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RE: Odd question... - 8/24/2008 12:45:54 PM   
KnightofMists


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i often hear that submissives/slaves have an automatic instinct as to whom is their master/dominant, that gut feeling.

is or does this occur with dominants/masters as well?



a rather romantic concept... though I have gut feelings about those I meet..... They don't go as far as making the person the love of my life any more than it means they are nothing to me.

I have found it useful in listening to my gut if the person is on the postive or negative side of the line.... it's only futher interactions which I gain knowledge and experience of the person that I learn how accurate and far from the line they are.

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RE: Odd question... - 8/24/2008 1:44:38 PM   
DMFParadox


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Life happens, though.  I was out at sea all the time, she choked at the speed things were moving, and poof!  Opportunity lost.

She's contacted me several times since then.  ...from Canada.  Sigh.

Moral?  Maybe you should listen to your gut... but then again, maybe not.  You might be able to instinctively pick a good match, but you can't predict the future. If I hadn't then I'd have been more careful and I'd have her right now. 

That girl, I might go monogamous for and never look back.  I'm not exactly suffering from lack of women right now, but I'll always wonder.... 


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RE: Odd question... - 8/24/2008 2:11:52 PM   
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RE: Odd question... - 8/24/2008 11:29:01 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: theUnsung

i often hear that submissives/slaves have an automatic instinct as to whom is their master/dominant, that gut feeling.

is or does this occur with dominants/masters as well?






This phenonomon is not BDSM or even Kink specific. Yes with some well atuned people there is a subtle language which enables a person to recognise specific types of people which they are atuned. martial Artists find this at some levels where a student can recoginise a "real" Master and a Teacher recognised the "genuine" student.  Sometimes it is a case of like recognising like or one polarity recognising the opposite polarity. Hunters and people who live with danger usually can recognise dangerous paople or situations faster then the rest of their unwashed brethren.. To some lesser degreee this can be taught, but in reality it is one of our natural gifts which has fort most atrophie3d due to so called civilization ... I thank the Gods that I remain a Barbarian.

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RE: Odd question... - 8/25/2008 5:20:47 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: theUnsung

i often hear that submissives/slaves have an automatic instinct as to whom is their master/dominant, that gut feeling.

is or does this occur with dominants/masters as well?


i didn't have that gut feeling when first meeting Daddy however He instantly knew that i was right person for Him. it took me months to reach that gut feeling He had.

still together after 2yrs

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RE: Odd question... - 8/25/2008 6:39:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		when I met my first Dom/Master in person for the first time, I felt comfort immediately, and slid into subspace just from being in his presence, without even being touched by him.

This is when I had only found out I was a sub for 2 months, and didn't even know what subspace was.. didn't know until a month or two later and read about it here.

I don't expect it to ever be so easy and immediate again though.. he was just an exceptional person and an almost eerie match for me.

scottish dove

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RE: Odd question... - 8/25/2008 8:21:54 AM   
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ORIGINAL: scottishdove

when I met my first Dom/Master in person for the first time, I felt comfort immediately, and slid into subspace just from being in his presence, without even being touched by him.

This is when I had only found out I was a sub for 2 months, and didn't even know what subspace was.. didn't know until a month or two later and read about it here.

I don't expect it to ever be so easy and immediate again though.. he was just an exceptional person and an almost eerie match for me.

scottish dove


wow... i think i kinda know the feeling...

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RE: Odd question... - 8/26/2008 12:50:59 AM   
SirDarkside357


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Status: offline 		Of course it does.  That's why I am still with the girl I chose those many years ago....wait, I'm not with her....well, ok, I still think so, but sometimes I'm wrong.

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RE: Odd question... - 8/26/2008 6:47:20 PM   
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RE: Odd question... - 8/26/2008 7:00:45 PM   
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RE: Odd question... - 8/26/2008 7:04:18 PM   
Lasciviouslady1


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Status: offline 		Call it instinct, call it gut feeling, call it sixth sense, call it whatever you want...sometimes I just instinctively 'know' when things feel 'right'.....

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RE: Odd question... - 8/26/2008 7:53:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		   I distrust something that happens that fast..its been my experience its great at the first..and really really sucks at the ending

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RE: Odd question... - 8/26/2008 9:38:55 PM   
DomDolf


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Status: offline 		I had a gut feeling once about a submissive... turns out my gut has lust too. That was a long time ago.

Seriously, I NOW take my time and make sure my WHOREmones aren't talking more than they should.

Dolf

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RE: Odd question... - 8/26/2008 9:48:43 PM   
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For some strange reason, I would "feel" something even when communicating online. It's not that the people I didn't "feel" something with weren't dominant, but, they weren't right for me.

I've always thought it very strange that the feelings I picked up, despite what was said, described who and what the people were very well.

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RE: Odd question... - 8/27/2008 11:57:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		I first saw my "one's" profile in October of 2006, knew it was him, also knew that I would not meet up with him for about a year. He first wrote to me in July of 2007. Still devoted to him.

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RE: Odd question... - 9/24/2008 3:48:40 AM   
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RE: Odd question... - 9/24/2008 8:13:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		He says that he knew that first meet that I was his one. I knew I was strongly attracted but was still protecting myself enough to see him in that way.

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RE: Odd question... - 9/24/2008 10:38:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		He knew before we ever met, when he was just noticing me at work.  At that time I had no idea about D/s or BDSM or anything like that.  When we finally went out for the first time he knocked me off of my feet.  I was in total submission to him without even realizing what was going on, even though i was trying to put up this strong, stubborn front he saw right thru me.  When he told me he loved me and that i was his after only 1 date i didnt know how to react.  I had just come out of a very emotionally abusive relationship so i was denying my own feelings but inside i knew i was totally in love with him. In time he has taught me so many things about myself and about this lifestyle.  It has been a wonderful ride!

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RE: Odd question... - 9/24/2008 12:06:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: theUnsung

i often hear that submissives/slaves have an automatic instinct as to whom is their master/dominant, that gut feeling.

is or does this occur with dominants/masters as well?



I don't know that it occurs with THE one who is supposed to be my submissive...otherwise, why would I have had three differing submissives and not all at the same time?  The question is a bit like the "vanilla" statement that there is only "one" right partner for you in the world.  There can be many who are the right partner, it is a matter of finding them in the sea of those who are not right.

I've known women who felt "right" but who, on closer less "chemically-driven" analysis, were not. I've met women who felt "right" intellectually but for whom I had no sort of physical desire.  Since I entered into the world of D/s, I've added in...oh joy ...the fact that they may feel right physically, may feel right intellectually but who, when it comes down to views on D/s and/or BDSM were not right.  I cannot dominate someone whose views are, for the most part or in important areas, deeply contrary to my own in regards to D/s or even my philosophies on BDSM and its place within the dynamic.  I've also met more than one...again, note the 3 submissives...who were. 


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RE: Odd question... - 9/24/2008 12:09:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: theUnsung

i often hear that submissives/slaves have an automatic instinct as to whom is their master/dominant, that gut feeling.

is or does this occur with dominants/masters as well?




I have to smile when I see all the post that say " I knew right away"   By definition all those other times they were in a relationship it was the wrong person. 

Go figure  BadOne

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