after being in the club for about twenty minutes i was shackled to the wall, blindfolded and breasts out! No negotiation, no limits discussed, no safe word in place. I had never done breast play before either.

It has been about 8 months since i played last so i admittedly didn't last very long, maybe twenty minutes tops and i for me it wasn't didn't overly heavy play. However i had a really fantastic time and my top being virtually a stranger, no limits, no negotiation made it an extremely hot experience.

So my questions are......
Would you / do you play with relative strangers?
If you do / would what safety precautions do ou put in place?
If you wouldn't play with a relative stranger why not?

And just for clarity this woman really did have me at hello !! There was just something about her that made me throw all my so called safety values right out the window.

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RE: You had me at hello. - 8/12/2008 10:41:11 AM

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I have done so in the past--- very rare experience for me. And was some pretty hot action!

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RE: You had me at hello. - 8/12/2008 10:41:50 AM

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i havent played in 6 years...and i fear it wont happen again...so im jealous of you.

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RE: You had me at hello. - 8/12/2008 10:44:14 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

I have always questioned the sanity of someone who would go to a club and play with someone who is a stranger. Judgemental yes i know, but i have. I have changed my mind though now, well either that or i am insane! One of the two lol.

Aww, you know I love you too.

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Would you / do you play with relative strangers?

Yup. I play with friends and relative strangers and, for all intents and purposes, complete strangers who I just met at the party.

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If you do / would what safety precautions do ou put in place?

I don't play unless I'm comfortable. Valyraen, or someone I trust equally, is usually around and watching. These always take place at groups where I am comfortable and have a level of trust with the other members. Accidents happen but I accept that risk and don't get into 'extreme' play with strangers. Usually I also discuss what will happen beforehand but I like to leave it a bit loose so they can work their evil magic and surprise me.

I think the most important thing is that I have to be comfortable and confident with the situation.

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RE: You had me at hello. - 8/12/2008 10:45:08 AM

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ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

i havent played in 6 years...and i fear it wont happen again...so im jealous of you.

Awwwwwwww hun i'd have shared if i could.

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RE: You had me at hello. - 8/12/2008 10:45:36 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation
So my questions are......
Would you / do you play with relative strangers?

Yes I have.

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If you do / would what safety precautions do ou put in place?

My own common sense is enough. I know that doesn't work for everyone. I used to be an advocate of the whole safety procedure. But then, I grew up.

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If you wouldn't play with a relative stranger why not?

Because I am now owned.
Unless Darcy instructed.

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< Message edited by Darcyandthedark -- 8/12/2008 10:46:15 AM >

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RE: You had me at hello. - 8/12/2008 10:46:16 AM

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I have, after very brief online acquaintance. I have done it rarely, but each time, it was fantastic. I think there is an aspect of freedom for the Dominant and the submissive in hard, deep play without a lot of preliminaries.

That said, and having done both, I prefer play within a meaningful, committed relationship.

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Edited to add: And this play with "strangers" was done in a hotel room, in a city foreign to both parties. Exactly the thing I would caution a submissive against doing, and I would forbid My baby girl from doing. But don't We always say "Do as I say, not as I do?"

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RE: You had me at hello. - 8/12/2008 10:47:28 AM

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Would you / do you play with relative strangers?
No.

If you do / would what safety precautions do ou put in place?
Normally, yes... but it's easy to see how the situation you described would come about and how it would be wonderful. I didn't believe in love at first sight either... then I met my wife and we stuck together like magnets from the very first moment. *shrugs* Sometimes we get lucky.

If you wouldn't play with a relative stranger why not
Not interested. We don't "play" at all. This is all too intensely personal for me to be interested in involving a stranger. In a public setting with other people to help keep an eye on things, I wouldn't be all that worried about the safety aspect. I'm just guessing how I might respond to such a situation though if I was interested.

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RE: You had me at hello. - 8/12/2008 10:53:57 AM

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I think the most important thing is that I have to be comfortable and confident with the situation.

Agreed

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RE: You had me at hello. - 8/12/2008 11:12:10 AM

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I've played strangers at events and clubs and had an amazing time. It scared me the first couple of times -- I was brought to my crop through a -very- structured, regimented, and detailed path, and as much as I wanted to lay my flogger across the boy's back, I had this brief hesitation about doing it without all the 'preparations'.

My current 'boundary' is in the area of blood-play though (needles, cutting, piercing... ). I still haven't met a stranger whose "canvas" is so enticing that I want to set aside my innate fastidiousness around spilling blood without seeing a clean bill of health. I suppose, at some point, that, too, will find its way into the "a good idea, but not a law" basket.

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RE: You had me at hello. - 8/12/2008 11:17:45 AM

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Would you / do you play with relative strangers?
Yes, certainly, if their energy is right, and there is chemistry between the two of us.

If you do / would what safety precautions do ou put in place?
I dont play in unsafe locations with strangers (i.e. hotels, private homes etc) I make sure I only play in public with friends around, but I often dont move beyond basic negotiation (please dont kill me or use a sledge hammer. I make sure there is some clarity about how we will be comminicating in the scene. I also make sure that someon *else* I trust is not too far away.

If you wouldn't play with a relative stranger why not?
If any of the above wasn't the case

or misstrubation was hogging all the totty

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RE: You had me at hello. - 8/12/2008 11:31:23 AM

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There is safety in numbers , in other words if your at a club or event i personally feel more free to play with a relative stranger , no i would not play with a relative that is strange although i have been with strange people , and they can be awesome.For the most part i observe before i approach or make any type of advancement . If you see unsafe things going on why would you wish to have an exchange with them , also if its bad or black energy or creepy its best to know prior to being bound and gagged .
Would i just walk up to someone with zero knowledge and say Hi wanna play like asking for a dance ? I have done it many years ago and no longer .I would have to know at least the very basics .Just as i would not say or go to a hotel room with a stranger .A club group event situation or at a party with community member s hold much more flexibility and you may have trusted people that know you to look out for you .
miss> sounds like a wonderful time kudos to you .. gotta love those kinds of hello's !you had attraction,great energy ,a good environment, and a amazing time enjoy the glow .

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RE: You had me at hello. - 8/12/2008 11:33:37 AM

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Yeah I have played with relative strangers. Not lately, but in my past I even went off to a hotel with one guy (a cop) and spent the evening being beat (without sex too!). He had me at hello. Some people just feel right.
It isnt for everyone, but for those of us willing to take the chance and accept the consequences of our actions, it can work out nicely.
Then only times I can recall it not working so great, I was not the one who made the call to allow that other person in my space.
My judgement about people I meet is generally good.
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RE: You had me at hello. - 8/12/2008 11:46:56 AM

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Oh my...I absolutely love it when that happens!

I think I'm blessed more then most, since I've had numerous experiences like you described, and every single one of them was fantastic! Some of them it led to more enjoyment, but, most were just that moment in time that was unique and special!

::: deep contented sigh :::

Thank you for my trip down memory lane...can't wait for the next...hello!

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RE: You had me at hello. - 8/12/2008 11:56:42 AM

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I play with strangers all the time! But I am DangerDom....

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RE: You had me at hello. - 8/12/2008 12:50:14 PM

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I would love to see the DangerDom costume! I have the weirdest image in my head now!!!

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RE: You had me at hello. - 8/12/2008 1:08:39 PM

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I've played with relative strangers, complete strangers, people who's name I don't know...

Two weekend ago, I have a fabulous scene, I'd met the top earlier in the day, I'd met his partner all day as we were running about organising a stage. We get to the end of something absolutly devine and I looked at him and said "I've no idea what your name is" (or something like that) and he replied with "I don't know yours either", we had a good giggle and made propper introductions.

We'd negotiated as far as "perhaps you can use floggers or something?" and "keep it mellow, my shoulder is sore" but that was about it, lots of communication during though. I also try and stick to public places, and have people who know me around somewhere close.
I play with people when I feel a connection

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RE: You had me at hello. - 8/12/2008 1:11:36 PM

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Tell me you are picturing a costume with a lions head on the codpiece!
Kyst

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I would love to see the DangerDom costume! I have the weirdest image in my head now!!!

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RE: You had me at hello. - 8/12/2008 1:59:37 PM

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ok yeah thats HOT ! please let us all know when you matel action figure comes out .

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I play with strangers all the time! But I am DangerDom....

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RE: You had me at hello. - 8/12/2008 2:20:51 PM

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Would you / do you play with relative strangers?

Yes I would, and yes I have. Though, I must say that 'play' for me involves something that most would never even contemplate.

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If you do / would what safety precautions do ou put in place?

I am never tied up, tied down, gagged or blindfolded.

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If you wouldn't play with a relative stranger why not?

When I do 'play' with strangers; it's because I recognize something in them that I can trust...I rely heavily on my instincts. If I turn down someone, it's for the same reason in reverse...there was something that caused my internal radar to go on alert.

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