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NeedingMore220 -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/15/2008 10:11:21 PM)

Thanks again for sharing ...



silkncarol -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/15/2008 10:27:10 PM)

It is difficult to find a partner that plays on your level....i consider myself a sensation junky, but a Top that has played with me, or a person watching might call me a masochist.  I love all the thuddy, stingy toys and like being pushed to my limit and beyond......but i also don't want to have my tits nailed to a board, or the skin ripped off my back and salt poured into the wounds!   I am as motivated by my need to please and taking whatever my dominant wishes to give me, as i am by the sensations i'm experiencing.   I guess that's why i'm attracted to Dominants who can make a emotional connection with me, and have a sadistic streak to share with me....

hummm..... tie me up and beat me with a bunny fur flogger....now that's sadisitc!  


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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

So, you are looking for a sadist/masochist that plays at your 'extreme' levels.  But you also want them to be a kind and loving partner who takes care of  you/nurtures you/wants to spend time with  you.  Can two such seeming opposites be found in one person?  Sure...but generally, one side or the other is going to be compromised a bit. 




leakylee -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/16/2008 12:01:58 AM)

you know there are times that that "reptilian headspace" really allows and frees the ferral baser primal nature. it allows my control to slip. i know that there is someone who can handle it. who will revel in it, to a degree, and who at other times will just send you into that object state. there again it allows my mental state to go to a whole different arena, but if that reciporcating energy isnt there. it all has to stay in check.

lee



seababy -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/16/2008 1:20:53 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

Being a good sadist is not just physical..


Reading that one line gave me the most delicious scary thrill.



missturbation -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/17/2008 9:27:46 AM)

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I think I would read that as alot less condescending to masochists that do not like the same sort of play if it were worded ".....a sadist who likes the same type of play I do is hard to find." Rather than "level".

Honestly this thread was never about being good or bad. It was never about being elitist (as KoM said) and it was definately not about me being better than anyone else.
It's kinda funny in a way that i started this thread prior to this weekend. I've been away meeting a Dom and found myself absolutely begging and pleading for Him to stop two activities. In all the times i have played heavily with toys i have never begged to stop. However tied spread eagle on the bed being tickled mercilessly and then having my clit tormented lol i begged and i pleaded.
I have believed for so long that to get the release i need it needs to be really heavy shit. And for so long i have been right, i had no emotional attachment whatsoever to the people ive played with.
Now i have formed an emotional attachment to someone it seems to get me a quivering wreck is a lot easier. The sadisticness does not have to be as heavy as i thought and i love it. I'm pretty sure i'll still need / want a damn good beating every now and then but i am really content and happy at present.
I was never judging anyone for not giving recieving / beatings like i have but i was saying i needed them and finding someone to play that hard was difficult. I couldn't if i'm honest imagine finding fulfillment in anything less heavy than i've been doing. Boy was i wrong [:D]



LaTigresse -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/17/2008 10:26:52 AM)

Too cool MissT. I love hearing about creative play like that. Things that are unexpected and surprisingly wicked.

I'm glad you had a great weekend.



softness -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/17/2008 12:07:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

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I think I would read that as alot less condescending to masochists that do not like the same sort of play if it were worded ".....a sadist who likes the same type of play I do is hard to find." Rather than "level".

Honestly this thread was never about being good or bad. It was never about being elitist (as KoM said) and it was definately not about me being better than anyone else.
It's kinda funny in a way that i started this thread prior to this weekend. I've been away meeting a Dom and found myself absolutely begging and pleading for Him to stop two activities. In all the times i have played heavily with toys i have never begged to stop. However tied spread eagle on the bed being tickled mercilessly and then having my clit tormented lol i begged and i pleaded.
I have believed for so long that to get the release i need it needs to be really heavy shit. And for so long i have been right, i had no emotional attachment whatsoever to the people ive played with.
Now i have formed an emotional attachment to someone it seems to get me a quivering wreck is a lot easier. The sadisticness does not have to be as heavy as i thought and i love it. I'm pretty sure i'll still need / want a damn good beating every now and then but i am really content and happy at present.
I was never judging anyone for not giving recieving / beatings like i have but i was saying i needed them and finding someone to play that hard was difficult. I couldn't if i'm honest imagine finding fulfillment in anything less heavy than i've been doing. Boy was i wrong [:D]


*packs away the A-Frame for two .... * .. ~sigh~  ....



softness -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/17/2008 12:08:23 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

Don't tell me you girls have the hots for Hannibal Lector.  This would explain a lot of things to me.  lol


are you kidding ... he is like my all time top fictional Owner ... he only kills people who are rude to him, cras, or bad at what they do

what better incentive for good behaviour!



NeedingMore220 -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/17/2008 3:43:57 PM)

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Now i have formed an emotional attachment to someone it seems to get me a quivering wreck is a lot easier. The sadisticness does not have to be as heavy as i thought and i love it. I'm pretty sure i'll still need / want a damn good beating every now and then but i am really content and happy at present.



That's a very cool realization, Miss.  Glad you had such a great weekend!



ResidentSadist -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/17/2008 4:39:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: missturbation
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I think I would read that as alot less condescending to masochists that do not like the same sort of play if it were worded ".....a sadist who likes the same type of play I do is hard to find." Rather than "level".

Honestly this thread was never about being good or bad. It was never about being elitist (as KoM said) and it was definately not about me being better than anyone else.

…I couldn't if i'm honest imagine finding fulfillment in anything less heavy than i've been doing. Boy was i wrong

You hang in there baby girl… don’t you dare apologize for being who you are anymore than a tamer player should for who they are.  When we gotta’ quibble or apologize about the word "level"or seeking our own levels… then the world has gotten too politically correct to speak in and we might as well start U/using S/slashy type so W/we don’t offend A/anyone. 

Although the point about “same type of play” verse “same level” is correct, who gives a fuck?  The only oversensitive idiots you will offend are the damn banner wavers, guppies who are bleeding all over the place and the not-so-subbies that will get all competitive and domineering with their corrective replies all of a sudden. 

Unless you are a community leader, This aint PBS, you don't need a PSA (by Herlord)



missturbation -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/17/2008 4:49:04 PM)

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packs away the A-Frame for two .... * .. ~sigh~  ..


No way !!
[:o]



missturbation -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/17/2008 4:52:30 PM)

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You hang in there baby girl… don’t you dare apologize for being who you are anymore than a tamer player should for who they are.  When we gotta’ quibble or apologize about the word "level"or seeking our own levels… then the world has gotten too politically correct to speak in and we might as well start U/using S/slashy type so W/we don’t offend A/anyone. 

I just don't like to think i have offended anyone with a bad choice of words. [:D]
I'm not apologising for who i am, i pretty much like 'me' nowadays lol.
Thank you [:)]



Nitefalls1000 -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/17/2008 5:20:05 PM)

I can be VERY sadistic but I am always afraid I will reach a point where I wont able to turn it off.. I have left a couple women looking like a train wreck. AFTER they signed a consent release... I dont think I would like Prison



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