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Lynnxz -> RE: hmmmmm (8/21/2008 7:47:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: paperdollie my shyness does not discriminate due to gender im not a group person Go with someone you know? That's what I do

TreasureKY -> RE: hmmmmm (8/21/2008 7:48:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: paperdollie what is sub frenzy? Here are a couple of links that might help you understand... Sub Frenzy Dominants...can you recognize the signs of frenzy?

paperdollie -> RE: hmmmmm (8/21/2008 7:51:35 PM)
thanks

paperdollie -> RE: hmmmmm (8/21/2008 7:54:05 PM)
no one knows i am into this

Lynnxz -> RE: hmmmmm (8/21/2008 8:05:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: paperdollie no one knows i am into this Trust me, if you have friends that are 'really' your friends, they won't care. Besides, you'd be shocked at the # of people that are into this- most just don't make a huge deal about it and attend munchs and such.

subeos -> RE: hmmmmm (8/21/2008 8:54:42 PM)
[&:] This may or may not help. But when i would meet a Dom on-line and then decide to meet him in a public place. This was my plan. i had my cell phone with me, and i had a friend who was like my big brother. Well, i would tell him i was meeting this guy and where and the time. We would get there a little early and he would sit in his car and i would pick a place where he could see me. Not always was the case where he could see me though. Anyway, he would give me about 20 minutes and then call my phone. i would answer it and i acted like it was my boss. Well, if i did not click with this guy or felt uncomfortable, he would know. Then i would act as if i was being called into to work to cover anothers person's shift. May not be totally honest, but it helped me from being hurt or in a postion i could not get out of. ~slave eos~

Paulnz -> RE: hmmmmm (8/21/2008 9:15:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: paperdollie what is sub frenzy? I didn't use the term, but I think it means a sub getting carried away with the prospect of a new Dom and seeing things that simply aren't there in reality.

Honsoku -> RE: hmmmmm (8/21/2008 9:30:02 PM)
As your profile doesn't read like someone that is just looking for a hook-up, the first thing is to avoid profiles that mention little to nothing except BDSM. You are probably going to have better luck with people that sound like people and not a kink list. Also, remember the old adage: If it seems too good to be true it probably is.

Leatherist -> RE: hmmmmm (8/21/2008 9:32:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Paulnz quote: ORIGINAL: paperdollie what is sub frenzy? I didn't use the term, but I think it means a sub getting carried away with the prospect of a new Dom and seeing things that simply aren't there in reality. Charlie, come with us to the magic mountain! [:D] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q5im0Ssyyus

califsue -> RE: hmmmmm (8/21/2008 9:49:28 PM)
First off, according to your profile you only joined in May of this year. Many people look for years to find the one. Define what it is you are truly seeking out of this. Getting out to a munch although you may be shy would be a good way to really discover and meet other individuals you can connect with and learn from.

atypicalsub -> RE: hmmmmm (8/21/2008 10:02:34 PM)
try spending some time in the chat rooms. It gives you a great way to get to know people on here as well as asking questions about anything you don't understand such as bdsm terms. Also the chat rooms help screen out some of the fakes. Just if you get PMed by someone who never says anything publicly be suspicious.

Owner4SexSlave -> RE: hmmmmm (8/22/2008 12:10:50 AM)
Some thoughts to keep in mind. 1. There are a lot of crazy fucked up people online in general. 2. There are a lot of crazy fucked up people in the lifestyle. 3. Most Dominant men are assholes. 4. Not everbody online is fucked up. 5. Not everbody into the lifestyle is fucked up. 6. Not all Dominant men are assholes.

GreedyTop -> RE: hmmmmm (8/22/2008 12:17:16 AM)
Leatherist..>DAMN YOU!!

DavidS8ist -> RE: hmmmmm (8/22/2008 3:48:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: paperdollie seems i am always interested in these Masters who end up being fake. what are some good indicators that a Dom isn't all He builds Himself up to be. i am a real person and i am tired of getting hurt. help? There've been a lot of great replies in this thread, so I'll just offer some thoughts, some of which have already been offered. 1. You're looking for a man. If he becomes your master, so be it. But I've yet to see any universally accepted course of study offering the title "BDSM Master." You're the one who gets to decide whether or not he's a master in your eyes. 2. After an initial flirt or two as ice-breakers, if you aren't talking about movies and books and tv shows and places you've both been, he's not interested in you, the person. 3. If there's the slightest evasiveness about meeting - especially repeated evasiveness like "I'm out of town on business Tuesday" and then "My client is in town Saturday" and then "I have a class reunion next weekend" - take a vowel, solve the puzzle. 4. If he can't discuss anything but BDSM related topics, he's not from the deep end of the gene pool. 5. If you can't think of 5 - no, make it 3 - salient points about him as a person - not as a "dom" or a "master", but as a sentient, breathing human being - scratch him off the list. 6. If you're the one asking all the questions, and he's the one offering less than concise answers, time to move on. 7. Lastly, if it sounds too good to be true, it usually is. D. "You had your whole life to prepare for this moment. Why aren't you ready?" - David Mamet, "Spartan"

Dnomyar -> RE: hmmmmm (8/22/2008 6:19:55 AM)
Op forget the coffee thing. I don't drink coffee. How about you meet me for a Pepsi. If you don't show up I will know your a fake. I like this post. I may finally get to meet someone from on here.

Leatherist -> RE: hmmmmm (8/22/2008 6:41:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GreedyTop Leatherist..>DAMN YOU!! The candy mounnnntaaaaiiinnnnn!!!!![:D]

antipode -> RE: hmmmmm (8/22/2008 11:56:04 AM)
I am sure that if you take the trouble, you can find a few past threads on the subject. But in general, these are life lessons, and they apply to you figuring out who in your life and environs is worth the trouble, and who isn't. Really little to do with BDSM, there are fakes an flakes in all walks of life, professions, in your family, etc. So a good book on the human psyche will help, and for the rest - I, too, have learned by experience, so will you. One hopes.. One tip: don't put limiters, like your Christianity, up front. It makes you a very easy mark, and there are lots of people who don't wear their convictions on their sleeve, but are very worth it. It's assbackwards - find out if someone is a good human being, then go on from there.

paperdollie -> RE: hmmmmm (8/22/2008 5:09:51 PM)
Thanks for all the responses. I wish i had the time to respond to each one. i will take each one into consideration and just stick to my faith. if it is meant to be, it will happen. i guess sometimes we have to get hurt along the way. Leatherist, i hope i did offend You. i am just not really "book smart". i need stuff broken down lol. please, any of you feel free to message me on the site. i will do my best to respond to all.

tsatske -> RE: hmmmmm (8/22/2008 7:06:47 PM)
paperdollie - I am a big fan of the 'go to a munch and get involved locally' advice, and i second the 'if you go with someone it seems less intimadating' thing. You will meet some very nice people and they will be real. It's a great start. I understand about not asking vanilla friends. This is what I advise. Find a local munch or group or two or three. Get on their mail list. Chat with some people. Get to know a couple of women. Ask if one of them can give you a ride - now you are going with someone you know, without dragging in vanilla friends and discussing your lifestyle choices with them.

paperdollie -> RE: hmmmmm (8/22/2008 9:08:40 PM)
is it possible that the fact that i am a Christian is affecting things? is is too much to expect someone in this lifestyle to wait until marriage to experience sexual intimacy with me? i will not let up on my beliefs. maybe that is the cause of my less than positive experiences so far? i will do some research on a munch.

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