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EdBury -> BDSM lifestyles in a Virtual Fantasy World (8/27/2008 3:11:38 PM)

Hi all,
Just trying to gather some opinions here. One of my favorite passtimes when not chatting and posting here is roleplaying the lifestyle in Secondlife. As many of you surely know, SL is a huge online virtual (mainly adult) world where folk can safely enact their fantasies. It has a huge BDSM community from all over the world which covers virtually everything from Gorean to Furry, Hypno to Medieval and so on. In my "second life", I play the role of a Master of Le Chateau in the 'Roissy - Story of O' sims.
Have any of you had experience of SL, good or bad?

Ed  :)



Missokyst -> RE: BDSM lifestyles in a Virtual Fantasy World (8/27/2008 3:15:18 PM)

I tried to play second life a couple of times because of CSI NY. 
But, it was a tad confusing.  I can't even imagine trying to engage in bdsm online.  I kinda like those belts in real life, ya know?  And while it might be pretty easy to get my character to kneel, it lacks the feel of someones hands through my hair.  I think.. I would feel resentment of my character for having the fun that I wouldnt be feeling.
Kyst



IvyMorgan -> RE: BDSM lifestyles in a Virtual Fantasy World (8/27/2008 3:16:23 PM)

I tried SL, got confused when for some reason my trousers disappeared and I couldn't find them.  Somewhat reminiscent of an experience I had at a London Club the first time I got taken out.

I've not been back.  It was too confusing.  And I'd rather play in the real world.



colouredin -> RE: BDSM lifestyles in a Virtual Fantasy World (8/27/2008 3:18:11 PM)

i agree i lost my hair and top and the walls kept vanishing and i couldnt leave the bloody room and then i calmed down realised it was a computer game and went out



leadership527 -> RE: BDSM lifestyles in a Virtual Fantasy World (8/27/2008 3:24:19 PM)

I've played in SL extensively.  It is where I was introduced to BDSM as a thing that actually happens outside of porno movies.  My experience in gor was.... well... not so positive.  But SL was good for finding a group of people who seriously wanted to explore M/s relationships in real life and who had roughly similar world views to myself, establishing a community and support group, and in general, getting me to where I am now.  So overall, it was a way positive thing for me.  I don't log on much anymore except for our weekly discussion nights with the community.  It served it's purpose in getting me here, but real life has become more interesting.

For the most part, SL (and other online venues) I think serve as a way for a lot of people to scratch their kinky BDSM fantasy itch without actually turning it into real life.  Personally, I think that is a wonderfully fine thing.  Fantasies can be fun but not all of them are good to turn into reality for all people.  Some people, I think, do what I did and use online as a stepping stone into the real world and that is the second valuable service that such online venues provide... a reduction in the barrier-to-entry for BDSM.



LaTigresse -> RE: BDSM lifestyles in a Virtual Fantasy World (8/27/2008 3:25:51 PM)

The only computer virtual game I've ever played was some Sims game my kids had years ago. I found it far too tedious and boring to bother.

I prefer the real deal. I've just got too interesting a real life to play with a pretend one online.



CookieSlave -> RE: BDSM lifestyles in a Virtual Fantasy World (8/27/2008 3:32:56 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: IvyMorgan

I tried SL, got confused when for some reason my trousers disappeared and I couldn't find them.  Somewhat reminiscent of an experience I had at a London Club the first time I got taken out.


quote:

ORIGINAL: colouredin

i agree i lost my hair and top and the walls kept vanishing and i couldnt leave the bloody room and then i calmed down realised it was a computer game and went out


LOL I think you both just made me pee myself!

--cs



Sandyshores29718 -> RE: BDSM lifestyles in a Virtual Fantasy World (8/27/2008 3:44:27 PM)

A good friend told me about it. I tried it twice. Hated it each time.



IvyMorgan -> RE: BDSM lifestyles in a Virtual Fantasy World (8/27/2008 3:44:53 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: colouredin

i agree i lost my hair and top and the walls kept vanishing and i couldnt leave the bloody room and then i calmed down realised it was a computer game and went out
I am soooo glad I'm not the only one who was so befuddled by the whole experience.  Though, I never found a "room", so you did much better than me.



littlesarbonn -> RE: BDSM lifestyles in a Virtual Fantasy World (8/27/2008 4:33:37 PM)

I tried it a LONG time ago, and I really didn't like the vacant look to the city (there were rarely people around), but I did notice a lot of S&M stuff there. Of course, no one was there using any of it. So I quit and never looked back.

THEN...a professor decided that we needed to "study" Second Life for some communication project, and I went back, as he assured me it was no longer just a porn palace. Turns out it didn't seem that much different from the last time I was there, so I wrote an ethnography of Second Life about how I found this new world where no one else lived. I spent pages and pages, describing how difficult it was to grip items, indicating that I might starve to death during my exploration. Then I described being approached by the Furry crowd (and acted oblivious to what that really meant). The prof was not amused. I uninstalled the "game" soon after that class was over.



Lashra -> RE: BDSM lifestyles in a Virtual Fantasy World (8/27/2008 4:46:21 PM)

I played SL for a while and yes the BDSM/Gorean/Furry/Whatever is to be found in all the adult sims.
I haven't played much lately do to RL being too hectic but frankly I was getting quite bored with it.
Lots of horny subs/slaves looking for some play and then off they go onto the next Dominant. Not
my cup of tea.

~Lashra



CallaFirestormBW -> RE: BDSM lifestyles in a Virtual Fantasy World (8/27/2008 5:07:49 PM)

~fast reply~

My problem with SL (or any virtual medium) is that you can't really -smell- the blood, ya know???



EdBury -> RE: BDSM lifestyles in a Virtual Fantasy World (8/27/2008 7:56:11 PM)

LOL - yes - one can get confused there, but it is a fun distraction at times of course. Some fantastic concepts and it has improved of late a good deal. The beauty of it is that it provides a great introduction for those seeking ideas and learning the D/s ways in a safe environment. Of course, I fully agree - No virtual reality can match real life experiences and interactionm but to meet folk from around the world (specially when you get the hang of it) and see how they "play" is great fun. :)
To leadership527 - yes indeed, many folk have found it a great introduction to RL BDSM - and many have gone on to meet in RL too which is nice. :)  I actually know of two couples (RL friends) who have wed and collared from it. :)



GreedyTop -> RE: BDSM lifestyles in a Virtual Fantasy World (8/27/2008 8:08:01 PM)

I was going to get into SL.. signed up for it and everything.. then got to the DL part..only to discover that my computer is too old and the graphics card I have won't work *sigh*

Probably just as well.. I spend far too much time on the computer as it is! LOL



thetammyjo -> RE: BDSM lifestyles in a Virtual Fantasy World (8/28/2008 6:42:14 AM)

I talk in SL, I do readings in SL, I educate in SL, and I even have a bookstore in SL.. but I don't play there.

Why? For me "play" means SM and frankly I find it lame in SL. I'm not really flogging a person, they can't honestly feel my hands on them. Bondage can be mimicked to a higher degree but again someone can just walk away from their computer if they get bored by being "tied up" in SL.

I do have friendships and Ds relationships but I don't "play" in SL. For me that is more mental but I still don't consider it as good as RL interactions.

I may upset some folks, but I do see it as more intense than online dynamics such as in Collarme because it is generally immediate in SL not over emails waiting for each other.

But I didn't go to SL to "play" i went to find folks to talk to in a more immediate fashion.

Oh, and I'm "JodiAnn Saphir" if anyone wants to look me up in SL.



Coupleofwhats -> RE: BDSM lifestyles in a Virtual Fantasy World (8/28/2008 11:59:38 AM)

I tried SL... didn't do anything for me.
I'd rather play Sims.



Usako -> RE: BDSM lifestyles in a Virtual Fantasy World (8/28/2008 12:58:27 PM)

Don't like SL. I'd rather RP in an IM box then on that stupid thing.



lessthanthree -> RE: BDSM lifestyles in a Virtual Fantasy World (8/28/2008 1:56:28 PM)

I tried SL for a few weeks, and I have to say I enjoyed it. Sadly, I spend all day at work on a computer, and enough of my free-time on one without additional reasons to vegetate.

Now I go for a walk in the park whenever I feel the urge to play video games. The plus side is that it's way easier than walking around in SL anyway.



Bstardsbitch -> RE: BDSM lifestyles in a Virtual Fantasy World (8/28/2008 2:02:52 PM)

I have a good friend who had a Dom for a while. Until she spent the night at his house, served him dinner  naked with collar, and he was soooooooo excited that a SL submissive had knelt until he returned.
That was the end of that relationship lol



Leatherist -> RE: BDSM lifestyles in a Virtual Fantasy World (8/28/2008 2:06:33 PM)

wow.....no wonder I don't do online role playing.



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