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Apology to all - 3/1/2004 6:43:56 AM   
DomCT2002


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Status: offline 		I apoligize if I came acroos as a troll, never intended that at all for those who read my first post here!.

Although I am new here, and always lookingf or a partner I never intended to be troll like in anyways.

I do have a Question for the submissives though,
When you serve your Master/Dom or Domme, does it make you free to give up that control and do you work harder because of that?

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RE: Apology to all - 3/1/2004 7:32:42 AM   
belongtoyou


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Status: offline 		i wasn't sure what You were referring to initally, i had to go back and look.

In answer to Your question:

While i find there is a feeling of freedom from letting go and submitting; i personally have had struggles because BDSM is new in my life. On the flip side of that; i have also experienced the feeling of bliss knowing that i've obeyed/served my Dom.

You may want to read through the "Ask a Master" section; as there are related topics posted; one in particular is a thread posted about fighting/resisting in the "ask a Master" section, which may be helpful to You as well.

best wishes,

~rain~

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RE: Apology to all - 3/29/2004 7:48:15 AM   
Gabrielle


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Status: offline 		First of all, let me say, I am brand new and do not know which post you are referencing. but I will answer your question:

Freedom is the absolute perfect word for the lifestyle of a submissive. My priority is to serve him. In any way I can. I see everything I do as something I do for him. I raise our children, for him. I go grocery shopping with him in mind. I keep the car filled with gas..for him. I have a change of clothes for him after work and a tall glass of tea or beer...for him. I cook ... for him. Nothing is for me. I am on the bottom of the pole at home. It is Him, the kids, the dog, me. And yes, this is absolute freedom. I am not preoccupied with fairness to myself. I am not feeling cheated out of anything. I am not worried about ME time or what I want. If there is something I want, I merely mention it and 9 times out of 10, I get what I want. But not because I begged and pleaded, nagged or bitched. Because he wished to please me as a reward for my efforts in serving him. I do not seek out these 'rewards'. My reward is his happiness with me. My reward is his smile.

I used to be very selfish...and very unhappy. Some may say, I still am selfish, but it only appears to be so because I do get what I want. Those who think I am selfish, are not aware of my situation. I get everything I need, that is his responsiblity and most everything I want, that is his choice. He worships me, as I worship him, we just know our places.

So yes, I gain freedom from serving him. I have no worries, I give it all to him. And he is strong enough to handle it all. He has me to serve him to please him, to leave him alone when he needs it. IF a good man has that, what CAN'T he handle?

A perfectly balanced D/s relationship comes from both partners giving 100%, not 50-50. He knows I need to be taken care of. And I know he is the type who needs to take care of someone. But he also needs that respect and unconditional servitude. I give that to him, which leaves me free to have something I have never known before him. Happiness.

As far as giving up control. I don't see it that way. I always have control. I know where the door is. I can leave at any time. I still know how to think for myself and how to speak. I don't see that he controls me. I see that I have given myself and my life to him. He accepts that gift and cherishes it.

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RE: Apology to all - 3/29/2004 2:57:53 PM   
iwillserveu


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Status: offline 		Just providing the link in my signature if anyone needs it.

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When the Lady smiles i can't resist her call. As a matter of fact, i don't resist at all. Well that depends if it is a smile or a grimmace.

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RE: Apology to all - 3/29/2004 4:13:03 PM   
EStrict


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quote:

Just providing the link in my signature if anyone needs it.


And you don't think they could of found it in one of the 332 other posts you had as the writing of this one?

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Sandy

Don't take life too seriously, no one gets out alive anyway...

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RE: Apology to all - 3/29/2004 4:53:35 PM   
Estring


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Status: offline 		Lol. That is a good one Sandy.

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RE: Apology to all - 3/29/2004 9:02:36 PM   
belongtoyou


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Status: offline 		the "super user" strikes again

iwillserveu, i thought you actually started this thread....i see now that you did not; would you like to do so now?

~rain~

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RE: Apology to all - 3/30/2004 1:44:37 PM   
iwillserveu


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Status: offline 		Actually Sandy I was responding to DomCT2002 without mentioning it. I'm sorry being polite offended you.

rain,

Go to the humor board. I will not apologize if my count goes up with every joke I post, senior user.

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When the Lady smiles i can't resist her call. As a matter of fact, i don't resist at all. Well that depends if it is a smile or a grimmace.

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RE: Apology to all - 7/13/2005 2:59:06 AM   
lonewolf05


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Joined: 6/21/2005
Status: offline 		can't tell ya coz "i' have not given up ALL control yet. i have always kept something back.

i.e. ergo;
sex. i am self celebate. so any domme that thinks she is gonna bother ME with chastity is a fool.
love?
not happening. i am self platonic. no romance drama for ME. i had 3 wives. enough!

play expectations? nope! got none. i am so far strictly 150% service, ONLY!

see? i do not give it all. i have some held back.
oh oh. forgot. i am also self independant of thought, and i have never depended on anyone to "take care of me" since i turned 14. so their mommy instincts need not kick in either. not interested.

i have no answer for feeling free except that "i" AM free. TOO independant for most people of THIS lifestyle.!!

take care.

the wolf


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