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missturbation -> A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/14/2008 9:38:51 AM)
Several times i have read threads where people talk about how hard it is to find a good Dom / Domme / sub / slave. I totally agree that the search for the right partner can be extremely hard and soul wrenching at times. What then though if you add in that you are looking for an extreme sadist / masochist too? Hard enough to find someone compatible with you without adding they need to be sub / Dom, and then putting an extra want / need in that they need to be sadistic /masochistic too!! I was reading a thread today about can a sadist change his spots and my gut reaction was 'hey if you are not masochistic leave the sadistic ones alone so we masochists can find them.' This lead to discussion with a friend who agrees with me, a really good sadist is hard to find. We both are fairly well travelled and known on the scene and between us we only know about five what we would class as truly sadistic Dom's / Domme's. When i say sadistic i am talking about people who would for example openly admit they at times want to kill you and it is a fine line they walk with you. Make you nail your own breasts to a board. Do eel play and state that if you die of peritonitus on your head be it. Stab you, duck you, double flogger you with blows that would send you flying across the room if not restrained. Etc, etc, etc. I'm sure those sadists and masochists who frequent the boards can come up with other examples, harsher ones, but hey i'm trying to save this from becoming a flame of 'misst you are one sick cookie'. So very tongue in cheek i say stop whinging that you can't find a good Dom / Domme / sub / slave and start considering those of us who must have that extra sadisitic or masochistic element too. [:D] Might i add here yes i am whinging and i'm very sure i'm also spelling masochistic wrong !! [:@] Edited to add - i can't spell the eel infection either and frankly i couldn't be arsed getting my dictionary out [:D]

IvyMorgan -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/14/2008 9:48:08 AM)
Starts counting I'm at 7. Consensaul. 5 of whom I've played with, 2 of whom I've not. Of the 5. 2 are pros 1 refuses to let go, despite prompting (so perhaps I'm more hoping here) 1 isn't a dominant (might be a sub, I'm really not sure) 1 is a switch 4 are men 1 is trans (this statistic is skewed by the fact that playing with women scares me silly) I agree though, they're a rare breed. I find a lot of people say their sadistic, and then wimp out on me. This experience comes from being the resident sub in a club for a good few months. You can tell when the heart isn't in it, and they're doing it to please you. I also used to wonder "why bother", but then, I had to think of something when that was happening, and "did I leave the oven on" is only good for about five minutes of thought time.

eyesopened -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/14/2008 10:01:19 AM)
But what about the extreme Sadist who doesn't particulary want an extreme masochist, or a masochist at all? I'm not a masochist in the leaste and am incapable of sub-space. I'm exactly what my Sadistic Master was seeking. Had I taken your advice, we'd still be apart seeking each other.

Leatherist -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/14/2008 10:04:32 AM)
Being a good sadist is not just physical..

missturbation -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/14/2008 10:04:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: eyesopened But what about the extreme Sadist who doesn't particulary want an extreme masochist, or a masochist at all? I'm not a masochist in the leaste and am incapable of sub-space. I'm exactly what my Sadistic Master was seeking. Had I taken your advice, we'd still be apart seeking each other. Then that's just fine. He wouldn't be compatible with me anyway. I'm speaking of extreme sadists who want extreme masochists. The girl in the other thread was asking if he could change his spots, she wasn't saying he was looking for a non masochist. If he was there would be no issue anyway.

missturbation -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/14/2008 10:07:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Leatherist Being a good sadist is not just physical.. I know, i know. I was just using physical examples so everyone could relate to the kind of level of sadisticness i was talking about. Is sadisticness even a word? Anyway i digress.

missturbation -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/14/2008 10:08:52 AM)
quote: I find a lot of people say their sadistic, and then wimp out on me. I get a lot of this. Talking to someone who claims to be highly sadistic then we get to talking about some of the scenes i've done and their faces just pale or go green [:'(] edited for bad spelling again. Also to digress i thought i had eye cheese in my pic then but turns out it was a bit of dirt lol.

softness -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/14/2008 10:09:42 AM)
levels of Sadism dear *rolls eyes and passes her a brew ... she is all of a titter because of some non-consensual head board play!

missturbation -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/14/2008 10:12:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: softness levels of Sadism dear rolls eyes and passes her a brew ... she is all of a titter because of some non-consensual head board play! Lol [:D]* Prey tell she ra how easy do you find it to find someone to play as sadistically as you wish to? Ha got ya now [;)]

leakylee -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/14/2008 10:12:44 AM)
that makes it even more difficult when you jump beyond the physical and you crave the mental and emotional massochism. every layer and every thing that is added seems to narrow the pond.

Leatherist -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/14/2008 10:14:50 AM)
In a world where I can end up in jail for going too far with the wrong one-my levels of sadism are distinctly linked to how much I trust the bottom can absorb. So it goes both ways.

missturbation -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/14/2008 10:18:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: leakylee that makes it even more difficult when you jump beyond the physical and you crave the mental and emotional massochism. every layer and every thing that is added seems to narrow the pond. Yep and i want it all god damn it *stamps foot*

missturbation -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/14/2008 10:19:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Leatherist In a world where I can end up in jail for going too far with the wrong one-my levels of sadism are distinctly linked to how much I trust the bottom can absorb. So it goes both ways. Agreed. The original title was though a good sadist / masochist is hard to find. So i was including both sides. Ner [:)]

softness -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/14/2008 10:19:58 AM)
A hard Sadist is good to find ... which is why I bait the traps with bakery and laundry ... don't want them trying to escape. Though it has to be said ... am now trying to work out whether my friendship with Missturbation has just been a scam all along, keep your friends close but your enemies closer ... she is just keeping an eye on the competition! in fact ... thinking about it ... whenever I find a decent local (or even not local Sadist) ... I do all the work grooming them, and charming them ... then BAM! she's in there like a rat up a spout lfuttering her eyelashes and her no limits at them bitch ... I'm onto you!

softness -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/14/2008 10:23:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: missturbation quote: ORIGINAL: softness levels of Sadism dear rolls eyes and passes her a brew ... she is all of a titter because of some non-consensual head board play! Lol [:D]* Prey tell she ra how easy do you find it to find someone to play as sadistically as you wish to? Ha got ya now [;)] Easy ... its the name hun .... its like a honey trap for Sadists .... years ago I used to be called silkonsteel ... nothing ... fluffybunnysoft ... different kettle of fish

missturbation -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/14/2008 10:24:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: softness A hard Sadist is good to find ... which is why I bait the traps with bakery and laundry ... don't want them trying to escape. Though it has to be said ... am now trying to work out whether my friendship with Missturbation has just been a scam all along, keep your friends close but your enemies closer ... she is just keeping an eye on the competition! in fact ... thinking about it ... whenever I find a decent local (or even not local Sadist) ... I do all the work grooming them, and charming them ... then BAM! she's in there like a rat up a spout lfuttering her eyelashes and her no limits at them bitch ... I'm onto you! Damn busted !! See i don't do the bakery and laundry part [:'(] I just do the weird shit that noone else will. Not my fault if my weird shit beats your bakery and laundry [:D]

marieToo -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/14/2008 10:26:51 AM)
I've never had a problem finding good sadists. Or maybe after they hear my mouth and deal with me for a while, they just become more sadistic, I don't know.

TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/14/2008 10:27:50 AM)
Not sure if this has anything to do with the topic (in fact I am pretty sure it doesn't), but I don't consider myself much of a physical masochist (despite the mouth full of blood my one slave was spitting up last night). I much prefer to break a girl down from the inside out. Taggard

softness -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/14/2008 10:28:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: missturbation quote: ORIGINAL: softness A hard Sadist is good to find ... which is why I bait the traps with bakery and laundry ... don't want them trying to escape. Though it has to be said ... am now trying to work out whether my friendship with Missturbation has just been a scam all along, keep your friends close but your enemies closer ... she is just keeping an eye on the competition! in fact ... thinking about it ... whenever I find a decent local (or even not local Sadist) ... I do all the work grooming them, and charming them ... then BAM! she's in there like a rat up a spout lfuttering her eyelashes and her no limits at them bitch ... I'm onto you! Damn busted !! See i don't do the bakery and laundry part [:'(] I just do the weird shit that noone else will. Not my fault if my weird shit beats your bakery and laundry [:D] and so the fight of Good against Evil continues .... [sm=angel.gif] (I'm the Good if anyone was wondering ... softness remember ... angel ... fluffy ... not like her ... she's evil .... nodsnodsnodsnods) [sm=laundry.gif]

missturbation -> RE: A good sadist / masochist is hard to find.... (8/14/2008 10:34:19 AM)
We'll see who is soft and fluffy when we re chained up next to each other like a pair of rag dolls lol.

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