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Can someone help me understand why my heartbeat starts ... - 8/26/2008 9:17:21 AM

winoverme

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Good day everyone,

I'm submissive to women deep in my soul. I wonder if someone would have a theory that would explain why each time i imagine myself in a situation where a dominant woman would make me a slave or degrade me, my heartbeat starts to pound totally out of control in my chest? Whenever it's when i imagine it, that someone openly expresses to me the wish to take advantage of me, or when i'm concretely being abused, i unmistakably feel my breathing coming more difficult, my heartbeat pump much faster, as if fear was the motor urging me to submit myself blindly?

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RE: Can someone help me understand why my heartbeat sta... - 8/26/2008 9:25:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: winoverme

Good day everyone,

I'm submissive to women deep in my soul. I wonder if someone would have a theory that would explain why each time i imagine myself in a situation where a dominant woman would make me a slave or degrade me, my heartbeat starts to pound totally out of control in my chest? Whenever it's when i imagine it, that someone openly expresses to me the wish to take advantage of me, or when i'm concretely being abused, i unmistakably feel my breathing coming more difficult, my heartbeat pump much faster, as if fear was the motor urging me to submit myself blindly?

Yes. It is called excitement. As far as "submitting yourself blindly", let's hope you do not do this. You must be keenly aware of what you are getting yourself into. Don't allow those butterflies and heart beats over-rule your senses.

ETA: I just noticed the rest of the subject line. Why are you seeking to be abused?

< Message edited by MistressOfGa -- 8/26/2008 9:27:20 AM >

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RE: Can someone help me understand why my heartbeat sta... - 8/26/2008 10:28:37 AM

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My heartbeat goes up when I am horny too...good luck in your search.

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RE: Can someone help me understand why my heartbeat sta... - 8/26/2008 10:31:16 AM

winoverme

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Thank you for your fast answer MistressofGa,

Well, i think it comes from a lack of self-esteem somewhat. I've always felt the need or urge to please others. Even if that means sometimes to allow some people to take advantage of me, assaulting my dignity..The fact i think is that even if i need to be treated like a human being (loved and cherished), my need to please is greater than the way i am treated. For example, if a dominant woman obviously enjoys making me do degrading things, then i will feel happy to know i'm useful to her and appreciated..She could make me drink her Golden nectar..If i strongly feel that's what she wants, i'll be totally happy with it.

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RE: Can someone help me understand why my heartbeat sta... - 8/26/2008 10:32:44 AM

winoverme

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Thank you thishereboi,

Good luck to you too! It's always great to know where our place stands in..

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RE: Can someone help me understand why my heartbeat sta... - 8/26/2008 11:59:03 AM

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ORIGINAL: winoverme

Thank you for your fast answer MistressofGa,

Well, i think it comes from a lack of self-esteem somewhat. I've always felt the need or urge to please others. Even if that means sometimes to allow some people to take advantage of me, assaulting my dignity..The fact i think is that even if i need to be treated like a human being (loved and cherished), my need to please is greater than the way i am treated. For example, if a dominant woman obviously enjoys making me do degrading things, then i will feel happy to know i'm useful to her and appreciated..She could make me drink her Golden nectar..If i strongly feel that's what she wants, i'll be totally happy with it.

Ah, but it is consentual. You see the difference? You are not asking to be abused, you are asking to be used, for your pleasure as well as your Domina's. Big difference. If you want to be used and you have given consent to a Domina to use you, then I see no harm in what she does, providing it is within the guidelines of what y'all have discussed in advance.

Thank you for writing back. Not all these threads have to turn into wanker material or jokes.

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RE: Can someone help me understand why my heartbeat sta... - 8/26/2008 12:06:27 PM

winoverme

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Thank you MistressofGa,

I understand now..And i appreciate your time to answer me..Sometimes, it's not so easy to understand as some would think to..Yes, i need consensual and mutual complicity to feel well...This is the real challenge: to find the right Mistress for me..One who will share the same interests in this kind of relationship..So it's not financial slavery to get BDSM services...It's much more than that..A true love relationship for long term..

Thank you...

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RE: Can someone help me understand why my heartbeat sta... - 8/26/2008 2:16:57 PM

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Good lord, your post titles are longer than anything Morrissey's ever come up with. I honestly never thought that possible.

Your heart rate goes up because you enjoy it.

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RE: Can someone help me understand why my heartbeat sta... - 8/26/2008 3:31:05 PM

winoverme

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Yes, somehow i enjoy it..But when it happens, i can tell you i feel all shaken inside..It's a little when you suddenly feel a striking attraction for someone..You feel all upside down...That's exactly how i feel..My titles are too long?

Thanks for your commentary..frank

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RE: Can someone help me understand why my heartbeat sta... - 8/26/2008 3:43:57 PM

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FR: Well, it sounds like atrial fibrillation. You might want to remove your hand from your penis long enough to phone a physician.
Atrial fibrillation: What are the symptoms? Symptoms may include:

Feeling dizzy or lightheaded.
Feeling out of breath.
Feeling weak and tired.
A feeling that the heart is fluttering, racing, or pounding (palpitations).
A feeling that the heart is beating unevenly.
Chest pain (angina).
Fainting.

Atrial fibrillation is common, especially in older adults, and it may not cause obvious symptoms. If you have any of the symptoms listed, see your doctor. Finding and treating atrial fibrillation right away can help you avoid serious problems.

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RE: Can someone help me understand why my heartbeat sta... - 8/26/2008 4:54:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: Pyrrsefanie

Good lord, your post titles are longer than anything Morrissey's ever come up with. I honestly never thought that possible.

Your heart rate goes up because you enjoy it.

No, his heartbeat goes up as you are twins, and colour co-ordianted to boot.

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RE: Can someone help me understand why my heartbeat sta... - 8/26/2008 6:56:17 PM

winoverme

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They are twins? Oh my God...I love twins...I thought she was embracing the image in the mirror...

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RE: Can someone help me understand why my heartbeat sta... - 8/26/2008 7:26:04 PM

Pyrrsefanie

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ORIGINAL: winoverme

They are twins? Oh my God...I love twins...I thought she was embracing the image in the mirror...

He was being facetious. They're not twins.

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RE: Can someone help me understand why my heartbeat sta... - 8/27/2008 6:49:55 AM

winoverme

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Well, Pyrrsefanie,

If it's you, i think you are very attractive..

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RE: Can someone help me understand why my heartbeat sta... - 8/27/2008 8:10:46 AM

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ORIGINAL: winoverme
Well, i think it comes from a lack of self-esteem somewhat. I've always felt the need or urge to please others. Even if that means sometimes to allow some people to take advantage of me, assaulting my dignity

The reasons for such a response are different for different people, and you will know best what creates this response for you.

I don't think the desire to please, or the desire to be treated in a way that is generally considered unwanted necessarily come from lack of self esteem.

I think the desire to please exists in many people. For some people, it is a way of expressing affection or regard. For some people, pleasing another brings spiritual gratification.

In my opinion, the desire to be treated in a lesser way comes from masochism. Masochism can cause physical, sexual, and mental arousal.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: Can someone help me understand why my heartbeat sta... - 8/27/2008 8:16:02 AM

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ORIGINAL: Pyrrsefanie
Good lord, your post titles are longer than anything Morrissey's ever come up with.

;-)

How Soon is Now is all kinds of awesomeness.

I see your Morrisey and raise you an Eddie Vedder:

Elderly Woman Behind the Counter in a Small Town (on a Tuesday Afternoon in July)*

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: Can someone help me understand why my heartbeat sta... - 8/28/2008 1:35:35 PM

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you have found some thing that creates excitement in you. you should pursue this to find what exactly you desire. i am primarily a service orientated submissive. you may be something different. search out and define yourself.

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RE: Can someone help me understand why my heartbeat sta... - 8/28/2008 2:29:43 PM

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ORIGINAL: undergroundsea
I see your Morrisey and raise you an Eddie Vedder:

Elderly Woman Behind the Counter in a Small Town (on a Tuesday Afternoon in July)

Throwing in a Fiona Apple album title:

When The Pawn Hits The Conflicts He Thinks Like A King What He Knows Throws The Blows When He Goes To The Fight And He'll Win The Whole Thing 'Fore He Enters The Ring There's No Body To Batter When Your Mind Is Your Might So When You Go Solo, You Hold Your Own Hand And Remember That Depth Is The Greatest Of Heights And If You Know Where You Stand, Then You Know Where To Land And If You Fall It Won't Matter, Cuz You'll Know That You're Right.

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Ти синтетична до болю

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RE: Can someone help me understand why my heartbeat sta... - 8/29/2008 7:31:57 PM

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--Hoagy Carmichael, 1945

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"When you wake up, Pooh," said Piglet, "what's the first thing you say?"
"What's for breakfast? What do you say, Piglet?"
"I say, I wonder what's going to happen exciting today?"
Pooh nodded thoughtfully.
"It's the same thing," he said.

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