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RE: Help - 9/10/2008 11:43:31 AM

dawntreader

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ORIGINAL: sistermargaret

off topic aside ...

"Dream and the way will be clear
Pray and the angels will hear
Leap and the net will appear..."
CK

i really like that!
sm

All it takes is absolute surrender

Thanks :-) i like it too!

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RE: Help - 9/11/2008 10:01:16 AM

candystripper

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pnut, you've had zero opportunity to observe this man in real life, and very little opportunity to do any reality testing...it's tempting to give in to someone's blandisments by IM or phone, but they are not looking you in the eye. This whole business of 'tell me everything' should work both ways or not at all...and any man who suggests you're 'overly-emotional because you're on you're period' demonstrates a fundamental lapse in his respect for women.

If you don't break it off, at least consider backing it up.

Take care, pnut.

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RE: Help - 9/11/2008 3:42:01 PM

BlackPhx

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Pnut...

You've gotten some good advice already but I am gonna kick in a couple of lines as well.

Please realize that since everything is online and by phone the only one who has committed any domination of you is YOU. Other than cutting off contact he has no way of punishing you, of making you do anything or even knowing if you are following his orders. riight now the only control he has is the control you allow him. To some degree this is good, but it is far too easy to fall for the domination you are doing of yourself in his name. Please don't. When you meet, if you meet, then you are back at square one as if NONE of it had happened, or you should be, otherwise you can rush in too quickly and be hurt.

Be careful in unwrapping those emotions. Yes, it is a good thing to acknowledge them and feel them, however, there are booby traps in there you may not be aware of as well. You have already seen one where he is questioning if it is hormonal when they seem out of control. He is not there to hold you through a crying jag, not there when faced with a sleepless night, not there to get you help if you are overwhelmed by an emotion or depression. He has little vested in you and can walk away leaving behind an emotional wreck without ever seeing you face to face. This is not healthy. Please do not do this without a physical face to face support system in place. If you are confused and afraid of what you are feeling, you really do need to have someone closer advising you and there when you need a broad shoulder and listening ear. His doesn't sound like one.

Try and locate your closest Munch and get out to meet people. There are more than a few in the NY area..and if you need someone safe to introduce you around I still have a friend or two I can tap, up there.

Please be and stay safe...

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