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rookey -> RE: How to get EXPERIENCE (8/23/2008 8:29:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GreeneGoddess I love novices - if they are sincere. I expect them to have taken steps to learn about the lifestyle, ponder what they want out of it, and have taken appropriate steps to make this a real time lifestyle for themselves. If they've been online forever and a day but done little to no r/t, or if they "just decided they are submissive", then I do not consider them sincere. quote: ORIGINAL: MsStarlett I didn't think I wanted an inexperianced, much younger boy... until I gave one a try. I found a very good match for myself in Westie. He's young and eager to learn and to please. Some things that I freely admitted to never having tried before - like electrical play - we openly tried out together. We had a great time! It was actually pretty fun to try something new together. (No one is born knowing everything!) It sounds as though sincerity and not experience is the key issue. More specifically perhaps how does a potential sub prove their sincerity? Judging by what I read on these boards the standard of proof would seem to be set pretty high.

MsStarlett -> RE: How to get EXPERIENCE (8/23/2008 12:22:36 PM)
The proof is - don't lie! Talk to Dommes like they are women. I seem to always settle down to a Fave Four. Don't know why, just always seems to be four. They are always the men who talk to me like a human being first... Domme second.

asubsydneymale -> RE: How to get EXPERIENCE (8/25/2008 9:29:44 PM)
I am a novice submissive based on the south coast and willing to do most things to please a mistress ? would anyone like to train me ?

Lynnxz -> RE: How to get EXPERIENCE (8/25/2008 9:35:43 PM)
Sure, your first task is to paypal me 200$.

servantnj -> RE: How to get EXPERIENCE (8/25/2008 10:04:41 PM)
I would say go Pro. But please, realize there are two type of Pro-Dommes. One is serious lifestyle pro-domme who knows and understand the dynamic of such relationship. And then there is second one who is lifestyle domme and just for one reason or another decided to do some paid sessions on the side by placing ads on personal sites. I would stay away from second type. There is nothing wrong about being inexperienced, you just need to be willing to learn and respect. It will come dear. I spent many nights standing in the corner of the room watching the people before i decided to come dressed like them (or should i say undressed like them)

DiurnalVampire -> RE: How to get EXPERIENCE (8/25/2008 10:13:36 PM)
Id say stop worrying so much about experience and find someone you click with. You arent a walking role, and you shouldnt look for one either. Find a PERSON you get on well with and you will get the training you need from her. Personally, I dont like experienced boys. I like to have my pets not to have to unlearn anything they had learned before. I dont like comparisons. DV

michaelOfGeorgia -> RE: How to get EXPERIENCE (9/26/2008 10:44:02 AM)
of course, this also depends on if you can find someone local that is willing to meet in person. not that i hold much faith in CM any more.

azropedntied -> RE: How to get EXPERIENCE (9/26/2008 1:33:20 PM)
Well this suxs can i just become a newbie again , seems Many Women dig um .

GreeneGoddess -> RE: How to get EXPERIENCE (9/27/2008 6:12:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: azropedntied Well this suxs can i just become a newbie again , seems Many Women dig um . Not necessarily :-). Experience does indeed have it's merits. Compatibility is the toughest part of all of this - finding someone who shares your ethics and values as well as your kinks. That comes in many many forms.

michaelOfGeorgia -> RE: How to get EXPERIENCE (9/27/2008 6:16:02 AM)
i've found that the toughest part is finding someone locally, but i agree that sharing ones ethics, values and kinks is helpful as well. someday i'll find out what offline is like.

GreeneGoddess -> RE: How to get EXPERIENCE (9/27/2008 6:26:27 AM)
So you would put values, ethics, and compatibility aside if they live close enough to you? I know that I would not.

michaelOfGeorgia -> RE: How to get EXPERIENCE (9/27/2008 6:30:14 AM)
no, Ma'am. i am simply saying that closeness makes it easier to know someone and learn of their ethics, values and compatibility first hand...and not through typed words on a computer screen or phone call. of course, if i were able to travel...even move...i'm sure i could find what i seek abroad...no disrespect intended to anyone.

GreeneGoddess -> RE: How to get EXPERIENCE (9/27/2008 6:48:01 AM)
Yes, you can get to know someone better face to face than online. But it also can be very obvious from online interactions that the basic compatibility just is not there. Taking the time to meet someone in person doesn't change the basic facts of their lives, and there's no point in meeting with the hopes of correcting the poor impression that is made online.

thetammyjo -> RE: How to get EXPERIENCE (9/27/2008 7:41:46 AM)
There are folks who like to play with novices but often it is unlikely to lead to anything long term simply because a new person will go through a lot of self-discovery and changes the first few years they are getting experience. The best way to find someone who you can try things out with is by getting involved in a local or regional community. This gives you experience just interacting with others and learning in general but also gets you seen and known. So far people are willing to attend and even fewer to participate in any active way that if you get involved you will get noticed. It may not be exciting work or sexy work, but each group and events needs workers.

michaelOfGeorgia -> RE: How to get EXPERIENCE (9/27/2008 7:48:12 AM)
true enough, Ma'am...seems the ones i'm compatable with live in other in other cities and states...that's the way it goes in the lifetyle though. this only inforces my lack of faith in the city i live in. but, maybe i'm just picky, not to mention particular.

AAkasha -> RE: How to get EXPERIENCE (9/27/2008 9:34:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: iwantyounow21 While I've been interested in this lifestyle for several years now, I have only recently been able to go out and search for a Mistress. As I soon discovered, real Mistresses are freakin hard to find! Many Mistresses, being in such high demand, only want to deal with submissives who have experience in D/s... but I unfortunately have none. The most "experience" I have is a little CBT and wax play while I masturbate. I love to hang weights from a string tied to my balls or to put my cock in tight bondage. I love all kinds of BDSM porn and I always wish that that submissive, be it girl or boy, was me. So, Mistresses, after hearing a little about me, how can I safely get more experience? Thank you so much for reading my question [:)] Get a girlfriend who is nuts about you and vice versa. As you explore your sexuality, dabble in it. You can't take a shortcut to bdsm experience by seeing a femdom (unless you pay) assuming she'll "pop your submissive cherry" just because she has nothing else to do on a friday night, and you may bolt afterwards and never call her again because you got what you wanted. Bottom line - you have to be prepared to invest. You can invest via time, and romantic connection, and mutual affection -- or, you can invest via volunteer work in a BDSM community over time and hope to be noticed and taken in hand - or you can invest cash and hand it to a pro who will indulge your fantasies and give you a taste. I picked the first option, investing via time and romantic connection, because it's what you should probably be doing as a young man anyway. Date. Socialize. Flirt. Court. If you date women who are open minded about sex, they may be happy to lightly explore with you. There's no reason you need to be suspended upside down by your ankles out of the gate or fucked with an ejaculating dildo on the first date; try light bondage, roleplaying, little pain games. Akasha

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