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RE: Disrespecting Older Submissives - 11/26/2005 8:23:07 AM

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I'm 23, and I first saw The Graduate at age 13. Loved it then. Love it now.

AbstractSavant

You're correct; i got the name of the movie wrong; but please excuse me as i was rummaging around in my memory of the 1970's and that song seemed to be the title. Yes, it was a great movie; i especially liked when the guy broke into the church to stop the wedding.

As for my error, mea culpa, mea culpa, mea maxima culpa, LOL.

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RE: Disrespecting Older Submissives - 11/26/2005 5:08:08 PM

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I'll be it isn't a case of him wanting someone older; it's simply you are female and breathing. To some of these guys, that pretty much fills the bill.

Basically, that's what I was thinking. Also, too, young men have some notion that older women have this craving for younger men. I don't know how that got around, but it seems to be some kind of enduring urban myth, a Mrs. Robinson type thing, I guess. I'm more surprised that the younger man is a Dom pursing an older sub... my experience has been it's the younger male subs pursuing an older Domme. That's just been my observation to date, at any rate.

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RE: Disrespecting Older Submissives - 11/26/2005 5:23:46 PM

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Youth has so much to be desired; beauty; fitness; energy; craving information; etc. Men and especially Doms and Masters (real ones) are so appealing; such Great Character and Honor. However, i simply cannot get my mind around romping around with someone in their 20's. i don't judge people who do; apart from the possibility of undue influence i mentioned earlier.

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RE: Disrespecting Older Submissives - 11/26/2005 8:16:10 PM

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you know i have to agree.

there is something about that that just is not appealing. commiment whom i am not sure about that one with people in their 20s even as earlier as 35 but thats a point of view you want to say something lead by example other wise its just words on a screen do nt mean a thing

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RE: Disrespecting Older Submissives - 11/26/2005 8:53:51 PM

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Hi Lady!

First, I have to say that KatyLied is right. I have found (in my limited experience) that 'older' women (40+) DO tend to make better submissives than most of the younger ones. I don't know if that's a general rule but I think it's because the ladies at 40 and above know what they want and understand things a lot better.

Second, I will say that you don't look 52 in your picture or anything near it so that could be part of the problem.

And lastly, I have to admit that JohnWarren is right; to some guys the only requirement is female and 98.6. Those are the desperate ones that usually tend to be more than a little pushy. Unfortunately there are probably more than a few of those out there too.

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RE: Disrespecting Older Submissives - 11/26/2005 9:18:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: OscarHargraves
I have found (in my limited experience) that 'older' women (40+) DO tend to make better submissives than most of the younger ones. I don't know if that's a general rule but I think it's because the ladies at 40 and above know what they want and understand things a lot better.

I really can't agree that, across the board, older females make better subs than younger females, even in generalizations.

However, I think it's just common sense that older people tend to be in better positions to make long term life commitments. Isn't that what the 20s really should be about? Experimenting, learning how to be yourself on your own as an adult?

Nothing wrong with making commitments in one's 20s either, or expecting them to be lifelong. But life teaches us that, generally, older people are in better positions to make lifelong decisions.

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RE: Disrespecting Older Submissives - 11/27/2005 9:19:43 AM

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1) wtf is the attraction for a Dom in His twenties towards a woman my age (52)?

(2) Why do these Men continue pursuing after being told "no, no, no"?

LMOA!!

i was contacted on a profile with something VERY specific Master wants of me. Master agreed i should go to AIM and chat with him. He had a chastity fetish that He spoke about and sent me pics of. He was 23. After he told Master he hoped he did not disappoint Him in chatting with me, he ignored the original profile as to why he contacted me.

i didnt put him on ignore, just made it perfectly clear that no mtter what his needs were, they did not reflect Master's desires for me. he's gone.

No, No, No.... mmmm some still read yes, yes, yes in those words.

i only dated much younger men until Master. i love younger men. i dont know why. gad no, nothing to do with a mother thing!!! i got rid of those bastards fast.

Some men just love older woman, like i like younger men. i never seem to have trouble finding men in their early 20's willing to play with me. Tis just my kink and Master's.

Maybe just consider it flattering candystripper and not engage in YIM or even a friendship.
secret: they want an older woman to fuck not have a friendship with.

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RE: Disrespecting Older Submissives - 11/27/2005 9:26:50 AM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: OscarHargraves
I have found (in my limited experience) that 'older' women (40+) DO tend to make better submissives than most of the younger ones. I don't know if that's a general rule but I think it's because the ladies at 40 and above know what they want and understand things a lot better.

I really can't agree that, across the board, older females make better subs than younger females, even in generalizations.

However, I think it's just common sense that older people tend to be in better positions to make long term life commitments. Isn't that what the 20s really should be about? Experimenting, learning how to be yourself on your own as an adult?

Nothing wrong with making commitments in one's 20s either, or expecting them to be lifelong. But life teaches us that, generally, older people are in better positions to make lifelong decisions.

well...agree to disagree...younger submissives/slaves may know exactly what they want, just like older may or may not know.
Just like younger may be needing committment as much as older.

Older women, IMHO, just seem to know from a life time of expereince more about themselves than a younger woman might (MIGHT) jut like older vs younger men.

i dont think its a matter of disrespecting older submissives tho.

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RE: Disrespecting Older Submissives - 11/27/2005 10:52:27 AM

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well...agree to disagree...younger submissives/slaves may know exactly what they want, just like older may or may not know.
Just like younger may be needing committment as much as older.

Older women, IMHO, just seem to know from a life time of expereince more about themselves than a younger woman might (MIGHT) jut like older vs younger men.

i dont think its a matter of disrespecting older submissives tho.

slavedessires

i find generalizations as broad as this to be almost useless. Some people just do not master life skills, period. i certainly have my failings. i spoke about how exciting i find it to be in my 50's but not every woman is going to feel that way. i have no idea what would constitute a universal standard for a "good subby" inasmuch as Men obviously want different things. So i speak only for myself.

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RE: Disrespecting Older Submissives - 11/27/2005 11:16:37 AM

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Disrespect...........how fascinating; well that's how you see it. Remembering my days in the stockyards, a wonderful side-product to older women is that they could fuck and suck and didn't have qualms about it and they couldn't do much for getting pregnant.

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RE: Disrespecting Older Submissives - 11/27/2005 11:47:26 AM

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Disrespect...........how fascinating; well that's how you see it. Remembering my days in the stockyards, a wonderful side-product to older women is that they could fuck and suck and didn't have qualms about it and they couldn't do much for getting pregnant.

Ron.

i've heard this said about older women before; freed of the burden of child rearing and of the fear of pregnancy (or a reduced fear), they are wilder in bed. i don't really know how valid this assumption is; i can say when i turned about 47 i felt as if someone flipped a switch and turned on a blast furnance; my libido is so high i feel empathy for 18 yr old boys, LMAO.

As for disrespect; well, my profile says "over 40" but i feel flattered by most any Man who takes the time to contact me. It's the refusal to listen when i say "no" that i find disrespectful.

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RE: Disrespecting Older Submissives - 11/27/2005 12:44:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: candystripper

Can anyone explain to me:

(1) wtf is the attraction for a Dom in His twenties towards a woman my age (52)?

(2) Why do these Men continue pursuing after being told "no, no, no"?

i hate these misleading convos; i was honest and why He couldn't accept it mystifies me.

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mmmmmm can't really say much why others find older women attractive.... but I do know that I find emotional and intellectual maturity to be very attractive, which in of it self is not the just the domain of older women!, but more frequent!

and as far as why do men keep pursuing after being told NO! Well in the online environment there is no significant consequences for some one that is being a twit. so you block him... oh well.. you said no anyways! so nothing was lost but everything was a potential to be gained and if there nic becomes tainted to bad on the boards... mmmm well they just go to their nic list and create a new one. I just wonder how many of these twits have pictures on there profiles in the first place... and if they do... is actually them!

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RE: Disrespecting Older Submissives - 11/27/2005 12:48:43 PM

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he is just seeking anyone he can get

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RE: Disrespecting Older Submissives - 11/27/2005 1:44:50 PM

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Second, I will say that you don't look 52 in your picture or anything near it so that could be part of the problem.

OscarHargreaves

Yes, i know, but ty for pointing it out. i think i could lie and say i'm 35; but how do i explain my 27 yr old kid? Anyway, as a whole generation, i think we look much better than our parents did at our age...and have more libido, etc. Goody for us.

candystripper

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RE: Disrespecting Older Submissives - 1/12/2006 7:59:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: candystripper

i've heard this said about older women before; freed of the burden of child rearing and of the fear of pregnancy (or a reduced fear), they are wilder in bed. i don't really know how valid this assumption is; i can say when i turned about 47 i felt as if someone flipped a switch and turned on a blast furnance; my libido is so high i feel empathy for 18 yr old boys, LMAO.

oh hell yeah ... my god my life is my own again. No more taxi service, school obligations, endless arguments with unreasonable teenage daughter, no more comming home to the "I did not know what to wear I have destroyed the house syndrome" ... peace glorious peace. I can go at a moments notice, eat what and when I want, walk arround naked and say anything I want on the phone anywhere in the house and not worry about who is listening.

The freedom I think has a lot to do with libido going into extreeme lol. As for flipping the switch to the blast furnance, hell mine flipped at about 39 lol I only hope there is annother to go off at 47, glory be for age I would not be young again for all the tea in China lol

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RE: Disrespecting Older Submissives - 1/12/2006 8:16:47 PM

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wtf is the attraction?...one word...Oedipus.

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RE: Disrespecting Older Submissives - 1/13/2006 8:25:09 AM

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candystripper wrote:

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Youth has so much to be desired; beauty; fitness; energy; craving

And these qualities expire exactly when?

I'm in my mid thirties, excercise, eat right, love to learn new things, strive to please, and do very much crave <g> While I tend to date men my age or slightly older, I am thrilled when grocery bag boys stare, blush; when college boys ask me out, recieve generous offers from younger Doms. On the other hand : I smile at charming senior men, when they eye me wistfully. I LOVE IT ALL!

I have asked guys "Why?" ---- All had the same answer (simply) : "If you are hot, you're hot" ! They meant this in all sincerety and respect, BTW.

Basically, if a woman is older but still has those positive qualities we associate with youth (which do not expire at an exact date... uh, we don't have barcodes of expiration stamped on our butts) it is a big turn on to many, I gather.

A hot chick with experience WOW!

Please, Ladies: we shouldn't complain! Gentlemen: for once a girl is going to give this advice: Quit using your brain (stop the math) and think with your dick!!

"A slut is a slut is a slut" Need not be degrading, nor a negative!

Have a great weekend :)

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RE: Disrespecting Older Submissives - 1/13/2006 9:03:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: candystripper
(2) Why do these Men continue pursuing after being told "no, no, no"?

That's been going on since the internet BDSM boards started. I know a few Pros who consider this a regular (albeit annoying), everyday event. The best policy is simply to not answer back.

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