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MadameMarque -> RE: the unlikely domme... (9/8/2008 4:42:55 PM)
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ORIGINAL: KinkyArtemis
MMarque -
Could not have said it any better myself. I own fetish wear, I love it, and I would buy a new piece a week if I could. I'm also a larger woman and one of the reasons I continue to engage in fetish dressing is in part simply to defeat the notion that BBW Dommes cannot wear it and/or that we look crappy in it. Do I have to hunt for most of it in a size and style that flatters? You betcha. Does it take more time out of my day/week than throwing on jeans and a T-shirt and picking up my playbag? Damn skippy. Is it the "hot Domme of my dreams" played-out stereotype? To a certain degree, yes. But I simply don't care. I love to dress to impress, always have, always will. If some want to read me as a pretentious "likely" Domme as a result of it, so be it. But I won't give it up and I also won't accept the notion that enjoying my love for fetish means that I'm catering to the whims of men. (Bolding added - MM)
I think this is the gist of it. Can a woman want sex or kink or to look beautiful and seductive, because she wants it? The whole question of whether a woman owns her own desires.
Of course, our desires and self-image are individual. It is whether you're bold enough to be what you desire to be.
I can certainly appreciate the beauty in going against type. The appeal of that comes from someone being who they are, naturally.
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