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Recovery period from play - 8/31/2008 2:24:20 PM

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Maybe I'm fighting off a cold, or it could be a side effect of menopause, but I seem to be taking a hell of a lot longer to recover from play than I did a few years ago.

We played the other afternoon, had about an hour nap, after which I made dinner and later on we decided to play again. That nearly ended badly, I couldn't figure out what was wrong until the next day.

Then last night some intense (for me) play and today I'm again unsettled as hell.

Any thoughts or suggestions folks? Because this sucks.

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RE: Recovery period from play - 8/31/2008 2:26:49 PM

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I haven't notice a real change through the years, but I'm still kinda young. For me it depends on the play and my reaction to it, I might be just fine the minute it ends, or I still might be processing a few days later.

Is there anything else going on in your life? Are you preparing for the play well enough? Are you just so full of experiences that it takes you longer to process them now?

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RE: Recovery period from play - 8/31/2008 2:29:09 PM

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It could be the onset of subdrop is quicker for you than it used to be. I know that for about a good three days after a bruised/bloody beating I am extrordinarily needy, and cannnot bear to be away from him for more than a short period of time. If you are not sleeping enough, eating enough or spending enough time doing things for yourself, could also have an impact on how quickly you recover. Take a good multivitamin, make sure you are getting plenty of fluids and rest. You may just be having an off week and need some time with your Dominant, not playing. I do hope you feel better soon. I wish you the very best of luck.

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RE: Recovery period from play - 8/31/2008 2:31:34 PM

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I was thinking either "other life stuff" or ramping up to play, as well. But again, we have no first hand experience with menopause.

Sorry to hear.

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RE: Recovery period from play - 9/2/2008 5:58:14 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Maybe I'm fighting off a cold, or it could be a side effect of menopause, but I seem to be taking a hell of a lot longer to recover from play than I did a few years ago.

We played the other afternoon, had about an hour nap, after which I made dinner and later on we decided to play again. That nearly ended badly, I couldn't figure out what was wrong until the next day.

Then last night some intense (for me) play and today I'm again unsettled as hell.

Any thoughts or suggestions folks? Because this sucks.

Des,

Indeed the dynamic can change as body and mindsets change prioritiies, indeed it just may be thyat you need more time to contemplate and build desire prior to the start.

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RE: Recovery period from play - 9/2/2008 9:58:50 AM

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Its probably hormonal. I know that our walls are supposed to be thinner, and we should be more prone to bruising ect when entering and finishing menopause. I have friends whose entire sex drive has dropped off, and some who have embraced the change and the freedom. But everyone agrees that it does change things. I have yet to feel any difference. I have heard black cohash is supposed to help.
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RE: Recovery period from play - 9/2/2008 10:10:38 AM

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I have seen it happen to a few submissives after intense play. I think the way out is after a good sleep to submerge yourself in work, exercise, conversation, movies and so on. 5 HTP is also a good over the counter serotonin precursor supplement that may help.

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RE: Recovery period from play - 9/2/2008 10:53:18 AM

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Funny thing synchronocity as i was thinking this very thing myself.
It's been a weird two weeks. I had a ligament tear in my shoulder which i turned down surgery for twice way back in 2005. Thinking of course that i was too busy for surgery, thinking of course that i could just go to the gym and heal it, thinking of course that i was different as usual and could rebel against what the doctors were saying.
Anyway the shoulder pain had suddenly become worse. You know the type of pain; can't turn to put a seat belt on in the car, can't put on a jacket, can't lift a bag of shopping. Worse; i can't play my flute as it's my ;eft shoulder. Even worse is when i stop and rest or lay down. hell it's hell.
Anyway i was post play and walking arounf with two distinct types of pain. One bad pain (the torn ligament). And two good pain; ost needle play, delicious pain.
Both lots of pain running parallel in my experience, but god i felt worn out, do feel worn out and brought down by the constant ligament pain, which won't go away and i can;t deal with it.
My Master says it's because it's my boy telling me something is wrong, as opposed to the good pain telling me something is right. he's right. But either way i have learned that anything of a hurtful nature which is not 'right' before or during or after play makes me tired, cranky, anxious and needing to sleep the scene away.
I'm changing and moving away from being the emotional masochist i was. When i scrutinize what i could tolerate emotionally, i am certain i would find exceptionally difficult to process now.
It's all about processing the scene.
I am a total baby if i have to give blood in a medical setting. a syringe can make me feel faint. i won't look, can;t look if i am having a tetanus for example. But edge play is what i crave and love. Perhaps, just perhaps, and this is what i was thingkinh about this afternoon, the body itself does not distinguish between one sort of 'attack' and another. It just takes psychological energy to deal with what could otherwise be experienced by the body as post traumatic stress.
Hormones definitely play their part. I've also used 5HTP and when serotonin levels are high (well when i am simply happy0 i don't get the drop hardly at all and can tolerate intense levels of pain processing. In terms of age, the older i get the more i am able to process and just get on with daily life. with a household to run there isn;t really any choice.

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RE: Recovery period from play - 9/2/2008 3:21:13 PM

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I'm noticing more recovery time is needed as the years go by, but it could just be a whole lot of factors...more intense play...too much on my plate...just plain tired...or I'm just enjoying and appreciating more now than when I was younger.

Have a little patience with yourself, no matter what age we are, no matter what is going on with our day to day lives, no matter what chemical/hormone/medical change we're going through, it's all part of the cycle of life...there will always speed bumps...some might just be bigger than others.

My Great-Grandmother, who lived to be 103, used to tell me all the time, no matter what is going on today, in 3 months it'll change. She sure was right!

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RE: Recovery period from play - 9/2/2008 4:34:45 PM

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Its probably hormonal. I know that our walls are supposed to be thinner, and we should be more prone to bruising ect when entering and finishing menopause. I have friends whose entire sex drive has dropped off, and some who have embraced the change and the freedom. But everyone agrees that it does change things. I have yet to feel any difference. I have heard black cohash is supposed to help.
Kyst

Black Cohosh helped me a lot! But I also backed that up with progesterone cream for the mood swings and hot flashes. And yeah, menopause changes a lot of things. My sex drive has taken a nose dive and my eating habits have even changed. Foods I loved before I can't stand to smell now.

So maybe you are going through some serious mood swings and they are intensified by the sub drop. I would look into the progesterone cream, it kept me from killing anyone.

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