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heartfeltsub -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:28:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Pyrrsefanie quote: ORIGINAL: heartfeltsub i really should check your profile to see how old you are, etc, but as i've been to lazy to do that SUPPOSEDLY a 36-year-old male according to his profile. Watch out, ladies! [8\|] i finally got unlazy enough to go check, but thanks for the warning (grinning)

Pyrrsefanie -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:29:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Draythos Its not just me, I've seen others in chatrooms go through the same thing. I'm speaking for all them. This is completely noble and in no way obnoxious and I'm sure everyone else feels the same way as you do, that's why they're not chiming in. Also, the bitch had it coming.

mistoferin -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:29:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Draythos By bitchy I mean she continuosly challenged me, she was greedy, always wanted more than I could give her. So the answer to that was to be abusive? Yeah I know...it was her fault...she pushed your buttons. quote: Respect is earned, NOT given. You treat me with respct and I'll do the same. You should probably read that....over....and over....and over....

sirsholly -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:30:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: heartfeltsub i really should check your profile to see how old you are he is 36 and new to the lifestyle...but he reads alot.

Lynnxz -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:31:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Draythos By bitchy I mean she continuosly challenged me, she was greedy, always wanted more than I could give her. The separation was agreed upon mutually. I don't demand respect, I ask for it. NO! I didn't demand anything. I was making a point about how experiened players force their "I know everything" way of thinking on others. Respect is earned, NOT given. You treat me with respct and I'll do the same. Shrug I have this bad habit of not respecting people who make excuses for hitting others out of anger.

VirginPotty -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:32:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Draythos By bitchy I mean she continuosly challenged me, she was greedy, always wanted more than I could give her. The separation was agreed upon mutually. I don't demand respect, I ask for it. Well, why didn't you SAY SO??? Our own beloved Greedy wouldn't put up w/that anymore than anyone of us would! Get over it............move on.[sm=2cents.gif]

heartfeltsub -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:32:05 AM)
In case you actually do want to learn, you are not too far from the Winston-Salem area that has some real time groups that you might enjoy. There could then be face to face communication and no more chat rooms.

Pyrrsefanie -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:32:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: heartfeltsub In case you actually do want to learn, you are not too far from the Winston-Salem area that has some real time groups that you might enjoy. There could then be face to face communication and no more chat rooms. Yeah, I can see that... "My name is Draythor and I had this sub this one time that pissed me off so I punched her and then people got mad at me for it :( I'M SO GLAD YOU GUYS UNDERSTAND"

heartfeltsub -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:37:53 AM)
You also might want to check out this thread http://www.collarchat.com/m_2082967/tm.htm . A lot of people, not all, but quite a lot hold the D-types or those who claim to be D-types to a much higher standard of control and behavior than the s-types, especilly other D-types. That is part of what you might be experiencing.

beargonewild -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:40:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Draythos I don't demand respect, I ask for it. Seems to me, this is the crux right here. You admit to hitting your slave out of anger and yet ask for respect? I'm sorry but how are people supposed to offer you respect when your moment of anger caused you to strike out at another, even if she is your slave. Most of us are able to distinguish between consensual hitting and abusive hitting. Fully see that a person who identifies as slave aren't totally compliant and have their individual quirks, temperament, faults and opinions. That is what you have to work with and with her input may help you mold her into a slave which is more to yours and her liking. quote: NO! I didn't demand anything. I was making a point about how experienced players force their "I know everything" way of thinking on others. Maybe try to look at this from the other side of the coin. These experienced people are simply offering their own experiences as an example to us less experienced in order that we do not make their mistakes. Most often I will see their advice as their way of leading by their own example, whether it's a good thing or a negative experience with the hopes that when and if I encounter the same situation, I will recall X stating what happened to them and learn from what they went through. Don't look at them as being know-it-alls but people who may be trying to make our path a little bit easier then their's was.

impishlilhellcat -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:41:07 AM)
You aren't going to like my response and I don't know you, but my perception of you is that you are a very angry person. Your posts come across as angry and arrogant. The fact that you hit someone in anger is never a good trait in a Dominant. If you are still learning being humble and willing to accept or at least swallow the advice others send your way s a good way to start. In order to learn one must first listen until you do so you will continue to make the same mistakes over and over. Maybe those people were just trying to help you, but I suspect you got a lecture because in a community that gets so much crap for the activities they engage in and get called abusers someone who actually does hit in anger does nothing to further the cause of the BDSM community nor in the quest to prove that, that is not what this lifestyle is about. JMHO

LaTigresse -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:42:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Draythos Last night I admitted to hitting a slave out of anger. I told the situation which is as follows. She was a bitchy bottom, I told her I would not tolerate it, we singed a playlist stating that she would not do it but, she did it anyway so, I felt disrespected and lost my cool and punched her ass (literally). We appolagized to each other, her for doing what she contracted Not to do and me for hitting her. We haven't played together sense (it's been over a year). One of the more "experienced" Tops and an "exprienced" bottom gave me a 30 minute lecture because of it. If I wanted a good lecture, I would have gone to Harvard. OK, you "experienced" players my know more than some of the others but, you don't know everything and that does NOT give you the right to badger, patrinize and /or challenge (that's what made me her) others that are not as "experiencd" as you. I'm sure you've made mistakes, too. So, make your comments short, sweet and to the point. Sooooooooo, being the little masochist and attention hoe that you are.......you didn't get enough in the chatrooms so came here and created a thread for more. Bend over.

heartfeltsub -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:44:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse quote: ORIGINAL: Draythos Last night I admitted to hitting a slave out of anger. I told the situation which is as follows. She was a bitchy bottom, I told her I would not tolerate it, we singed a playlist stating that she would not do it but, she did it anyway so, I felt disrespected and lost my cool and punched her ass (literally). We appolagized to each other, her for doing what she contracted Not to do and me for hitting her. We haven't played together sense (it's been over a year). One of the more "experienced" Tops and an "exprienced" bottom gave me a 30 minute lecture because of it. If I wanted a good lecture, I would have gone to Harvard. OK, you "experienced" players my know more than some of the others but, you don't know everything and that does NOT give you the right to badger, patrinize and /or challenge (that's what made me her) others that are not as "experiencd" as you. I'm sure you've made mistakes, too. So, make your comments short, sweet and to the point. Sooooooooo, being the little masochist and attention hoe that you are.......you didn't get enough in the chatrooms so came here and created a thread for more. Bend over. Great response

mistoferin -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:48:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: heartfeltsub quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse quote: ORIGINAL: Draythos Last night I admitted to hitting a slave out of anger. I told the situation which is as follows. She was a bitchy bottom, I told her I would not tolerate it, we singed a playlist stating that she would not do it but, she did it anyway so, I felt disrespected and lost my cool and punched her ass (literally). We appolagized to each other, her for doing what she contracted Not to do and me for hitting her. We haven't played together sense (it's been over a year). One of the more "experienced" Tops and an "exprienced" bottom gave me a 30 minute lecture because of it. If I wanted a good lecture, I would have gone to Harvard. OK, you "experienced" players my know more than some of the others but, you don't know everything and that does NOT give you the right to badger, patrinize and /or challenge (that's what made me her) others that are not as "experiencd" as you. I'm sure you've made mistakes, too. So, make your comments short, sweet and to the point. Sooooooooo, being the little masochist and attention hoe that you are.......you didn't get enough in the chatrooms so came here and created a thread for more. Bend over. Great response I agree. Wonder where he is going to go next to get attention because we were all mean to him too?

GreedyTop -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:56:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VirginPotty quote: ORIGINAL: Draythos By bitchy I mean she continuosly challenged me, she was greedy, always wanted more than I could give her. The separation was agreed upon mutually. I don't demand respect, I ask for it. Well, why didn't you SAY SO??? Our own beloved Greedy wouldn't put up w/that anymore than anyone of us would! Get over it............move on.[sm=2cents.gif] HAH! if it had been me he'd punched, the rest of the story would have been "then she turned around and decked me"

sirsholly -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 6:57:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GreedyTop quote: ORIGINAL: VirginPotty quote: ORIGINAL: Draythos By bitchy I mean she continuosly challenged me, she was greedy, always wanted more than I could give her. The separation was agreed upon mutually. I don't demand respect, I ask for it. Well, why didn't you SAY SO??? Our own beloved Greedy wouldn't put up w/that anymore than anyone of us would! Get over it............move on.[sm=2cents.gif] HAH! if it had been me he'd punched, the rest of the story would have been "then she turned around and decked me" think of all the money he'd save on toothpaste!

thishereboi -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 7:04:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Draythos I haven't done that in 2 years, now, I tell them to pack their shit and leave. Do you tell them this because it's their fault you can't control yourself or do you tell them this because you want to protect them from yourself? As to your OP - Sorry son but that is life. You went into a chat room and told a bunch of strangers that you punched a women and now you are surprised they didn't pat you on the back and tell you what a good boy you were. If you tell a group of people you did something wrong. There is a really good chance they are going to tell you why you were wrong. If you have a problem with that then leave the chat room. Not sure what you thought you would get when you posted here, but my guess is, it will be more of the same. Your going to be hard pressed to find a group of people who are going to tell you it was all her fault and your just a poor victim. Edited to ask - In the OP you state "We haven't played together sense (it's been over a year). " but here you say 2 years....which is it?

VirginPotty -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 7:10:38 AM)
quote: think of all the money he'd save on toothpaste! [image]http://www.collarme.com/htmlarea/smileys/0057.gif[/image]

thishereboi -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 7:11:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Draythos By bitchy I mean she continuosly challenged me, she was greedy, always wanted more than I could give her. The separation was agreed upon mutually. I don't demand respect, I ask for it. NO! I didn't demand anything. I was making a point about how experiened players force their "I know everything" way of thinking on others. Respect is earned, NOT given. You treat me with respct and I'll do the same. As far as I am concerned this has nothing to do with how much experience a Dom has or doesn't have. Your parents should have taught you at a young age that it is wrong to lose your temper and hit women. Obviously you missed a lesson. Good luck with it.

Lashra -> RE: What's with all of the lectures in the chat rooms? (8/21/2008 7:17:00 AM)
Everyone makes mistakes the point is LEARN from them. Striking out at someone like that is a real sign of immaturity. Perhaps you punched someone in the ass this time, what will happen the next time? Get some anger management. ~Lashra

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