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RE: Is a happy compromise possible? - 11/30/2005 8:23:38 AM

amayos

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While I firmly believe a noble master is neither born of nor moved by need, I do feel a submissive girl—particularly if she uses the often abused term "slave" to describe herself—should be willing to obey her master in the fullest, without question or compromise. But that's my perspective. I wish you luck.

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RE: Is a happy compromise possible? - 11/30/2005 9:56:32 AM

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Obeying is one thing. But, unless you agreed previously to his unilaterally changing the rules (and from the way it sounds, you didn't), then what he is doing is wrong. You negotiated and agreed to a set of rules, a contract (I'm assuming a contract). There needs to be a discussion about this situationa and a resolution.

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Thanks To All - 12/1/2005 8:40:19 AM

CaptainsPet

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I just wanted to thank everyone for their opinions, comments, and advice. The matter is resolved between Captain and me. I'm released. He came down early to "talk." It was a lot of yelling (mostly Him) and lots of crying (mostly me). I don't think He heard anything I had to say. I begged Him...really, really, on hands and knees. I begged Him not to push this. His final arguement: "If you can't do this for me; then you don't deserve my collar." He was so, so cold. He took off my collar while I was telling Him how much I loved Him, and begging Him not to do it. His parting words: "You'll come crawling back looking for this (the collar), and don't be too sure I'll take you back." He was never that mean to me. Ever.
I went back in the house. I just kept shaking and crying. I felt better after I threw up. But I'm really sad, and kinda angry, and emotionally raw. Thanks for letting me get this out. Now I need lots and lots of coffee if I'm gonna move at all today. Thank you all, again.

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RE: Thanks To All - 12/1/2005 8:52:47 AM

KatyLied

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quote:

"You'll come crawling back looking for this (the collar), and don't be too sure I'll take you back."

Another immature man. They are everywhere.
You will be fine. Give yourself some time and space to heal.
And hope that you don't hear from him, because that is the hardest thing to deal with.
Hugs

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RE: Thanks To All - 12/1/2005 9:24:30 AM

Tempestspet

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I'm sorry to hear this happened so harshly for you. Perhaps, it was better sooner than later when it would have been harder/worse.

Please take care....smiles... and good luck.

Tempest's pet
jennifer

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RE: Thanks To All - 12/1/2005 9:25:30 AM

Sartoris32801

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

quote:

"You'll come crawling back looking for this (the collar), and don't be too sure I'll take you back."

Katy, Is this a Johnny Cash song?

Sartoris

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RE: Thanks To All - 12/1/2005 9:51:33 AM

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Um, it should be. But many of us have heard variations on the theme....."here's my number, you know you'll dial it, just hope I pick it up" argh

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RE: Thanks To All - 12/1/2005 10:28:48 AM

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So glad my pain was amusing for you, Sartoris. I'd hate to think it was for nothing.

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RE: Thanks To All - 12/1/2005 10:45:55 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CaptainsPet

So glad my pain was amusing for you, Sartoris. I'd hate to think it was for nothing.

The source of my amusement was "The Captains" actions and response. You have to admit that his, ...you'll come crawling back....smacked a bit of C&W tear in my beer.

Frankly I think the end result was a good one for all concerned and I wish you well.

Sartoris

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RE: Thanks To All - 12/1/2005 11:04:34 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Um, it should be. But many of us have heard variations on the theme....."here's my number, you know you'll dial it, just hope I pick it up" argh

only too true. the best thing to be done is to get rid of that number and not ever call it. same goes for emails and door bells. if it's broken, it's not going to fix itself miraculously; it's not going to work. at least that's my theory for 99.999% of the times.

i am sorry that things happened so dramatically for Captainspet. she certainly didn't deserve such a horrible ending to things as they transpired. i hope that as time goes by she sees things more clearly and realizes her decisions were well based.

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RE: Thanks To All - 12/1/2005 11:24:43 AM

happypervert

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Congrats on sticking up for yourself and not being manipulated or intimidated by yelling and guilt trips into doing what you know isn't right. Bravo!

I think it's also good that he acted like such an ass at your last meeting; though it seem tragic and dramatic now his bad behavior should accelerate the healing process. I think if he REALLY cared about you he could have had a discussion instead of tantrum. All you have to do is reflect on that last meeting and then think what else could have been revealed if you eventually did decide to move in with him later.

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RE: Thanks To All - 12/1/2005 12:53:12 PM

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I came into this later but I read all the posts. Captainspet, you are now lucky to be out of this relationship. IMO, your collar came too soon. You both really didn't kow each other. For all you know, he had this moving thing in the back of his mind all along. He was just passing the time until he thought he had you hooked. The way he acted is apalling for a Dom or man or anyone. This would tel how he would be in the future also.

I am truly sorry for you having to go through this. It's not pretty. You will come out of this smarter and more careful. Do not go into something for a while. You will end up in a worse emotional state. Heal, give yourself time, and then tiptoe back in. Surround yourself with family and friends. YOu will be comforted and loved..

Respectfully,
sultry

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RE: Is a happy compromise possible? - 12/1/2005 2:18:48 PM

daredevil865

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CaptainsPet

Sorry to hear how this worked out for you.....while I am sure it may not be the case right now, hopefully once some time passes you may see this as a good thing...a small bit of advice ... go slow ....take your time before jumping into anything new...and perhaps a name change (as CaptainsPet no longer applies) may be in order

best of luck
DareDevil

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RE: Is a happy compromise possible? - 12/1/2005 3:37:11 PM

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What are you afraid of?

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RE: Is a happy compromise possible? - 12/2/2005 10:47:47 AM

CaptainsPet

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Thank you all for your kindness and concern. I can honestly say I have met some really nice people here, who have been very generous with their words and wisdom. That's why I respect all opinions. And I'm sorry, Sartoris, for misreading your post. I was very snarky then. Please forgive me. I wish I could change my user name, DareDevil, but they won't let me do that. I'd have to close this account, and start over. That sounds like a pain. Maybe I'll get around to it later. I'm just Pet. That'll work for now. In some small way, I am proud I stood my ground. That was the hardest thing to do. When he started yelling, I just wanted to do anything to make Him stop. He made me feel like I was deliberately trying to screw things up for Him. That was never, never my intention. I've never been dressed down like that. It was a weird Dr. Jekyl/ Mr. Hyde kind of thing. Really scary to see someone so "in control" lose it like that. Thankfully, it didn't last that long, but it felt like forever. After seeing Him like that, I now know I did the right thing. Of course that doesn't make me feel any better. But thank you, Sartoris, girl4u2, happypervert, sultryvoice, daredevil...your posts give me some strength. And I will definately go very, very slowly from now on. I just want friends, no collar. Things just happened way too fast, and escalated beyond what I could handle. I'll remember that lesson. I don't need to make that mistake again. Nice and easy is the pace for me.

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