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emotional turmoil - 8/27/2008 7:10:44 AM

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"We learn to conceal most of the emotional turmoil we carry for the sake of smooth social relationships."

I read this quote while studying for my new course, and its inspired this thread. I am regulalrly told that I dwel too much on stuff, over think things but I have started thinking that maybe it isnt that I over think just simply that I am more vocal that most when something is upsetting me. I was wondering do you conceal your emotional turmoil? If so why? it is conscious?

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RE: emotional turmoil - 8/27/2008 7:19:43 AM

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I grumble, bitch and coplain till someone listens. No concealment here.

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RE: emotional turmoil - 8/27/2008 7:36:03 AM

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Yes, I normally keep it inside. My Master has asked me to share it with Him so that He can help me, but I find that if I am concerned that He is too busy that I start to hide it again. (I know, I should still share and let Him tell me if He is too busy instead of trying to "protect" Him from it.)

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RE: emotional turmoil - 8/27/2008 8:15:54 AM

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I come here to vent.. offlline, I keep it in. EVen when I shouldnt, until it just kinda overflows.

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RE: emotional turmoil - 8/27/2008 8:16:44 AM

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I'm definitely an "inny"

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RE: emotional turmoil - 8/27/2008 8:17:10 AM

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jpegs!!

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RE: emotional turmoil - 8/27/2008 8:31:40 AM

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Interesting and tough topic, colouredin. Perhaps it would be useful to consider how one "channels" and expresses turmoil of all kinds. What would Blake, whom you quote, or VanGogh, to name just two. been without inner turmoil ? Also, what price is one willing to pay for "the sake of smooth social relationships", which, in many cases, are just conventions ?

Criticisms of "overthinking" may be valid when referring to decisions on whether to have a cheeseburger or a burger without cheese or whether to roll one's trouser cuffs or not, however, it beats going through life slackjawed and socially compliant, no ?

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RE: emotional turmoil - 8/27/2008 9:52:36 AM

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I totally agree Cjan, and I also agree that emotional turmoil has produced some fantastic art works. I dont believe that expressing emotion or dissecting it is a bad thing either and I would rather not have too many relationships with people who do I would find that rather unfullfilling

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RE: emotional turmoil - 8/27/2008 11:13:01 AM

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I've been known to bury emotional turmoil. For me, the purpose of doing so is in order to be able to figure out what to -do- about it. I am not typically inclined to just tossing my emotions around willy-nilly. I think that part of that comes from being particularly sensitive to the emotional state of others around me, and being constantly exposed to others emotional 'washoff'. I am highly empathic, so I tend to prefer to hold my own emotions close, to avoid further 'emotional pollution' of the atmosphere around me.

Holding my emotions in check enables me to determine the cause of the emotional furor inside of me, and to determine whether it is something that I need to share (through rational, well-considered discussion), whether it is something I need to let go of, or whether it is something that I need to work on in myself. I find that most emotional turmoil is not necessarily productive, either for myself or for others around me -- that taking time to draw back from the immediacy of the emotional outburst keeps me from behaving in a way that I will later regret, or which will elicit a response from those around me that is not productive for our relationship.

As I've mentioned in a previous thread on anger, I am normally a chaotic and volatile person, so my emotions can be all over the place in the course of a day. What I feel inside, though, is rarely reflected outside, as I have trained myself, over time, to focus those volatile emotions and use them in a way that furthers my goals and minimizes the trauma to those who are in my immediate vicinity. (Imagine, if you will, on a strictly fantasy level, mixing the essence of Vampire with the essences of Dragon and Reptile *chuckles*).

Of course, if something blows up faster than I can contain it... I live up to my name.

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RE: emotional turmoil - 8/27/2008 11:52:28 AM

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RE: emotional turmoil - 8/27/2008 1:45:39 PM

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Well, quite frankly, i avoid the "turmoil" by venting.......it's amazing how one good "SON OF A BITCH!!!!" yelled at a computer can take care of that problem. Even when it's not the computer I'm pissed at!

Really, I have a long fuse....it takes alot to make me get to the point of really having to yell or scream to release it. By virtue of my job, alot of emotions are shoved deep inside simply because they have no place in the scheme of things. When I usually go off, it's well after the fact, and the only ones who hear it are my cats. (Thank God they can't speak!) I have no problem speaking my mind, if something's fucked up, I'll make sure that someone knows it.

Life's too short to worry about the little things......

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RE: emotional turmoil - 8/27/2008 2:28:44 PM

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quote:

do you conceal your emotional turmoil

Absolutly

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If so why?

Because it's safer for those around me

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it is conscious?

Yep

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RE: emotional turmoil - 8/27/2008 6:44:05 PM

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i used to conceal my emotions, period. and emotional turmoils were definitely hidden behind heavy metal bars. yes, it was mostly for the sake of smooth social relationships with others i care for. i'm always afraid that if i were reveal my emotions, will they still accept me? will they think of me as a nuisance afterward? so, instead of opening up, i never took the risk of losing a friendship to talk about anything that bothered me. nowadays though, i've opened up alot and it is thanks to caring friends that took the time to hash through my emotions. not only that but i've also learned that keeping things in hurts the relationship more than actually taking the chance to speak of the problems in a mature way.

peace out all!

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RE: emotional turmoil - 8/27/2008 7:05:56 PM

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"We learn to conceal most of the emotional turmoil we carry for the sake of smooth social relationships."

I read this quote while studying for my new course, and its inspired this thread. I am regulalrly told that I dwel too much on stuff, over think things but I have started thinking that maybe it isnt that I over think just simply that I am more vocal that most when something is upsetting me. I was wondering do you conceal your emotional turmoil? If so why? it is conscious?

When people ask 'How are you?'... they don't really want to know, it is just a pleasantry, part of the social lubricant.

One can answer with a Pogoesue 'Jes fine', or one can go into great detail about every miserable stinking thing that is bothering them...guess who's staying on the list for the Christmas party?

As others have said, vent on the internet...

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