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So..the chastity - 8/13/2008 7:19:27 AM   
Summo


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Status: offline 		So..this woman was really upset when I explained her that chastity distroys my sex drive.

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RE: So..the chastity - 8/13/2008 7:23:14 AM   
Summo


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Status: offline 		So..this chastity woman just loved to lock me like a dog.
The problem is my balls are born free,not to be locked.
So SHE abandoned 1 million dollars(I was offering) ..just for the pleasure to make me from a man..a non-man.
Gods bless their determination,for that was my hard limit.
Amazingly..people think a slave should have no limits...
I have many.
That was one of them.


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RE: So..the chastity - 8/13/2008 7:24:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		I wouldn't get upset -- but I would certainly tell you that you're not a good fit for our household. Perhaps you should seek out a relationship that doesn't include chastity.

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RE: So..the chastity - 8/13/2008 7:28:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		That sounds more like she had priorities. You have a limit that she didnt care for, and so she decided the enjoyment of the interaction was more important than the money.
Slaves can have limits, and you kept yours and she didnt bother with you.
I have certain things I will nt give up, no matter what, just to take on a boy. It woudnt matter to me how much money you offered, if you tld me I could not do my favorite things becasue they were your limits I would not be interested. Not everyone is more interested in money than they are in happiness.
If she is the dominant and gives up what she enjoys to get your money and play with you the way you want her to, even if she doesnt enjoy it... doesnt that make YOU the dominant party in the relationship then?

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RE: So..the chastity - 8/13/2008 7:37:41 AM   
DominaYork


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Status: offline 		Oh great now I have the stupid Born Free song stuck in my head.

Was there a question in the post or no?

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RE: So..the chastity - 8/13/2008 7:45:58 AM   
Venatrix


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Oh great now I have the stupid Born Free song stuck in my head.

Was there a question in the post or no?


My guess is either a troll or the beginnings of wank fodder.  But then, I can be a bit cynical on occasion.

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RE: So..the chastity - 8/13/2008 7:48:39 AM   
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RE: So..the chastity - 8/13/2008 8:08:21 AM   
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my balls are born free


I wish I could say that!


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RE: So..the chastity - 8/13/2008 8:09:37 AM   
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RE: So..the chastity - 8/13/2008 9:45:23 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		God, and all that money... I could have smashed a chastity for a million! 

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RE: So..the chastity - 8/13/2008 10:12:09 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Summo

So..this woman was really upset when I explained her that chastity distroys my sex drive.




You aren't unique in that.

I have a gay male friend whose master so limited his orgasm that after a few months he just frankly didn't get turned on at all any more. Then his master complained and took him to a doctor. The doctor told him basically that it isn't uncommon for sex drive to decrease with lack of sexual arousal or orgasm for both physical and emotional reasons.

I've never understood the entire "chastity" fetish or approach which is primarily used to mean denial not really chastity which is more legal or correct sexuality.

I think having a partner who is turned on by me or being with me is cool and I want to control when and how that is expressed but denial seems like a one-trick method to me but that's just me and mine, not anyone else's approach or understanding.


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RE: So..the chastity - 8/13/2008 10:59:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		I get the chastity thing all the time because of my nick.  I love locks, but a chastity isn't my thing.  I've been some form of locket since day one of my online experience.  Came from something far different. lol  There might be a time when I might use a chastity, but it would be rare and only for a time of awareness or focus. (Less than a week and never very often!)  I wouldn't like my submissive bound all the time, where my fun was diminished!

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RE: So..the chastity - 8/13/2008 1:24:33 PM   
Twicehappy2x


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ORIGINAL: gypsygrl

quote:

my balls are born free


I wish I could say that!


Ummmm....if you have balls, born free or in chastity, i think we need to have a serious talk!
 
LMMFAO!

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RE: So..the chastity - 8/13/2008 1:37:36 PM   
CallaFirestormBW


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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I get the chastity thing all the time because of my nick.  I love locks, but a chastity isn't my thing.  I've been some form of locket since day one of my online experience.  Came from something far different. lol  There might be a time when I might use a chastity, but it would be rare and only for a time of awareness or focus. (Less than a week and never very often!)  I wouldn't like my submissive bound all the time, where my fun was diminished!


*nods* We use it some during the probationary period, and for someone who is into it, we might do extended -- but in general, not. (My Darling likes it as part of her bondage fetish -- so I get the lock thing.)

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RE: So..the chastity - 8/13/2008 1:41:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		I also get a lot of requests for men wanting prolonged (even forever) chastity.  They aren't for me.  I want to play with the dangly bits and chastity makes that a bit difficult, for my purposes.

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RE: So..the chastity - 8/13/2008 2:02:07 PM   
sillyslaveboy


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What's wrong about *destroying* of the sex drive? That wasn't the first drive i've ever felt in the first place.

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RE: So..the chastity - 8/13/2008 2:08:32 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		There is a lot wrong in killing the sex drive!  Emotionally, physically... just not healthy!

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RE: So..the chastity - 8/13/2008 2:14:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lockit

There is a lot wrong in killing the sex drive!  Emotionally, physically... just not healthy!


In my experience, chastity hasn't really been about killing the sex drive but denying orgasm. In the past, when involved in this sort of thing, a dominant has no problem with me being sexually stimulated, but she disallows her subject to have an orgasm, actually making the frustration even worse than before because not only are you overly excited, but you aren't allowed to have final relief. Chastity is usually enforced to keep the slave from having his own orgasm without her being the cause or the one to orchestrate it. In this aspect, it's the control that becomes the stimulation, but it's always with the struggle and desire to eventually achieve some kind of sexual release. Without that part, it just becomes asexual behavior, which is where I think people are mistaking chastity when it comes to a play activity, or even a lifestyle one.


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RE: So..the chastity - 8/13/2008 2:21:42 PM   
Allondra


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Status: offline 		The OP has a pretty marvellous profile.  I'm guessing he's just too much man for most of us to handle, never mind make him into a non-man.  

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RE: So..the chastity - 8/13/2008 2:27:12 PM   
gypsygrl


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ORIGINAL: Twicehappy2x

quote:

ORIGINAL: gypsygrl

quote:

my balls are born free


I wish I could say that!


Ummmm....if you have balls, born free or in chastity, i think we need to have a serious talk!
 
LMMFAO!


Nope, no balls on this gal. I'm officially balless. lmao

But, the thought of standing on a mountain side yelling "MY BALLS ARE BORN FREE" into the valley really tickled my fancy for a couple of minutes.

And, yeah, that song has been in my head all afternoon.


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