candystripper -> RE: -Not- another fat thread ... No, really. (8/16/2008 9:45:30 PM)
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[q]....I should have known better before starting this thread in the first place. Now I've learned.. opposingtwilight[/q] We've all had this feeling -- at least if we've posted enough that our message boards 'designation' icon is at least one set of handcuffs. You wrote a good Op, and a lot of good convo took place, IMO. A few members were snarky, to some degree, but nobody weighed in to double-team whomever the snarky member was hating on....I don't think snarkiness can ever be eliminated, so as long as it doesn't turn into a full-blown clusterf**k, mostly, I just don't give a flip about it. I think if you linger on the boards long enough, eventaully you'll feel the same way. It's sort like driving a long communte to work. Yes we all know full good and well, some asswipe will try to cut us out of our lane or other stupid ass crazy dangerous thing. But we don't quit our job and stop driving. We learn to 'tune it out' as having any emotional content. For some people they'r so used to bad drivers they no even feel any adrenaline rush when one puts them in serious danger with a particularly evil, stupid move, like forcing them onto the berm at 70 mph. Yes, we need to stop hating on skinny people. We need to stop assuming anyone who's slender cannot possibly be in distress too. (That one baffles me, but I've experieced it quite frequently myself during a period in my adult life when I was slender, if not skinny.) But, opossingtwilight, we *all* need to try to stop using stereotypes of any stripe to inform our opinions or decisions to a greater degree. I don't think it's possible to stop *all* use of steretypes, and that it's something each of must strive to do all our lives...at least if we feel any desire to improve out 'lot in life', if for no other reason. *For me* reading a post in which a member quotes something I've writen here and then explains how it injured them in some way I waaay did not foresee -- particularly if it caused distress -- is akin to finding out I've inadvertently forgotten to lock my UM's front door and consequently she's been burgled. The two are not a like in the degree or depth of my reaction, only in that it is of the same *nature*. I think there are probably many other members who react the same way when discovering they've inadvertly injured somone by a *burp* in their communication skills. candystripper
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