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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

giggles...well i do know some great stories of earned hankies...but honestly we all have great stories...and we have all earned our colors in some way at some point, with or with out actual flags to wave. :)

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What i truly am trying to find out is if there is any sort of consensus of opinion of what does constitute as heavy play?

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

I agree with catize.  What I consider heavy, someone else might consider teasing.

you misst, are a good example.  Some of the stuff you have spoken of doing I cannot imagine...at this point in my life...doing to someone.  Though I do know that I do play heavier than I did when I first started out.  When my first submissive came to visit me in Spring 07 and watched me play with a friend of hers, she whispered in my ear "If you think you are going to go as heavy on me as you did on her, dear Sir...you have another think coming.  You've gotten wayyyyyyyy dangerous."

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ORIGINAL: catize

~grins~ okay I am a ‘heavy bottom’ but that’s because of my size! 
Seriously, tho, I think each person has to define it.  If it is more than I can take, it would be heavy in my estimation, where someone else might think it’s light and fluffy.

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giggles...well i do know some great stories of earned hankies...but honestly we all have great stories...and we have all earned our colors in some way at some point, with or with out actual flags to wave. :)

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If were going to try to quantify painsluttiness i am definitely in on the discussion but i hope it doesnt degenerate into a grammar discussion and bitchfight....well at least i hope grammar stays out of it.

I'm hoping for that too

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you misst, are a good example.  Some of the stuff you have spoken of doing I cannot imagine...at this point in my life...doing to someone. 

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What I consider heavy, someone else might consider teasing.

May i ask what you do consider heavy?

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I don't think it has anything to do with HOW MUCH SOMEONE ELSE THINKS YOU CAN TAKE; and everything to do with pushing YOUR OWN BOUNDARIES to the extreme edge. Just remember, your boundaries may stand at the same line that another's begin.

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

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ORIGINAL: catize

~grins~ okay I am a ‘heavy bottom’ but that’s because of my size! 
Seriously, tho, I think each person has to define it.  If it is more than I can take, it would be heavy in my estimation, where someone else might think it’s light and fluffy.

See i think along the same lines as you but have to accept that most people i know think i am a heavy player, so tend to go along with their judgement of me. So therefore i have to accept in turn that what i do is heavy. Pretty sure though there are those on here and in r/l who would call me fluffy.
 

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giggles...well i do know some great stories of earned hankies...but honestly we all have great stories...and we have all earned our colors in some way at some point, with or with out actual flags to wave. :)

I'm interested in them honestly just purely out of seeing what people do think is heavy play.
 

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If were going to try to quantify painsluttiness i am definitely in on the discussion but i hope it doesnt degenerate into a grammar discussion and bitchfight....well at least i hope grammar stays out of it.

I'm hoping for that too
 

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you misst, are a good example.  Some of the stuff you have spoken of doing I cannot imagine...at this point in my life...doing to someone. 

Fluffy moi lol.
 

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What I consider heavy, someone else might consider teasing.

May i ask what you do consider heavy?  
 

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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

I've decided paintballs to the abdomen is heavy play.

Other than that, it's really up to the person.

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

Recently i went kinky shopping with my Sir and a couple of friends. We were in a shop and discussing the handkerchief code with the owner. It came up that a black hanky on your ermmmmm can't remember whether it was left or right side now, meant you were a heavy bottom. The owner of the shop said that usually you were presented with this hanky / earnt it. My first thought was 'you need to do what to earn it? Pass an exam lol'. The second was 'who decides if you are a heavy bottom?' I assume and gathered from the convo that usually your D type would award you with it.
Now here comes my problem and the whole point of this thread. There are probably hundreds (maybe) of S types wandering around displaying proudly their black hanky they've been given for being a heavy bottom. But by whos standards?
I'm thinking that this debate is a little like the slave /sub debate in that heavy play will be defined differently by everyone. What with opinions on different kinks being as they are, everyone having different pain tolerance levels and even different reasons for taking pain the answer cannot be simple.
As i said myself in another thread i see myself as a pain slut but moderate. Most i have played with have said i'm wrong and that i am a heavy bottom bordering on insane. Now i'm not trying to say heavy players are better than sensual players or anything judgemental in any way in this thread.
What i truly am trying to find out is if there is any sort of consensus of opinion of what does constitute as heavy play?
 

To please and be pleasing to Him, always, in all ways.

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ORIGINAL: Juliannadelion

Hello Miss!

Hmmm.  Good question actually.  My Lord and I have been discussing creating a laminated card or id bracelet for me in case I am ever in a car accident or some type of emergency where I may be unconcious and injured.  The reason is, that, I am continuously covered in bruises, cuts, lashes, bite marks and any number of things that would make a sane person think that I was being abused.  Can you imagine being a nurse in the emergency room and removing the clothing of a person and seeing them covered in marks?  I do not wish to come to, having the cops and the domestic abuse people there asking questions!!