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RE: BDSM sick? - 8/13/2008 12:41:06 PM

dove967

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When I was divorcing my ex husband, he gathered every piece of information he could about my lifestyle activites on the internet-every group posting, every email sent. His attorney presented it to the judge who, of course couldn't look at it as it was considered hersay and he couldn't prove I was actually the one who typed it all. This planted a little seed in the back of the judges female, republican, conservative, and catholic brain! Now on paper, the judge awarded physical possesion of my two children to thier father because I had gone out on one date before the divorce was final. She then looked at me and said "I don't know the extent of your activities in this BDSM stuff, but, it is my opinion it is not mentally healthy for ANYONE." Thus was the real reason my children were awarded to thier father. Now, understand, I had been thier primary caretaker thier entire lives! I operated a state registered home daycare for infants and toddlers for 7 years with not one complain ever filed about me to licensing! My reputation in home childcare was sterling and I loved what I did. I honestly thought thier father didn't have a snowball's chance of getting possesion of them. All it took was the mention of 4 little letters....B....D....S...M....without any solid proof and my world was completely blown away. It will be a very long time, before this lifestyle will be considered simply one of many alternatives. Until then, I hope to use my experience to help other parents who are fighting for thier constitutionally protected right to persue happiness .....even if they find it at the end of a flogger.

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RE: BDSM sick? - 8/18/2008 3:14:58 AM

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Close, however “normal” may be stretching things a bit. I prefer the term well adjusted, contributing member of society.

Personally, I was not bothered by any of the chat room conversation. I do not feel that different equates with sick, and was perhaps rather vague on that point.

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RE: BDSM sick? - 8/18/2008 3:20:44 AM

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I think you're correct. Camille. That and the shock value.

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RE: BDSM sick? - 8/18/2008 4:50:19 PM

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Ok, so, last night My Lord slapped my face repeatedly, squeezed my throat until I nearly passed out, and bit my breasts so hard they are swollen and bruised this morning. I fucking loved it.

In a "normal" relationship, this would have been abuse. My Lord would be sitting in jail and I would be getting counseling. The police would be escorting me home to get my things, and a restraining order would be filed.

I could not possibly care any less about what people think of me. I don't even know anyone else in the "lifestyle" outside of this website, and I don't actually know anyone here. I don't apply adjectives to myself for the benefit of anyone's opinion.

There is such a thing as "normal," folks. Allowing yourself to be beaten and abused for the sake of sexual pleasure is, well, NOT normal, however you rationalize it.

There are many people who would like to make people accept them and their behavior. Acceptance is not something you are entitled to. A person either accepts you or not. In the vagina monologues i think a 16 year old girl got raped. Some would find that behavior ok and some would not. 50 or so years ago it was ok because you were not likely to live that long anyway.

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RE: BDSM sick? - 8/18/2008 6:11:03 PM

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In my opinion BDSM is what it is. I don't really try to define it or rationalize it. I do have to agree with those of you who wrote about the chat rooms. They can be very misleading and hard to work around when there seems to be so many undue protocalls ect. And just as a side note, one of the reasons why I'm so skeptical about much of this lifestyle is because of examples like Doves. What happens when that one person ruins it all for you? I don't know... It's a lot to think about.

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RE: BDSM sick? - 8/18/2008 6:20:17 PM

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To most of the so called world what we do is considered sick, twisted , evil ect. but to those of that life this life day to day it becomes the norm .if you called me sick or twisted I would take it as a compliment , not that I am trying to be either but I know I do not live my life as " most" of the world does .the ones who tell us how we are supose to be , how we are supose to live are the ones that will use the word "sick" in a deragatory manner , but for those of us who live it it's just another day in paradice

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RE: BDSM sick? - 8/18/2008 6:34:22 PM

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I AM a sick bastard by the parlance of common society.

I'm a sadist,who enjoys inflicting suffering. Who tormented small animals for fun as a child.

What's more, it makes me excessively happy that what I am is frowned upon. And that there are equally sick bitches who will beg for what I have to dish out.

People have these impulses in them naturally-the only real difference between them and me-is that I have found ways to vent them productively.

There is no dark and light in me.

Only a shading to black.

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RE: BDSM sick? - 8/18/2008 6:57:36 PM

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There is no such thing as normal. If there was a modern day version of the Cleaver's living next door to you, don't tell me you wouldn't wonder just what June was on. Normal is like beauty- it's all in the eye of the beholder. I've had a couple of vanilla friends make some remark about how the fact I wear a collar 24/7 isn't normal- it's so easy to tear down their accusations when I take their lives and compare it to what they are using as an example of 'normal'. There is what works for you, and what doesn't. Unfortunately it will just take time for society to catch up and I doubt that will happen any time soon. My grandmother was considered scandalous for getting a divorce from her abusive husband before World War 2, my parents were terrified I might be gay because a few of my closest friends were, there's always something for society to label as 'abnormal' because the masses are scared.
I use terms like 'freak', 'healthy bitch', 'crazy', whatever, all the time because I'm comfortable with myself and don't have any problem with using the terms others would use as slander in a joking manner. They don't offend me so I'm not afraid to use them. I don't believe it will scare any one off, and I don't believe using those terms some how make me less of a good person, I just rather laugh at what others would try to use to hurt me- for me it takes the sting out of the words and makes them powerless to affect me.

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