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RE: Does anyone else not feel submissive after orgasm? - 9/6/2008 2:30:12 PM

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I feel the same way, and I'm not a man. For some reason, the idea of BDSM just seems "icky" afterwards. I thought at first it was guilt, but it's not...definitely something else.

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RE: Does anyone else not feel submissive after orgasm? - 9/6/2008 2:33:10 PM

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in some ways i feel more submissive after an orgasm. when a man makes me orgasm i want to please him as well...that's not saying i don't want to at other times, but after an O, i'm a big puddle of yes Sir.

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RE: Does anyone else not feel submissive after orgasm? - 9/6/2008 2:33:28 PM

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It's totally normal. I don't feel completely icky, but sometimes afterwards I'm like OMG did I just DO that?!? As for men, I knew a man I used to Domme on a regular basis who went from a wonderful puppy dog and so submissive to a MONSTER when he came. The minute he was done he called me horrible names and practically threw me out the door. I learned really quick that he could only cum once I left. It was like Jekyll and Hide on steroids, the craziest change but I think he also had emotional problems so I quit playing with him. But if you think about the fantasies that pop up when you're masturbating (things you would never think about considering doing ) it makes sense. So normal. Now if we could just get all the vanillas to see how normal we are :) Just kidding.

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RE: Does anyone else not feel submissive after orgasm? - 9/8/2008 8:46:54 PM

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A wonderful post and thought-provoking thread indeed!

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RE: Does anyone else not feel submissive after orgasm? - 9/9/2008 4:03:26 AM

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See, I don't really understand what it means to "feel" submissive. Does it mean feeling less like serving? If so, then for me an orgasm hightens my desire to please. I want to give Him a massage, clean Him, cater to Him and show Him how much I nearly worship Him.

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RE: Does anyone else not feel submissive after orgasm? - 9/9/2008 6:48:12 AM

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I NEVER feel submissive after an orgasm. Hmmmmmmmm

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RE: Does anyone else not feel submissive after orgasm? - 9/9/2008 6:50:39 AM

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I'm a big melted mess after Sir makes me cum. I'd do absolutely anything (short of murder, cause I don't have the energy) for him at that point.

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RE: Does anyone else not feel submissive after orgasm? - 9/9/2008 6:53:15 AM

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Nope. I just want to roll over & go to sleep.

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RE: Does anyone else not feel submissive after orgasm? - 9/9/2008 7:33:45 AM

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It makes my boy feel less submissive after he has cum. Which is usually when I make him go and do things for me to remind him who is in charge lol Its fun watching his face look slightly cross as apposed to loving and submissive before cumming.

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RE: Does anyone else not feel submissive after orgasm? - 9/9/2008 7:40:57 AM

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ORIGINAL: submale26uk

Fair enough,

Perhaps it's more of a male thing?

being a male probably has a lot to do with it. the almost instantaneous drop of any sexual feelings after orgasm. if your submission is stronger as you become more aroused...that could be it. I become more sadistic when I become more aroused and immediately after an orgasm I drop down quite a few notches.

ever have that feeling after masturbating where you are absolutely disgusted with what you were just watching or thinking mere seconds ago?

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RE: Does anyone else not feel submissive after orgasm? - 9/9/2008 7:45:53 AM

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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

Do you think it might be linked to the same thing that makes the guy roll over and go to sleep? Could just be a chemical thing I suppose.

yeah. you have no idea how unsexual a lot of men feel right after an orgasm. the feeling is kind of like sneezing in that the seconds leading up to it your entire mind is concentrated on the sensation and immediately after the release you lose all of that sensation and think something along the lines of 'ok, now what was I doing?'

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RE: Does anyone else not feel submissive after orgasm? - 9/9/2008 7:49:57 AM

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ORIGINAL: Racquelle

For many men their notion of personal power is so closely linked to that "throbbing rod of steel" they are packing that its hard to divorce the two notions. Really, it's a double edged sword - we have to all kind of buy the notion of sex as power for us to engage in the power play that is a common component of what we do. (Yes, yes, yes - 42 responders will feel compelled to tell me that "what we do" has nothing to do with sex - blah, blah, blah. LOL.) I am not a switch, but I am not always compelled to engage in sexual dominance - sometimes I just fuck. Recently I had a lover declare "I feel sooo powerful" after having just eaten me until I came, and another one who said "this makes me feel so powerful" as I had my hand up his ass and milked his prostate. I was thinking "WTF?" One man's dominance is another's submission, and it just goes to show, it really isn't the specific act itself that is submissive or dominant, but in how we play it, and how we feel about it.

So, to the OP, if you want to feel more submissive about your orgasms, that's something for you to meditate on and work on with your Master or Mistress. As with many things, we have almost an infinite power to change our mindsets and attitudes. Good luck.

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RE: Does anyone else not feel submissive after orgasm? - 9/9/2008 10:08:50 AM

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ORIGINAL: variation30
WHAT WE DO HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH SEX!

I don't know about you but what I do has to do with sex!

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