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RE: I Hope This Pisses You Off! - 8/20/2008 6:15:38 PM   
BossyShoeBitch


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I believe in releasing anger in healthy ways. Sometimes I will have angry sex. I can have my blood boiling and know that I have to stay away from her, but once I've cooled off and while I still have a good simmer going, I like to take her from behind, belly down, hair in hand, a good spanking with the other and a one-way discussion until I'm ready to finish. Then I jerk in her face, hair and wipe off on the sheets that she hopefully just washed. I like knowing she has some thinking to do about things while she cleans up. Even if her thoughts make her want me again. I always feel better after that. Hell, I'm calmer now just thinking about it.

Edited to add... I don't consider this punishment, it's only to make me feel better.

Dolf

Calm isn't exactly the way I would describe my mood right now after reading that...

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RE: I Hope This Pisses You Off! - 8/20/2008 6:19:52 PM   
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The only problem with that scene was that when he was done. he didn't toss her down like a used up slut!

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RE: I Hope This Pisses You Off! - 8/20/2008 6:29:32 PM   
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I find myself wanting them all the more, in many ways, mentally and emotionally and physically.  I can see myself doing what you described in  your post on that thread...pulling my submissive by the hair and stating "that is just about enough, MINE" and then looking even deeper into those eyes and, once she has acknowledged that yes, it is, taking her.


This may be me just  having another hotflash......but that's hot, CD!


Oh... I agree! 

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RE: I Hope This Pisses You Off! - 8/20/2008 6:31:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think Anger Sex is hot and wild.  Some of our best sex has been after a fight, He has bent me over, placed a smack on the backside, pulled my hair and f*cked the sh*t out of me.  But because the use of impliments requires control and acuracy, then anger can only enter the picture if it is control and focused.  Otherwise, loss of control can have catostrophic consequences.  JMHO

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RE: I Hope This Pisses You Off! - 8/20/2008 6:45:27 PM   
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RE: I Hope This Pisses You Off! - 8/20/2008 8:59:45 PM   
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What’s your opinion? Angry/fight sex is hot? Dangerous? The best way to brawl? Sick and wrong? What do you think, and why?


There is a cultural angle to this as well. In some societies women expect to see their men get angry. If he doesn't get angry, and more particularly angry at them, she'll think he doesn't love her. My slave is from one such culture. I come from a culture where anger is a form of weakness and you conceal it. She would do the darndest things to get me upset, and when I finally did get angry, she melted and said ' so you do love me.' That made her happy. Now I remember to get angry every now and again. It keeps things on an even keel.


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RE: I Hope This Pisses You Off! - 8/21/2008 4:00:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		Can't have sex when Im angry. If a woman gets me angry and then ask to have sex I give them a dildo and tell them to go fuck themselves. I do like having aggressive sex.  

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RE: I Hope This Pisses You Off! - 8/21/2008 4:25:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		Anger inspires honesty to surface. But the wise balance is that you have to be angry just enough at the right time and show it in the right way.

In D/s anger from either side is going to end with the submissive being punished anyway. Heh.

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RE: I Hope This Pisses You Off! - 8/21/2008 5:29:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yeah, the times I've had sex when I was pissed off, it was hot, and provided a outlet for the excess emotion.  I don't believe in talking when emotions are in high gear, so having sex isn't all bad in those times.  Sometimes, its the most innocuous thing to do.  Its a way of being together at a time when it may well be a good idea to be together, if that makes sense.  The trouble comes in when sex is used to avoid the deeper issues.  Or, pissed off passion is the only passion in the relationship.

Its especially good when I'm pissed off about something that has nothing to do with the relationship.  Of course, there's little danger of me actually hurting someone in anger.

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RE: I Hope This Pisses You Off! - 8/21/2008 6:30:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch

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That said, I am sure there are a few times in my life if I had just thrown the fucking bitch down, ripped her pants off, tore off her panties, shoved them in her mouthh so I didn't have to listen to her scream and just fucked the living shit out of her till we both collapsed in exhaustion things might have worked out better.  Either that or I would have been fending off "bubba" at the local jail who was looking at me and thinking the same thing...



~gulp~ It's worth a shot, yes? Besides, how can she dial 9-1-1 if she's floating 3 feet above the bed???

subtee,
You and I think very much alike!..I used to pick fights all the time in past relationships just to provoke angry sex...
That being said, sometimes even the hottest angry sex, or the most sincere apology can't erase the memory of hurtful words spat out in anger. One should be very careful when hurling those particular projectiles. Sometimes when you hit your target, you leave no trace of what once was...


It seems that subtee, you, Michael, myself and several others think very much alike.  And now, you bring up a point that adds a rather interesting "control" twist to the anger expression issue.  Stating what you are angry about, making sure you are clear and YET, remembering the rules you've negotiated with each other and not calling each other names that come from anger rather than the passion/desire you feel for each other...even when angry.  The strength and control needed while letting loose to be able to not just say "That is ENOUGH, Mine" but to wrap your fingers in her hair tightly, with the fingertips pressed strongly and firmly against the neck without harming it and and say something controlled and controlling such as "I have had it with your zings and/or your disagreeable ways, My smart-mouth/smart-ass/contrary/stubborn/insert-your-clear-problem-here statement bitchgirl.  That is ENOUGH", Mine.  Do you REALLY want to push this any further?".  And as I stated before, once she has looked into your eyes and seen that you mean EXACTLY what you have said and acknowledged that indeed it is and no, she does not wish to push it further...to just take her.  And take every...single...hole she has to remind her and you that she does indeed belong to you and that your say is, as it should be in the dynamic, final.

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RE: I Hope This Pisses You Off! - 8/21/2008 6:32:59 AM   
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RE: I Hope This Pisses You Off! - 8/21/2008 7:06:20 AM   
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Inspired by the recent threads regarding temper and anger, I offer the following:
 
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I may have been one of just a couple of posters on either thread who thinks anger/temper is okay. Many suggested it’s okay as long as it’s controlled. I understand that sentiment, which is why I have never hit my kids, but I also argue that the release of anger is as important and can be stimulating…leading to a mutually beneficial (~cough~) “outcome.” Does expressing anger, releasing temper necessarily mean a loss of control?
 
What’s your opinion? Angry/fight sex is hot? Dangerous? The best way to brawl? Sick and wrong? What do you think, and why?


Anger is OK?  Just OK?  Anger is HOT.  Anger in S&M takes it right to the moment.  I present on employing anger in S&M frequently.  I channel something that pissed me off to which I couldn't respond and then focus it on my bottom.  And if the bottom is a fear junkie, that's one hell of a ride.

'Cause when I'm torqued, and I have that look in my eye, and I'm holding a knife to her eye and tell her if she f**kin' moves I'm gonna kill her...

What a rush!

D., donning the asbestos...

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RE: I Hope This Pisses You Off! - 8/21/2008 7:09:23 AM   
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The example i used on another post is able bodied people who park in handicapped spaces.


To put it as gently as I can, these are some of the most suckheaded assholes in the world.


Yeah, but do you get just as pissed when someone with a handicapped mirror hanger is parked in a non-handicapped spot when there are plenty of handicapped spots available?  Happens a lot around these parts.

Dammit, if you find the non-handicapped spot more convenient, at least have the decency to take the hanger off your rear view mirror!

D.

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RE: I Hope This Pisses You Off! - 8/21/2008 7:22:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		I never play when I'm angry... as a Dom I feel my responsibility to my sub very deeply and a MAJOR part of that responsibility is to ensure her safety, when you are angry your judgement can easily become clouded and then you are in no position to ensure her safety, especially if she is the source of your anger.

However anger is an intoxicating emotion and as such can be very powerful and does need a safe outlet

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RE: I Hope This Pisses You Off! - 8/21/2008 7:56:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: subtee

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I find myself wanting them all the more, in many ways, mentally and emotionally and physically.  I can see myself doing what you described in  your post on that thread...pulling my submissive by the hair and stating "that is just about enough, MINE" and then looking even deeper into those eyes and, once she has acknowledged that yes, it is, taking her.


This may be me just  having another hotflash......but that's hot, CD!

Hot yes...this is what I'm saying.



Glad you agree with me. 

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RE: I Hope This Pisses You Off! - 8/21/2008 8:37:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		i think it all depends on the degree of anger you feel and what the issue is, and how you handled anger growing up.  When i get angry i don't want to be touched... so sex would be very difficult.  i can be very easygoing but once i get angry it is very difficult for me to come down from it.  It doesn't put me in a good headspace.   This is when i need to just walk away or i may say or do something i will regret.  i don't like getting that angry because i don't like my emotions to be in control of me, which they are if i allow myself to become extremely angry.  

When i see anger in others i get this thought that i should do something to help, sometimes i even feel guilty, an emotion that comes up which i know is totally irrational.  Growing up i lived with a mom who was in perpetual anger and looked for the slightest excuse to take it out on me, whenever the opportuinty presented itself.  i survived by trying to be as invisible as i could and shutting down when i couldn't avoid her emotional assaults.  i always felt guilty for her unhappiness.  i wanted to fix things.  That was the child, as an adult i can understand it from a different persepctive but there will always be the scared little girl who just wants to fix things when people around me get angry. 

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RE: I Hope This Pisses You Off! - 8/21/2008 9:01:33 AM   
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i think it all depends on the degree of anger you feel and what the issue is, and how you handled anger growing up. 


Yes, I agree it seems that the extreme traumatic and pleasurable experiences that trigger emotions when I was younger are still stifled in my feelings associated with the age it occurred.  Though I may be able to rationalize or handle things with an adult retrospective........my feelings associated with that experience partly remain at my age of the experience.  It is difficult for me to explain in text format or without going into too much detail. 

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RE: I Hope This Pisses You Off! - 8/21/2008 10:28:43 AM   
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Inspired by the recent threads regarding temper and anger, I offer the following:
 
“9½Weeks”
Kim Basinger & Mickey Rourke
 
“The Postman Always Rings Twice”
Jack Nicholson & Jessica Lange
 
“Mr. & Mrs. Smith”
Angelina Jolie & Brad Pitt
 
“A History of Violence”
Viggo Mortensen & Maria Bello
 
 
I may have been one of just a couple of posters on either thread who thinks anger/temper is okay. Many suggested it’s okay as long as it’s controlled. I understand that sentiment, which is why I have never hit my kids, but I also argue that the release of anger is as important and can be stimulating…leading to a mutually beneficial (~cough~) “outcome.” Does expressing anger, releasing temper necessarily mean a loss of control?
 
What’s your opinion? Angry/fight sex is hot? Dangerous? The best way to brawl? Sick and wrong? What do you think, and why?


Depends on if it's cold anger or hot.

And how it's controlled and directed.

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