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RE: Erectile Dysfunction - 9/10/2008 7:28:25 PM

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it's a wierd ass thread, Jeff.....

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RE: Erectile Dysfunction - 9/10/2008 9:44:54 PM

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Well speaking as a Dom who has ED, A condom might cause a little loss of sensation, (ie diabetic neuropathy also effects the sensations you feel with your penis, along with the vascular issues.) But a condom by itself has never made me go limp..just the ED. There are treatments, of which I do partake. Me and my Sub have very satisfying sex life, she knows I have issues and we work around them, and for that I love her with all my heart. For what I lack in that department, I more than make up for it with my oral skills.

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RE: Erectile Dysfunction - 9/11/2008 11:19:10 AM

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Aw, Bless you Riggor.

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RE: Erectile Dysfunction - 9/11/2008 4:32:57 PM

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OK since this has been a flame fest so far, let me get my tin foil suit on.

I have the problem she is speaking of, had it when I was 18 and still have it now. I do not have ED, I have ADD. You may laugh at that, but unfortunately for me my brain is my biggest sex organ. I have lost many erections while stopping to grab a condom, opening it and putting it on. I do not lose it totally, just enough to lose the sensation that is needed to keep it going. So after getting the condom on I can start to have sex, but the less than 100% hardness coupled with reduction in sensation from the condom equals disappointment.

However, to answer the original post, no dom worth playing with would be willing to have unprotected sex with you simply because of ED. When I first play with someone sex takes a back seat. The bottom gets lots of stimulation, and I get off on the power. As we get to know each other oral sex becomes part of the routine. Finally intercourse is the last part of the puzzle to be put in place. I vastly prefer sex without a condom, and I strive to be fluid bound with a partner so we can acheive that, but condoms are a rule until that happens.

As for my own condom issues, I simply went to the doctor and asked for ED pills to countermand my scatterbrain, and guess what? Sex with condoms is completely possible no matter my mental state.

Next time this comes up, simply say no sex. No reason to argue. If he is a typical guy, sex is pretty important and he will suck it up and get some treatment.

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RE: Erectile Dysfunction - 9/11/2008 4:55:30 PM

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A guy told me once that if he had to wear an old-fashioned diving suit complete with weighted belt and an air hose to the surface in order to get laid, he would do it in a heartbeat.

Made me think a condom wasn't such a big deal.

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RE: Erectile Dysfunction - 9/11/2008 5:00:06 PM

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i've never met a Dom with ED....at least it never happened when they were with me.....
PS treated a fair few men as clients who had the issue....it has a strong psychological component (as do all issues).
In my purely personal opinion much ED is created from the perceived need to perform especially when faced with demanding partners who keep harping on about not getting enough sex.

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RE: Erectile Dysfunction - 9/11/2008 5:18:38 PM

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A real empath such as yourself should not need a bunch of strangers to tell you the motives of someone they have never met. You did meet the men....apparently several more than just one....so with your ability you should be able to discover their motives. Actually, you should have been able to read their thoughts and known beforehand what was going to happen...past, present, and future.

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RE: Erectile Dysfunction - 9/11/2008 6:54:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressPav

Erectile Dysfunction is a HUGE indicator of an unhealthy cardiovascular system.
If you're having problems getting blood flow to the penis, other organs are also having trouble getting fresh, oxygen rich blood.
Makes sense, yes?

What to do about it? Diet and exercise. I know ya'll might be getting sick of hearing me say it, but somebody has to say it to get thru to others.
You'd be surprised at all the ailments you can cure with a good diet and regular moderate PHYSICAL activity.

Have add, you are very correct, am 70 and go with best of young guys yet, I ride a bike at least hour daily, can't run bad knees, plus I do sit and push ups, have lost lot weight, amazing old penis pops up on command much to pleasure of a couple younger subs. Exercise and weight loss will improve blood flow with positive results, nope don't need the pills.

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RE: Erectile Dysfunction - 9/12/2008 12:30:41 AM

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[What's with all the rude commentary to the OP? It's nasty, immature, and highly unattractive, btw. Just thought I might point that out for what it's worth. Whoever is moderating must be off duty and oughta get back on the job.]

Using the excuse that he can't get it up if he wears a condom is priceless and common. The answer, I think, is to quip back that you're open to whatever else he has in mind, as long as it doesn't involve making you pregnant or putting you at risk for STDs.

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ORIGINAL: Briena

I know a man that the pills didnt work on. He used to have to fuck his wife with a dildo and talk dirty like he was still having sex with her. That has to be embarassing and uncomfortable. Maybe reassurance and support is a better tool than judgment and anger.

Having to fuck your wife with a dildo and talk dirty (since you can't have sex with her) is a problem? Embarrassing and uncomfortable? How so? I would think that would be the least he could do, along with lengthy oral and manual stimulation.

I think the problem here is that being in denial about ED isn't going to endear a man to his partner. There are ways to please, but one has to be open to those ways of pleasing. It's a real turn off when a man has ED and isn't open about other possibilities and alternatives, since the equipment isn't working anymore. I wouldn't pass on one with ED but I would definitely pass on one who was too uptight to figure out other creative ideas for simulating intercourse and pleasing one's partner.

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RE: Erectile Dysfunction - 9/12/2008 6:49:57 AM

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peppermint, empaths are not fortune tellers. Yes, I get that they are in denial, but what I don't get is why?

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RE: Erectile Dysfunction - 9/12/2008 6:58:20 AM

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Thank you, Dominant Damsel.

That was better put than the Op, probably.

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RE: Erectile Dysfunction - 9/13/2008 4:35:40 AM

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Just in case someone does not know the correct way to use a condom

http://www.wikihow.com/Use-a-Condom

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RE: Erectile Dysfunction - 9/13/2008 5:55:55 AM

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Condoms and ED....

The problem from change in shape. When the penis ends up being conical while erect and not the cylinder it once was... you put on a condom and watch it bounce off the ceiling launched as if from a rubber band gun.

Do they make a garter belt for condoms?

Any way, enjoying someone doesn't have to mean ejaculating into an orifice.

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RE: Erectile Dysfunction - 9/13/2008 6:02:13 AM

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the first time i put a condom on someone i had no real clue what i was doing but refused to admit it. I knew you had to leave a bit of room in the tip, and once it was on i thought there was not enough, so i grabbed the tip and pulled....then i let go. He was not pleased.

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RE: Erectile Dysfunction - 9/13/2008 6:06:24 AM

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hehehehe - i have been so tempted to do that with doctors(they can't put on their own gloves!) - but this picture is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much better!!

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RE: Erectile Dysfunction - 9/13/2008 6:15:19 AM

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ORIGINAL: candystripper

One of the largest number of new HIV diagnosises are among patients aged 50 and over:

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Although fewer people are being diagnosed with AIDS in the United States and deaths continue to decline, the number of older adults living with HIV/AIDS is larger than ever. Between 1991 and 1996, the number of new AIDS diagnoses rose twice as fast in people over 50 than in those younger than 50. And although the rate slowed from 1996-2000, increases in the older population continued despite great improvements in treatment for HIV that became widely used beginning in 1996-1997. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), there are more than 78,000 people age 50 years or older living with AIDS in the United States. The most accurate statistics about these older adults are based on an AIDS diagnosis. Some states don't include HIV statistics in their reporting, and, among those that do, the incidence of HIV in older adults may be under reported. New York State began including HIV statistics in 2000. The most recent statistics show that 25% (about 22,000 people) of all people living with HIV and AIDS in New York City are age 50 or older.

What other studies have shown is that in women over 50, the vast majority acquired this from their husband. They believed they were fluid bonded but the guys were going to prostitutes on the side. Try researching a subject in full, first.

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RE: Erectile Dysfunction - 9/13/2008 7:15:07 AM

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That might account for some of it Celestse, but even if it does, it is still scarey. The point is, it is foolish to have unprotected sex with a new partner at any age; being older does not protect you in any way.

I'd like to see a link to a reliable article that blames the upswing in diagnosises in people over 50 on the use of prostitutes, Celeste. Very few men I've ever met would do that.

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RE: Erectile Dysfunction - 9/13/2008 7:17:14 AM

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Very few men I've ever met would do that.

Are you sure it's not more like "would not admit to that"?

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RE: Erectile Dysfunction - 9/13/2008 7:43:35 AM

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I've had problems with this, and yes, I've used each of the meds available. I'm 46, and I have Type II diabetes. Before that, I was on some of the earliest anti-depressants on the market, which also left me with a dead sex drive for years on end. It's doesn't happen to me all the time, but often enough that it could cause some major confidence issues. When it does happen, it's great to have a "plan B."

The fact that there are treatments for this dysfunction is a godsend. Less than 20 years ago, myself and men like me would have had to just shut down, and walk away from our sexuality.

Sure, it would be great if I were 18 again, and were still getting erections when I'm just looking at an attractive female. (or in my case, person) I would especially like it if my physical response to my partner did not depend on a pill... but the pill is still better than sitting there, and both of us having to make apologies, and both be silently wondering if it's ourselves that are lacking...

No, the only commercials that I hated are the ones for the fake pills. "Smilin' Bob" with his whistling tune, was yanked because that commercial was for a cruel form of snake oil. It couldn't have been taken off the air fast enough for my taste. I'm still wondering why so many people in the Cialis commercials are taking baths outside... but I guess I'm just not seeing the metaphor. Lavitra at least approaches the reality of the situation.

But I still find Viagra to be the best on the market. The others seem to be pretty lacking in their effect. With Viagra, the problem isn't so much getting an erection, but what to do with it after the first two hours... (ring toss often works)

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