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Stechinye -> Looove??? (8/21/2008 11:04:06 PM)
So most of us have clear distinctions beteen love and play on this website. I have met a man who was the typical Dom/Master..not too extremem but definatly perverted. After we have been in communication for many Months...he nw feels love for me..and has said directly, I loveyou, I don't see you as a sex object or a person to control. I see you as a mate. Has anyone had an experience similar to this? Enlighten me.

Lynnxz -> RE: Looove??? (8/21/2008 11:19:47 PM)
What... are you saying people are so simple minded they can't have a D/s relationship with someone they love?

AquaticSub -> RE: Looove??? (8/21/2008 11:25:15 PM)
Umm.... I have experience with a man saying that he loves me while flogging my ass off. Does that count?

susie -> RE: Looove??? (8/21/2008 11:41:47 PM)
I first told my Master I loved him while still chained to the bed following one of the worst beatings he has given me. He told me he loved me one walking along the beach. We are still together 4 years later and happier than ever. I have helped him start a business and he has nursed me through skin cancer and recently a brain tumour. We are both in love and very happy. During this time he has been and always will be my Master. That has not changed. susie

Stechinye -> RE: Looove??? (8/21/2008 11:49:20 PM)
Well..our mental connecion is what we are going on here...we haven't met..were to have met but things didn't work out... Now we are recomitted..and he feels thesame way... I can't even get him to broach the subjects of dominance and slavery like he had before.. He loves me and I am hs mate...but should i expect that those previous tendencies are gone? or modified?

Lynnxz -> RE: Looove??? (8/22/2008 12:03:35 AM)
Personally, I try to wait at least until I've met the guy before the L word. O.o

susie -> RE: Looove??? (8/22/2008 12:07:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Stechinye Well..our mental connecion is what we are going on here...we haven't met..were to have met but things didn't work out... Now we are recomitted..and he feels thesame way... I can't even get him to broach the subjects of dominance and slavery like he had before.. He loves me and I am hs mate...but should i expect that those previous tendencies are gone? or modified? I may be old but how on earth can you even consider saying "I love you" without even meeting someone. It would set off all sorts of alarm bells with me.

Owner4SexSlave -> RE: Looove??? (8/22/2008 12:07:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lynnxz What... are you saying people are so simple minded they can't have a D/s relationship with someone they love? I believe that's the bottom line. Sad is it not?

Stechinye -> RE: Looove??? (8/22/2008 12:15:55 AM)
I agree with Susie.. I guess, persoanlly, love is found int he mind and the menta aspects and dynamics. Sex doens't seem like a HUGE factor for me. It is for him, but now he is wlling to change his prefrences that he previousy held...for me.. That creeps me out.

E2Sweet -> RE: Looove??? (8/22/2008 12:40:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Stechinye ...we haven't met..were to have met but things didn't work out... OK, I'm not an expert but I do have some experience with this (several long stories), but what I can't help but believe is happening is that he is falling in love with his own perception of you that he internally connects to your voice (via phone) or your written words (via chat). That's pretty-much how this sort of online/phone thing works. I can only suggest, based on what I have learned, and have been told over the years, is to hold off on going farther down that road until you actually do meet and see just what is real and what is/was fantasy in terms of your perceptions of one another. Often times people's personalities really do come through online and genuine chemistry seems to exist, and I've found that more often that not, the person I end up meeting is indeed very much like the perception I initially had of her. But there are always differences and such... and sometimes the differences are huge issues... So yea, its very very early to be dropping the infamous L-bomb... That's all I can say... Best of luck!

atypicalsub -> RE: Looove??? (8/22/2008 12:46:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Stechinye I may be old but how on earth can you even consider saying "I love you" without even meeting someone. It would set off all sorts of alarm bells with me. Not long ago I would have agreed with this 100%. That was until I fell in love with my Mistress over the phone before we were able to meet. We started with the D/s, but the more we talked the more we found we connected on many different levels and subjects. I knew I was in love with her before I ever felt her touch.

Paulnz -> RE: Looove??? (8/22/2008 1:28:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: E2Sweet quote: ORIGINAL: Stechinye ...we haven't met..were to have met but things didn't work out... OK, I'm not an expert but I do have some experience with this (several long stories), but what I can't help but believe is happening is that he is falling in love with his own perception of you that he internally connects to your voice (via phone) or your written words (via chat). That's what I think too. IMO people have to actually meet. Online or over the phone can establish rapport but then find that when meeting in person the chemistry is just not there. Then the opposite can occur, people who think they'd never like one another can meet and hit if off immediately.

Juliannadelion -> RE: Looove??? (8/22/2008 1:32:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Stechinye So most of us have clear distinctions beteen love and play on this website. I have met a man who was the typical Dom/Master..not too extremem but definatly perverted. After we have been in communication for many Months...he nw feels love for me..and has said directly, I loveyou, I don't see you as a sex object or a person to control. I see you as a mate. Has anyone had an experience similar to this? Enlighten me. I knew I loved my Lord and Master the very first time we spoke. Our relationship defies all reason and rational thought. I am his slave, as well as his friend, lusty busty wench, companion and partner in crime. His love for me, did not override his desire to hurt and dominate me for pleasure. I can only offer this: Gamble everything for love, it is the only sure bet. <3 To Please and be Pleasing, to Him. Always, in All ways. [:D]

batshalom -> RE: Looove??? (8/22/2008 2:24:21 AM)
Since you haven't met each other, he is merely stating that he loves what he knows of you. It probably happens a lot (not with him specifically - I mean people in general who meet over the Internet). If you aren't comfortable with the whole deal, tell him. If you don't want to be a mate without the D/s, explain it to him. There's no need to let it continue if there's no hope for it, there's no need to be something less than honest simply to spare his feelings.

SoulPiercer -> RE: Looove??? (8/22/2008 4:23:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: susie I may be old but how on earth can you even consider saying "I love you" without even meeting someone. It would set off all sorts of alarm bells with me. Am I the only person here who watches Oprah to learn what goes on inside the male, (and in a lot of cases, the female) brain? They haven't met .. but he says "I love you".. The romantic notion is .. "He's in love with the idea of you". The reality is - He knows .. as long he keeps saying "I love you", you'll keep hanging around waiting for him to take his jammies off and get out from behind the keyboard. Cynical? Yes. Based on the sad reality of the way a great many people behave? Another yes.

naturalsin -> RE: Looove??? (8/22/2008 4:26:40 AM)
wrong thread! sorry[8\|]

RavenMuse -> RE: Looove??? (8/22/2008 4:57:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Stechinye It is for him, but now he is wlling to change his prefrences that he previousy held...for me.. That creeps me out. That doesn't creep Me out, look around these board you will find MANY examples of that kind of thing.... usualy someone trying to be something they are not IMO. For Me, When I Own a girl, I am drawn to control her BECAUSE I start to care, not in spite of it. The more I care, the more control I want. I am wired as a Dominant it is how My caring expresses itself. I don't 'get' these who stop being able to control or 'play' with a girl just because they develop feelings for her. To Me it indicates that being Dominant isn't something they ARE, mearly something they try and do.... YMMV.

IrishMist -> RE: Looove??? (8/22/2008 4:58:14 AM)
quote: They haven't met .. but he says "I love you".. The romantic notion is .. "He's in love with the idea of you". The reality is - He knows .. as long he keeps saying "I love you", you'll keep hanging around waiting for him to take his jammies off and get out from behind the keyboard. Cynical? Yes. Based on the sad reality of the way a great many people behave? Another yes. I have to agree with this.

Dnomyar -> RE: Looove??? (8/22/2008 5:20:08 AM)
I love all of you women. I will say the same for the guys if they hand me a cold beer. Op he will tell you he loves you until you try to get him to meet you.

Leatherist -> RE: Looove??? (8/22/2008 6:43:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Stechinye So most of us have clear distinctions beteen love and play on this website. I have met a man who was the typical Dom/Master..not too extremem but definatly perverted. After we have been in communication for many Months...he nw feels love for me..and has said directly, I loveyou, I don't see you as a sex object or a person to control. I see you as a mate. Has anyone had an experience similar to this? Enlighten me. I have to see someone as long term useful to define them as a possible "mate".

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