Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist?

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AAkasha -> Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist? (8/22/2008 4:30:53 PM)
Random femdom question of the night..... Do you enjoy being treated like a queen: Royal, elegant. Your submissive man (men) have high admiration and respect for you, and they treat you with class and elegance.... Do you enjoy being treated like a princess: Similar to the queen, but you are rightfully selfish and playful, demand and deserve fawning, enjoy attention, want to be spoiled and pampered..... Do you enjoy being treated like a sadist: Your submissive man (men) offer their bodies and minds to you for you to torment and torture, bend and nearly break, showing you bravery and honor by giving themselves up to you.... Submissive men, which lady do you want to "adore" most: A queen, a princess or a sadist? Akasha

TheLadyConstance -> RE: Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist? (8/22/2008 4:33:35 PM)
Somewhere between a Princess and a Queen. I want my boys (and girls) to treat me with reverence, class, and elegance, but also understand that I am to be spoiled and pampered and fawned over.

littlesarbonn -> RE: Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist? (8/22/2008 4:41:56 PM)
I don't know...which one of those best fits into a prison guard's uniform?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist? (8/22/2008 4:43:57 PM)
Well as the Queen of Princesses, my uniform would be bespoke. [:)]

ElanSubdued -> RE: Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist? (8/22/2008 4:44:08 PM)
Akasha, Yes, I realize I'm reading your OP a bit too literally and am therefore taking some of the fun out of it. Still, honestly, I think the whole "queen, princess, sadist" question reinforces fantasy stereotypes that I try to avoid. First and foremost, as a submissive, I admire a dominant woman for her personage. Her intelligence. Her kindness and willingness to help people. Her leadership skills. Her creativity. Her ability to communicate. And sure, her kinky disposition. On the outside, there are many thing things I find sexy too. As far as adoring a woman is concerned, it is a complex, multi-faceted, extremely varied dichotomy that catches my attention and adoration. The various archetypes you've outlined don't "do it" for me (albeit, aspects of these blended in with some of the things I've mentioned can be very endearing). I'm far more likely to be effected by a dominant woman who is, none-the-less, still able to share her dreams, joy, successes, vulnerability, failures, kinky sexuality, friendship, knowledge, curiosity, sorrow, tears, passion, and love. Elan.

ElanSubdued -> RE: Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist? (8/22/2008 4:45:10 PM)
LadyHibiscus, quote: Well as the Queen of Princesses, my uniform would be bespoke. [:)] kneels to worship the Queen of Princesses :-) Elan.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist? (8/22/2008 4:47:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued LadyHibiscus, quote: Well as the Queen of Princesses, my uniform would be bespoke. [:)] kneels to worship the Queen of Princesses :-) Elan. I love it when you suck up! [:)]

Hime -> RE: Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist? (8/22/2008 4:52:22 PM)
quote: Do you enjoy being treated like a princess: Similar to the queen, but you are rightfully selfish and playful, demand and deserve fawning, enjoy attention, want to be spoiled and pampered..... Do you enjoy being treated like a sadist: Your submissive man (men) offer their bodies and minds to you for you to torment and torture, bend and nearly break, showing you bravery and honor by giving themselves up to you.... Yes, to both - I am very much a Sadist Princess. My sub accepts my playful and bratty ways. I do like to be spoiled and pampered - and he likes to ensure that I am able to enjoy the things I like. He is strong, powerful, and to watch him suffer for me....turns me on more than he knows! ~xoxo

MsStarlett -> RE: Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist? (8/22/2008 5:02:11 PM)
All of the above... and then some. It takes one hell of a good man to put up with all of my personalities.

Misstoyou -> RE: Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist? (8/22/2008 5:05:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsStarlett All of the above... and then some. It takes one hell of a good man to put up with all of my personalities. I just say I'm multi-faceted, and they are expected to keep up. [:D]

MsStarlett -> RE: Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist? (8/22/2008 5:07:48 PM)
Excellent answer!

ElanSubdued -> RE: Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist? (8/22/2008 5:12:14 PM)
quote: Misstoyou: I just say I'm multi-faceted, and they are expected to keep up. MsStarlett: Excellent answer! Agreed! Elan.

AAkasha -> RE: Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist? (8/22/2008 5:33:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued Akasha, Yes, I realize I'm reading your OP a bit too literally and am therefore taking some of the fun out of it. Still, honestly, I think the whole "queen, princess, sadist" question reinforces fantasy stereotypes that I try to avoid. First and foremost, as a submissive, I admire a dominant woman for her personage. Her intelligence. Her kindness and willingness to help people. Her leadership skills. Her creativity. Her ability to communicate. And sure, her kinky disposition. On the outside, there are many thing things I find sexy too. As far as adoring a woman is concerned, it is a complex, multi-faceted, extremely varied dichotomy that catches my attention and adoration. The various archetypes you've outlined don't "do it" for me (albeit, aspects of these blended in with some of the things I've mentioned can be very endearing). I'm far more likely to be effected by a dominant woman who is, none-the-less, still able to share her dreams, joy, successes, vulnerability, failures, kinky sexuality, friendship, knowledge, curiosity, sorrow, tears, passion, and love. Elan. Well...of course it cannot be so cut and dried, but I find it interesting for discussion. It's a variation of a topic I really find interesting but don't want to just repost the same thread over and over again - but it's the idea that there's two types of domination (or, being a "Mistress") - those ladies that want to be worshipped, adored, pampered -- and, those that want to DO things to submissives (control, sadism, etc.) Of course, there are hybrids in all varieties. And, I suppose, you could call the latter a "Top" and be done with it, in many cases. I find this discussion to be one of the most interesting and revealing. I think it's equally interesting to hear if submissive men want one above the other: that is, a woman they can worship (pamper, adore, massage, provide orgasms to) or a woman that gets off on hurting them (in any variety of ways, or, including sexually using them). I could talk about it til the cows come home! Akasha

chamberqueen -> RE: Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist? (8/22/2008 5:46:41 PM)
A queen - can't you tell by my name? LOL Actually, I love the role of strict teacher or Mommy Domme as well. It depends on my mood and my partner. No matter what role I take as a Domme I do it with class and without selfishness.

MsStarlett -> RE: Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist? (8/22/2008 5:50:38 PM)
Hmmmm... well... for discussion sake... It's pretty safe to say that anyone who knows me knows that I'm an attention whore. I love to be waited on, pampered, and adored... constantly. Having my back massaged or feet rubbed and kissed is just heaven. If I could find another like my recently dismissed NYC boy who could do my hair as well as everything else, I'd be delighted. However, I get off on beating my boys. If a man wants my attentions, he's going to have to take the pain with the pleasures. Let's face it... I have a very wonderful vanilla husband who provides me with all the sexual gratification that I need. What I want from my boys are the things he does NOT give me... like all that wonderful attention that he once showered upon me... and the stress relief it brings me to flog or cane someone until he's bright red. That's what I get from Westie. (I also like to hear him scream when we're playing with the Rimba! That is just so HOT!) Guess that makes me the Sadist Princess.

Pyrrsefanie -> RE: Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist? (8/22/2008 5:55:56 PM)
Sometimes I get into the Sadist mood, but the majority of the time... Yep, I'm the Princess. [:D] We have an odd dynamic like that, where he can still call me Princess and not have it be a term of submission. I absolutely adore it too, he spoils me rotten. But that's not WHY I like it... I guess it's just who I am. I'm younger than he is by a few years and I still feel like I'm not quite ready to step into the Queen's shoes yet, but I'm too playful and enjoy seducing him too much to label myself a Sadist. Like last night -- two rounds of absolutely amazing mind-blowing disturbing-the-neighbors sex where he catered to my every whim and command, then afterwards I got an equally unbelievable foot massage with a touch of worship thrown in, and then when I was recovering, he brought me ice cream in bed. I like my life.

pinnipedster -> RE: Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist? (8/22/2008 6:38:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha I think it's equally interesting to hear if submissive men want one above the other: that is, a woman they can worship (pamper, adore, massage, provide orgasms to) or a woman that gets off on hurting them (in any variety of ways, or, including sexually using them). You mean I have to choose between the two???? I suppose if I had to choose, I would pick the latter, being, well, basically self-centered. But I'd rather have some of both, partly because I do enjoy some humble service, and partically because I would feel it was more of a two-way street, with both of us getting our needs fulfilled. I suppose some women might find the sadism itself fulfilling enough, but I think then I would feel more like just a body, interchangable with any other. Not that I would necessarily turn that down for fun, but for a relationship, I'd like a firmer basis.

AAkasha -> RE: Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist? (8/22/2008 6:44:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pinnipedster quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha I think it's equally interesting to hear if submissive men want one above the other: that is, a woman they can worship (pamper, adore, massage, provide orgasms to) or a woman that gets off on hurting them (in any variety of ways, or, including sexually using them). You mean I have to choose between the two???? I suppose if I had to choose, I would pick the latter, being, well, basically self-centered. But I'd rather have some of both, partly because I do enjoy some humble service, and partically because I would feel it was more of a two-way street, with both of us getting our needs fulfilled. I suppose some women might find the sadism itself fulfilling enough, but I think then I would feel more like just a body, interchangable with any other. Not that I would necessarily turn that down for fun, but for a relationship, I'd like a firmer basis. I don't know. With the right chemistry, a purely motivated 'bottom' for me can provide a level of pleasure and satisfaction that I would prefer to ANY kind of service, cuddling, pampering, massages, or body worship -- if that makes sense. I have a variety of needs that I sometimes wonder if they are even at all intertwined with my sadistic urges - or, if they just run parallel. Perhaps it's all a coincidence. I have needs to be taken care of (like all women on some level), adored, given orgasms, massaged, served -- that's all fine and good. But on a much more animal level, I have a need to see a man suffer to get me off. And it's got all kinds of bondage, pain, and humiliation stuff mixed in. Do I need this man to also serve me in other capacities? No - I could really care less. I could have a separate man do that. And a separate man do 'romance' with me. But there's a lot more than just being a 'willing victim' that comes on the other end of being the "bottom" to my "top" - it requires both chemistry and a real desire to kind of figure me out and do that dance with me. So I don't take it lightly - and I appreciate it a lot. It's not just a body to beat - it's a man willing to work to understand and satisfy a sometimes illusive part of me. So there is a "service" component to being a bottom. A clear cut way to look at it is to realize that I used to dominate all vanilla boys in my youth. When I told them I needed to tie them up, see them wince, make them whimper, make them beg, and all kinds of other things, their willingness to endure this was an unselfish act; it's service. Now, a bottom may have urges of his own, and our needs may interesect, but real chemistry comes from having a bottom that understands I have itches that need to be scratched, and that mutual kinks aren't where it begins and ends. Akasha

laurelrose -> RE: Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist? (8/22/2008 6:46:04 PM)
Well, I am certainly looking for a Queen to serve, but then my interest is rather specialized.

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Do you like being treated like a princess, a queen, or a sadist? (8/22/2008 7:35:31 PM)
For both boys and girls, I'd say it's equal parts Queen and Sadist. Sadistic Queen.

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