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RE: name or sir - 11/23/2005 8:52:39 PM   
Sabella


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Status: offline 		By their name only. Where it gets interesting (especially online *g*) is when someone claims to be LordMasterSirDaddyGod...well in that case I can't call them ANYTHING because I refuse to call them an honorific they haven't earned in my eyes. So I don't talk to them, LOL.

Silly? yes but no sillier than the self proclaimed titles IMHO. Just not my thang.

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RE: name or sir - 11/24/2005 6:56:01 AM   
MastersBabieGirl


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From: courtice ontario
Status: offline 		in a formal setting i will call them Master/Mistress then name
or sir or madam
non formal setting their name
since they do not own me they are treated with respect unless they do something to make me disrespect them


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RE: name or sir - 11/25/2005 6:17:09 PM   
darkthunder


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Status: offline 		I come from the old school and formalities,and respect are very inportant. Your right a true Master will let you know how He won't you to call him. As for the new slaves of this time that belive that have a right to call a Master what thay choose,I would say,look around that what wrong with things today no respect for this lifestyle. I never ask to be called Master or Sir I ask to be called DT that my choice. I would call you by slavejali or slave and show respect to what you are. I may piss some off by what I have said,but so be it.

DT

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RE: name or sir - 11/25/2005 9:29:22 PM   
SeductressDolce


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Status: offline 		I will not refer to anyone with a title unless they have my respect. A friend of mine, a male Dom, is addressed by me as Sir and his first name. A local female Domme I will not call her by her title. She does not respect me, and I will not respect her. You must earn the respect to be called Miss, Ma'am, Mistress, Sir, Lord, Lady, or any other title you've chosen.


IMO.

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RE: name or sir - 11/25/2005 9:36:27 PM   
kisshou


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Status: offline 		I will address him as Master unless he specifically states that he wants to be called by his first name. If he requests use of his first name I will try to avoid having to address him at all.

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RE: name or sir - 11/26/2005 2:10:15 AM   
Maxiann


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Status: offline 		I always call him Master but sometimes if I'm talking to others I refer to him as my owner.
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RE: name or sir - 11/26/2005 4:31:03 AM   
Tapestry


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Status: offline 		In the beginning it's easier for me to say Sir,
I'm quite shy
and having to address him as anything
can be tongue tying!

And now that I've grown comfortable with my Sir, in top space I can easily call him by his first name (which was his request) as well as Sir, and Master too
but once I begin to subspace it's hard to do more than whisper "yes sir"

But with someone i'm just meeting - it depends on the context of the introduction
If at a social meeting, and they are just an acquaintence, I would expect to call them by their first name, and would allow them that right with me as well. After all, I'm not submitting to them - that's something i save for someone special, a gift for the ONE.

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RE: name or sir - 11/26/2005 4:33:20 AM   
candystripper


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Status: offline 		In email, i address Men as "Sir" mostly because i refuse to use ridiculous nicks such as "MasteroftheUniverse". If the convo reaches Yahoo IM, i ask for His first name and that's how i address Him from then on. This runs off so many men *sigh*. i don't understand what is disrespectful about using a first name.

candystripper

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RE: name or sir - 11/26/2005 7:28:22 AM   
ImpGrrl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: candystripper

i don't understand what is disrespectful about using a first name.


Nothing - it just upsets their notion of differential "respect" that they feel is "due", based on their "station".

To me - there *is* no "station". Until and unless I enter into an authority dynamic with them, they are the same "level" as I am - human. And deserving of courtesy like everyone else - but not *differential* courtesy.


Merc - if you're reading this thread, I've *got* to thank you for iSpell :)

I use "ma'am" and "sir" in social settings all the time - because I live in the South, and it's the accepted thing to do (especially in business). But I do it with everyone *equally* (which means sometimes a lot, and sometimes not at all) - I do not base it on their preferred relational role.

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RE: name or sir - 11/26/2005 7:07:30 PM   
darkthunder


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Status: offline 		As I said befor I show respect and I expect it back. I do agree if someone don't show respect then none should be given back. The respectfull way to do this is to smilply take the time to ask and you can't go wrong. A true Master never needs to demand to be called Master his actions will speck for him. I will be honest about it there not much respect given today as it use to be. To many games being played today. Putting Master or slave befor your name or calling your self don't make you one,your actions will.

DT

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RE: name or sir - 11/27/2005 7:49:47 AM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		Your question is a bit too vague, as we don't know if you refer to online or in person, I assume in person and if there is any relationship--- but a few good rules of thumb are--a title only appears when the respect is earned----or when you have acknowledged in your mind that they are indeed a Dom or a Master--or you have committed to One---now given that, I believe that the kajira trained subs address everyone with their titles--irregardless of ownership, relationship etc---

Now that raises the question of giving title honor to the friends or acquantainces of one's Master or Mistress--My sub has one Mistress--the others are on name basis only with the respect accorded another human being-- and I in turn expect the same respect for My submissive--

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RE: name or sir - 11/29/2005 6:12:03 PM   
Dracironsgirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: boym68107

just something to ask .when you met a dom do you call hem sir or call hem by his name....


hello ..i always call a Dom by the name of Sir ...it's a show of my respect to them. Sir. =)

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RE: name or sir - 11/30/2005 12:19:19 PM   
esina


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quote:

ORIGINAL: boym68107

just something to ask .when you met a dom do you call hem sir or call hem by his name....



hi there,

i find their given name works fine when you first meet, and then if ya get on and the relationship continues and progresses then between you you will find the name/s that are most appropriate for you both.
i mean when i first met my Dom i used his given name we have now progressed and i am gorgeous slut and he is handsome bastad... except when kids are around then we are more 'vanilla' with are terms for each other.

But remember its whatever you are comfortable with or if in doubt ASK!!!!

Good luck, be safe, have fun

esina xxx

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RE: name or sir - 11/30/2005 12:37:06 PM   
LilWhiteWolf


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quote:

ORIGINAL: fastlane

ummm..whatever they want to be called, but sometimes "Asshole" seems to rise to the occassion......go figure...Sir?

i see you have met some of my dates...grinning

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RE: name or sir - 11/30/2005 1:15:31 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		Just as a point of interest kajira subs(used to be one) call every Dom Master____ anf every Domme Mistress_______ it is just the way Gor is.

littleone

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RE: name or sir - 11/30/2005 1:43:21 PM   
hotchan1


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Status: offline 		my Master does not allow me to call anyone Sir. i am to call them by name. Master says that if they honestly earn my respect, then He will let me know when they will be called Sir.

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RE: name or sir - 11/30/2005 2:19:31 PM   
realophelia


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Status: offline 		I call them by their name. Though I will occasionally call someone Master or Mistress so and so, if that is generally how they are known. Ophelia

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RE: name or sir - 11/30/2005 3:14:44 PM   
GeneGG


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Status: offline 		i call him/her, sir or ma'am...out of respect...unless they lose it...

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RE: name or sir - 11/30/2005 3:36:43 PM   
LindaLashes


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Joined: 10/28/2005
Status: offline 		In public, her real name, in private, always Mistress...

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RE: name or sir - 11/30/2005 11:35:32 PM   
NakedOnMyChain


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Joined: 11/29/2004
From: Indiana
Status: offline 		I always call people by their name. It has nothing in particular to do with respect for others, it is simply that the only person who hears the words "Sir", "Master", or "My Lord" in that context are my husband. It makes it special. It is something that belongs solely to him.

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