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...True thoughts, real person - 8/12/2008 8:05:09 PM   
boundinside


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Status: offline 		I have been interested in BDSM for around 4 years right now, I have known I was submissive for the entire time and I have known about femdom for around 2 years.  But for the life of me, I will never understand why...in the back of my mind, I doubt I will ever be a submissive in real life.  It's not that I am not interested and am not striving for it, but sometimes it seems that there just aren't enough dominant females out there.  I have had less then a hand full of chances at servitude but, to be perfectly honest and blunt, the people behind those chances were bull shit.  It's hard to carry on with something that in the back of your mind you know will probably never had.  Please no disrespect intended for this next part.  I know that this is a pestimistic attitude to carry and I know that I am still young, but that doesnt change the fact that the thought is still in my head.  I honestly am not a hundred percent as to why I am writing this.  I mean I a not asking for help, because for the most part I'd like to think I have some idea of what I might get out of the lifestyle.  I am not asking for opinions, because a lot of times, those really opinionated people, have nothing good to say.  So I guess I am just writing this to give myself an excuse to write my feelings and thoughts down without feeling embarrassed or weird for actually pulling out a peice of paper and a notebook and writing a journal  or something.
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RE: ...True thoughts, real person - 8/12/2008 8:28:33 PM   
DomDolf


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Status: offline 		I'm not sure where you live, but there are real, no-BS, dominants. It's not easy putting yourself out there like you have, congratulations on showing some level of maturity in your thoughts. I think if you are selective, dedicated to your submission and emotionally available you will find what you are looking for. Good luck.

Dolf

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RE: ...True thoughts, real person - 8/12/2008 8:36:51 PM   
katie978


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I have been interested in BDSM for around 4 years right now, I have known I was submissive for the entire time and I have known about femdom for around 2 years.



You've known you were submissive for 4 years...

You realized 2 years ago that there are such thing as female dominants??

How does the math work on that, exactly?


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RE: ...True thoughts, real person - 8/12/2008 8:37:32 PM   
Daddysredhead


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Status: offline 		Dear bound,

I wish you the very best in your search.  It can be difficult, but there are so many people who have found one another here, and it probably wasn't easy for them.  However, many couples are having very warm and fulfilling relationships.

Be well,
DRH

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RE: ...True thoughts, real person - 8/12/2008 8:44:51 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		Knowing what you dont want is a definate step towards finding what you do want.
Knowing that you are submissive is only part of it, finding a dominant that can actually amke you desire to serve is a whole different thing. I have bee dominant since I was 18 years old. (Well, before that probably too, but actively aware of the lifestyle and legally interacting with it since 18) and yet I only collared my first pet 2 years ago. I had various submissive playmates and relationships that I knew werent going to amount to what I wanted long term, but I still tried. I met Angel, my first collared pet, 2 years ago and met Fox, my second collared pet 10 months ago (tomorrow is 10 months exactly actually)
Dont settle for just something to have just so you have it. Be picky... even if it means it takes a long time to find. Trust me, it is worth it. Being single is far better than settling just to be taken becasue when you settle you run the risk of missing the chance with the right one because you are already with someone.

DV


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RE: ...True thoughts, real person - 8/12/2008 8:50:00 PM   
StrongSpirit


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Status: offline 		First, please note that if you have talked with multiple people and think they are all bullshit, then, just maybe, the problem is you.

The truth is that it is really not that hard to find a serious dominant.  The majority of people on this and similar website are NOT about bullshit.   The problem generally is:

a.  Finding a dominant that plays the way you like to play.  It does no good to get a role-player if you are into Pain with a capital P.

b.  People that go looking for a handsome/beautiful perfect person and THEN check to see if they are dominant.

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A lot of the time, people are not very clear about how they play.  If you like Pony play, but are putting forth a 'dominate me' vibe, then you get all these people that just want to command you and don't want want to ride you.  Then you think "They are not really dominant."  But they ARE dominant, just not the dominant the way you want.

The other time, people see the multitude of dominants and put forth the wrong set of criteria.  You have to put your sexual preferences FIRST, not your shallower ones.  I know you see all these people, but the 'catches' are either already taken or have a reason why they aren't taken.   Honestly, how long do you think say, Jeri Ryan would last on this website, if she was interested in experiencing what she rejected?  You and I both know that she would be snapped up by the first sane person that talked to her.  That would happen even if she was a poser.   When you go put shallow reasons first, such as beauty, height, weight, then you end up ignoring most of the people worth talking to.  Once you have already screened people for having the right kink, then you look at physical appearance, age, etc.  Screen for them second and you will do a lot better.

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RE: ...True thoughts, real person - 8/12/2008 11:00:39 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		Hmmm..I'm curious why you make statements about fake people, but don't post under your "actual profile", as you state in this profile. In life, there's the Law of Attraction...

Start posting under the other name. Be what you want to find.

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RE: ...True thoughts, real person - 8/12/2008 11:07:59 PM   
subswalow


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Status: offline 		Katie: I have been into BDSM for about four years now, but didn't know Daddy/little girl relationships existed until about a year ago. *shrugs* It doesn't always have to make sense.

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RE: ...True thoughts, real person - 8/13/2008 5:36:27 AM   
katie978


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Katie: I have been into BDSM for about four years now, but didn't know Daddy/little girl relationships existed until about a year ago. *shrugs* It doesn't always have to make sense.


Granted, but...did he think only men could be dom? Or that there were submissive people with no one to flog them? No one to spank them (What a sad world that would be!)


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RE: ...True thoughts, real person - 8/13/2008 7:28:52 AM   
DominaYork


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quote:

ORIGINAL: katie978

Granted, but...did he think only men could be dom? Or that there were submissive people with no one to flog them? No one to spank them (What a sad world that would be!)



Yes, it's sad...but there are kinky adults out there with no one to flog them. For your donation of just .33 cents a day, that's less than a cup of coffee, you too can save these poor souls from a life without spanking.


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RE: ...True thoughts, real person - 8/13/2008 7:33:22 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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quote:

ORIGINAL: katie978
Granted, but...did he think only men could be dom? Or that there were submissive people with no one to flog them? No one to spank them (What a sad world that would be!)


It is possible that the only thing he saw were Dominant males, eventhough he felt submissive. Lots of submissive male types thing there is something wrong with them and try and fight it becasue that isnt what standard society expects. You can find FemDom in porn, but honestly, having watched any of that doesnt it strike you as possible he didnt believe it was real until he found something else?




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RE: ...True thoughts, real person - 8/13/2008 10:28:26 AM   
Prinsexx


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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam
Be what you want to find.

Master Fire


I knew i wandered here for some good reason.....


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