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MysticsLily -> RE: Teenage Dommes? (8/31/2008 11:34:39 AM)
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Good afternoon,
I think that times are a'changing since when I first entered the lifestyle. I came into BDSM in 1994 at the age of 18. I started out as one of five girls in a BDSM household as the low end new slave girl. My first Master (an older man and a college professor, and who I see as the wisest man I've ever met) recognized in me some potential and taught me (very in depth) in all manners of domination from the psychological aspect of dominating someone to how to use a huge variety of impliments. He taught me about honor, integrity, keeping one's word, and about the level of responsibility inherent in owning a slave. I submitted as a slave during that first year, learning about everything from both aspects, as one who experiences the physical and emotional intensity of being in slavery as well as learning how to create those intensities for those who are slaves. I mentored at his feet for a year. For my 19th birthday I got my first male slave. I was with Master D for another year (until the age of 20) when traumatic happenings (a death) caused me to leave my first BDSM home and move forward with life.
I don't think that there is that level of mentoring anymore. Not with the birth of the internet and the loss of instructions on honor, respect and integrity - its not being taught by parents and teachers and small communities the way it was when I was growing up. Could I have found my inner Mistress on my own at 18? Probably not as quickly.
There are very few people left willing to mentor a new dominant person. The is so much ovewhelming information on the internet that learning alone becomes a mass of digital blogs and hundreds of opinions not one of which are the same. Practicing for hours with a flogger on a pillow helps improve aim, but doesn't give a person the feeling of impact on skin, the experience of using sounds from a submissive to determine how to vary strength of the hit . . . I could go on.
Yes there are alot of young girls looking to be taken care of and they think WIIWD will provide that. But there is alot of that in every catagory - I've met 50 year old submissives that want the same thing. Look at maturity level and willingness to listen and learn. Youth is simply inexperience seeking education. I personally feel that with that experience, I have a responsibility to do something to help meet that need and so I have taken on several "newbs" over the years and helped to teach them the "ropes" if you will.
As far as people between 18-21 not having life experience . . . by the age of 21 I had survived 12 years of child abuse (growing up), lost my slave/lover to death, survived rape, gave birth to my first child, and a few others things that most people are lucky enough not to experience by the time they are 50. My grandmother once told me I've lived three times more life than she has. Maturity and life experience is not counted by numbers. Its in the soul. Pass up a woman because she is 19, and perhaps you have passed up the person that could have taught you something.
peace and light
Miss Lily
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