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RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues - 9/5/2008 4:58:19 AM

MsStarlett

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Ok... I've said repeatedly that I'm not into sissies. However! I was actually looking for one at one time. I wanted someone who could help ME get dressed, do my hair, make up & nails. Basically be a personal valet. That was such a disaster! The only ones that I found were the men who were just starting out as female impersonators and had ZERO idea about how to go about it. They wanted ME to do their clothes, hair, make up and nails. They want a FemDom to be THEIR personal valet - then flounce around the house with a feather duster. Not happening.

Yes. One bad apple does spoil the whole barrel. And a barrel full of rotten apples will turn a woman's stomache for that one preciouse jewel hidden in the slop.

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RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues - 9/7/2008 6:26:17 AM

MsDandsissykelly

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Greetings, A/all. I am somewhat new to the collar-chat forum, but not new to Sissy Maid Training and Maids in general. I have written numerous articles and presented at BDSM conferences on this very subject, so nothing I have read herein has yet to surprise me. It is unfortunately true that many sissy maids are self-serving, lazy little imps who engage in this kink only to satisfy their maid fascination and overall fantasies. However, there are indeed several out there who truly "get it," and know their place within the seams of their uniform...these are the sissy maids who work their frilly little butts off to please their Dominant. These are the ones who pick up the toaster, shake out the crumbs, and actually clean underneath it. The lazy sissy would fluff her matching feather duster around the toaster, while humming and skipping around the kitching like a giddy schoolgirl.

Many Dominants quickly give up on these types of sissy maids, with good reason. What many don't realize, however, is that you can easily train the lazy, self-serving sissy (bad apple) into the hard-working, self-less sissy (good apple). The bad apples simply need a brushing off, and a chance to bloom before they ruin the whole barrel.

I wholeheartedly agree with member "pinnipedster," in his assessment regarding the inner session. I have always said that D/s is a two-way street. If both parties are not fully enjoying themselves, the situation should be re-evaluated immediately. Yes, that means the sissy maid should be enjoying herself as well...not as much as the Dominant, of course, but you get the idea :-) No, Pinnipedster, that does not mean you are not a "true submissive," in my opinion. It means you know what you want, and are willing to work hard to get it. You understand that the lady's needs and happiness comes first, but you are also smart enough to realize that, if you're not having any fun yourself, where's the motivation to properly perform your chores? Your statement here says it all: "I would not expect constant attention -- she wouldn't have to follow me around with a whip to get me to work at all -- but if I don't get *some* attention, then there's not really much there for me." I find that kind of truth refreshing and I believe you hit the nail on the head. An unhappy, unfulfilled sissy maid is an unproductive maid. As with any situation in life, the worker must be kept happy in order to do a good job. That being said, the sissy maid should know that they will probably not enjoy every little task asked of them. That is simply common sense. Not many people enjoy scrubbing a dirty toilet. This may not make the sissy "happy." However, seeing the smile upon their Dominant's face when they admire a sparkling loo, should make the sissy happy. Most often, your pleasure should be derived from pleasing the Dominant. That is the main point of submission, in my opinion.

Back to the other end of the spectrum...if the "lazy" sissy maid's behavior fails to change (the bad apple just keeps spoiling) after numerous attempts to train her, I would deem this creature anything but submissive. I would call her a "Maid Enthusiast," or simply a "Fetishist," but certainly not a "Sissy Maid." Such a title should be reserved for those true submissives who enjoy dressing in the proper gear to perform the proper chores in a solid attempt to evoke nothing but happiness from their Dominant.

In closing, the Dominant should ask the interested submissive this one important question before engaging in a scene: Are you a "Service-oriented sissy maid" who is interested in performing maid-type duties, like dusting, scrubbing, vaccuming, etc? OR.....are you a "Maid-Enthusiast Fetishist" who is mainly interested in the glam, the fashion, and the overall delicious feeling of trouncing around in petticoats? A good sissy maid should be a nice mix of the two. Although there is nothing wrong with the Maid Fetishist, if that's your idea of a good time, then good for you. However, when you use a Dominant to fulfill your kink and leave them unfulfilled, therein lies the problem where you make the good apples disappear within the deep barrel of fluffy petticoats and feather dusters.

Just know your kink and own it, and all should be well on both sides.

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Miss Demonica
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RE: Extended maid or sissy training providers or venues - 9/7/2008 6:52:45 AM

thomas790

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I whole heartedly agree with everything written by Miss Demonica. I have cleaned toilets, washed clothing both by hand and machine, cleaned kitchens and done a variety of other tasks so The Woman had an environment in which She felt cared for. My reward was the fact I was told I had done a good job and she liked my work.
It is important for anyone to take pride in what you do. It isn't the task that is unpleasant it is whether you approach it with a positive attitude. Maybe it's just me. As much as punishment is good, I wouldn't screw up a task to be punished. That's topping from the bottom. It should be about showing respect through work and making the life of the Dominant easier. What sub would believe his/her Dominant should have to clean their own toilet or iron their own clothes? That's kind of absurd.
I also think personal appearance is important. As a male I would never go out with unpressed clothes or unshined shoes. It would give the impression I don't take pride in my appearance. Most of us are like that but not everyone has the time. If I can help a Woman look Her best by providing a real old fashioned shoe shine to the shoes She wears to work that's great. And i don't mean slobbering on Her heels. Ironing, laundry, cleaning, those are things a sub can do to show he cares.

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