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crimsontied4u -> What would you do? (11/22/2005 1:09:20 PM)
What would be your response toward a possible sub if he/she quit responding,either online or by phone,like they totally went poof?

Chaingang -> RE: What would you do? (11/22/2005 1:15:00 PM)
To forget about it. Life is short. Edited bit: I consider my time precious, and I don't easily suffer fools and wannabes. If a sub wants my attention she has to do generally as expected or I will blow her off. If she somehow fails to perform a thing I may have commanded, she gets blown off. My time, my attention is a reward. When I discover that people are not what they seem, they get blown off. If you are very busy chasing after her beyond an initial contact, she has you by the balls - so to speak. She may know this and use it against you. If it's true, you are an idiot that has allowed the mouse to get over on the cat. You are playing the game of "You chase me." BTW, I am not telling you to play games. I am advising you to adopt a posture in advance of game playing. If the sub shows up again and gives you some plausible explanation and you feel inclined to accept her reasons, point her here and show her you were advised to demand proof beyond her say so. Lots of people are idiot attention seekers and drama queens, best to find out now. Part of my interest in SM is to pare things down to the bone. I hate games and bullshit and I vastly prefer honesty and open exchanges. The other night my "former" reminded me of something she had been doing while we were still together and what the result was - her "instant karma," if you will. Her crime? She had been snagging money out of my wallet. I noticed, I asked her not to do it again without asking me first. She was on her way out one day with her ill gotten booty when she must have dropped it by the front door. I noticed it on my way out - bills laying on the floor with the cat standing nearby looking at them. So I rang her up and laughed at her, "You dope! You tried to steal from me again and I found the money by the front door just now. Have a good lunch..." Of course, I knew she was having jack and shit for lunch because she was always overspending and living too close to the bone in terms of her own means. On the way home that night her car caught on fire under the hood and burned up as a total loss. She tells me that she thinks of these events as interrelated. True or not, the equation in her own mind is as it should be. I love that story. That is funny shit. Of course it would be less funny had she been injured in any way, but she wasn't. So it's hilarious instead.

fyreredsub -> RE: What would you do? (11/22/2005 1:18:28 PM)
i would take it they weren't interested any more barring any kind of phenominal emergency having occurred.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What would you do? (11/22/2005 1:24:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Chaingang To forget about it. Life is short. Yup.

Nightguy -> RE: What would you do? (11/22/2005 1:28:39 PM)
Oh gee...like that hasn't happened to most of us at one time or another. What can you do, nothing really. It's a fact of life here online that people can come and go in your life in the blink of an eye. You just have to move on and treasure the relationships you still have.

fastlane -> RE: What would you do? (11/22/2005 1:29:29 PM)
I would think that the law had finally caught up with them......Damn the luck!

FangsNfeet -> RE: What would you do? (11/22/2005 1:36:08 PM)
I'd reel up my rod and start casting in another direction. There are plenty more fish out there.

IrishMist -> RE: What would you do? (11/22/2005 2:06:47 PM)
I would just forget about it and move on. It's really not worth the aggravation of worrying about :)

RexLongBeach -> RE: What would you do? (11/22/2005 2:27:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crimsontied4u What would be your response toward a possible sub if he/she quit responding,either online or by phone,like they totally went poof? I'd admit to myself that I'd wasted time, once again, with an internet phony or flake. Fortunately, it doesn't happen to me as often as it used to. Yours in the new world, Rex

Marquisd -> RE: What would you do? (11/22/2005 3:19:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crimsontied4u What would be your response toward a possible sub if he/she quit responding,either online or by phone,like they totally went poof? There is always a million available answers to a question that you are asking yourself. I would send an e-mail inquiring about the persons well being....maybe they are sick....had an accident (happened to someone I know that got hit by a car and wasn't around for a month) and see if somethiing comes of it. Or I call and leave a message if I can and have the phone number. They come back at their time...............perhaps they are grieving a loss.............I alwas tend to be patient with these things rather than making an assumption about something I have not the faintest idea about. In time all puzzles will get solved. cheers Marquisd

obis -> RE: What would you do? (11/22/2005 3:56:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crimsontied4u What would be your response toward a possible sub if he/she quit responding,either online or by phone,like they totally went poof? I would think the better question is, what "responses" do you have to chose from? If they're not responding, then by definition nothing you do will make any difference.

sweetpettjenny -> RE: What would you do? (11/22/2005 4:20:39 PM)
id say...oh well and move on

Aileen68 -> RE: What would you do? (11/22/2005 4:24:56 PM)
I'd run to the message boards and start a new thread on it. :)

fastlane -> RE: What would you do? (11/22/2005 4:48:28 PM)
O.K. begin the new thread......MS. De Ja Vue.....all over again[;)]

topcat -> RE: What would you do? (11/22/2005 5:42:20 PM)
quote: What would be your response toward a possible sub if he/she quit responding,either online or by phone,like they totally went poof? M.Tied- As most of the above said, I'd move on to the next prospect... On the Other Hand... I would bear in mind that there may be some sort of reasonable explaination behind it... Stay Warm, Lawrence

IronBear -> RE: What would you do? (11/22/2005 5:53:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crimsontied4u What would be your response toward a possible sub if he/she quit responding,either online or by phone,like they totally went poof? Change your brand of "Pixie Powder", or "Fairy Poof Powder". I reccoment that you switch to Flue Powder (refer to ther Weaslies for this as they seem to have perfected it). Then Mon ami, move on and just add it to yiour learning curve. If that is the worst which happens to you, be thankfull. I.E. Take a deep breath and E.N.J.O.Y......... Life is pretty bloody good.

Misstoyou -> RE: What would you do? (11/22/2005 7:49:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: topcat As most of the above said, I'd move on to the next prospect... On the Other Hand... I would bear in mind that there may be some sort of reasonable explaination behind it... What he said. It is possible to do both, to keep going forward in your life without poisoning how you feel about the other person with bitterness about the perceived abandonment... just in case you later discover there was a reasonable explaination. That being said, it's easier said than done. [&:]

Sensualips -> RE: What would you do? (11/22/2005 8:34:03 PM)
I would assume he/she perished in a horrific accident, and send flowers.

IrishMist -> RE: What would you do? (11/22/2005 9:12:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sensualips I would assume he/she perished in a horrific accident, and send flowers. LMFAO

AkaMystery -> RE: What would you do? (11/22/2005 9:24:48 PM)
This happened to me recently, about 4 months ago. WE knew each other r/t and talked almost every day for 3 years. Atr the time she had even told she was in the process of moving two states from home to take a job here and be local to me. The home phone was disconnected during the move process, that meant no more email as well then the cell phone was disconnected (I knew better, the # was just changed). I digress though. I thought about it for a few weeks and found that it didn't bother me as much as it should have. I thought back to some of our earlier talks and it came to me this is just how this person handles these situations. The hardest part in all honesty was all the doubts that had risen. What else had she lied about? There are some other things I wont bring up here that I had learned about a year earlier too that only added to the whole situation. Your question was "What would you do?" I forgave her and do my best to wish her all the best and hope she's happy. I can't tell her that obviously but I send it out there as best I can. Beyond that, live life as best as one can and not dwell. Apparently this is a behavior pattern we can't do anything about so there's little use in worrying or wondering what ifs. Hope that helps a bit and eases some anguish you might be dealing with.

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