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Time With Master - 9/11/2008 1:44:17 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I was talking to a switch friend the other day.   She said something that surprised me.  She said when she is being submissive if the Dom can only giver her an hour on a particular day, she does not even want to see him.  She figures an hour is not worth it.

Last night Master had to work late and then go back for a meeting so we only had 45 mins together.  I mean I love  it when we have more time to spend together.  I would not say it is not worth it though  any time Iget with my Master is precious and Icherish it.  I still got to see his smile, hear his voice, get kisses and be held in his arms, it was 100% worth it.

How do you feel about any amount of time spent with your Master?

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RE: Time With Master - 9/11/2008 1:48:20 PM   
lronitulstahp


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Status: offline 		i think an hour with One you've known and spent time with for a while is different from spending only an hour here, an hour there, in the beginning of a relationship.  If your friend is speaking of the latter, i can totally relate to how frustrating they find it.

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RE: Time With Master - 9/11/2008 1:59:49 PM   
BRNaughtyAngel


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Status: offline 		I agree with Tulip.  It would depend on the length and depth of the relationship, and how often it happened.  Sometimes, only getting brief time with someone is like giving one small sip of water to someone dying of thirst.  It's like a little torture.

I don't like being hurried.  It happens in our relationship sometimes, and I don't care for it.  If it happens too often that our intimate, alone time is brief and hurried, then I start getting frustrated, aggravated and downright grumpy.


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RE: Time With Master - 9/11/2008 2:02:49 PM   
KatyLied


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quote:

She figures an hour is not worth it.


Maybe it's not.  With him.  With someone else perhaps she would think differently. 

I'd rather have an encounter/time together that is quality.  What happens during the time together is more important than watching the clock and marking off the minutes. 
Quality > Quantity.


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RE: Time With Master - 9/11/2008 2:15:08 PM   
OttersSwim


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Status: offline 		My Lady came by my work to see me yesterday.  We had about 45 minutes and not a huge amount of privacy, but it was worth every tick of the second hand and totally changed my day for the better.  I am deep in NRE right now, but I hope that will always be the case. 

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RE: Time With Master - 9/11/2008 2:22:04 PM   
smilezz


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quote:

How do you feel about any amount of time spent with your Master?


Time is Priceless together and I soak up any and all that He gives...

Life is to short not to grab it for all it has and run with it. If not, one day if you are the surviving other, you may wake up and go where did all that time go? don't let those 'moments' in time pass you by.....they are never regained.


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RE: Time With Master - 9/11/2008 2:56:28 PM   
chamberqueen


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Status: offline 		My Master made a surprise visit this morning to bring me something and stayed for about 5 minutes.  I was thrilled to see him and to get a kiss goodbye.  I would be very happy to spend only an hour with him.

It is situational, though.  If you have to make a two hour drive to spend one hour it can feel very differently. 


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RE: Time With Master - 9/11/2008 3:23:19 PM   
berrysurprise


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Status: offline 		every second counts... i personally would much rather less than nothing. I agree with smilezz...

quote:

ORIGINAL: smilezz

quote:

How do you feel about any amount of time spent with your Master?


Time is Priceless together and I soak up any and all that He gives...

Life is to short not to grab it for all it has and run with it. If not, one day if you are the surviving other, you may wake up and go where did all that time go? don't let those 'moments' in time pass you by.....they are never regained.


-smilezz-



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RE: Time With Master - 9/11/2008 3:28:20 PM   
Sandyshores29718


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Any time is better than no time. I dont care if its only for 5mins that I can see him. 5 mins is enough for a kiss and a hug. It would hold me over till theres time for us to have more. I would never say our time together no matter the lenght is not worth it. Every second we are together is worth it.

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RE: Time With Master - 9/11/2008 4:16:25 PM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		As one who has had such a life as to teach that nothing in life is certain and that our days are shorter than we think.  I have to agree that any time with someone I care about is better than none at all.  The only circumstance that changes this is WHETHER I care about someone.

A widowed 23 year old certainlly thought there would be a tomorrow for just one more hug, one more kiss, one more I love you.  It was not to be.  I am certain the parents of a 10 year old child never expected she would have been buried for two weeks now.  A mother doesn't look on a newborn's face and think two weeks later their time would be up.  Some of these speak to my own experiences and others to people close to me.  Life is too short, and time is not in endless supply.

Maybe I am over the top when I refuse to go to bed angry.  Maybe it is too much to expect a sincere expression of love and intimacy before parting ways with the important ones of our lives.  Maybe.  Maybe tomorrow is not ours to hold or maybe it is not a gift given to someone we cherish.  I prefer to reverence Master Time.  I will never spurn the gift of just one more moment.

lovingpet

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RE: Time With Master - 9/11/2008 4:33:04 PM   
HisHeavan


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Status: offline 		my Master and i are in a LDR.  We speak on the phone everyday, for more than an hour usually.  We spend time playing an online video game for hours on end with no thought to the amount of time.  For me it's not the amount of time we have to spend, but what we do with the time we're given.  He's traveled to see me.  Once He was able to spend a whole week, which was heaven for me.  When He left i was lonely, but with His help,  i coped and survived.  The last time He visited He was able to stay three weeks and after He left i felt it wasn't long enough.  Seeing Him everyday spoiled me, but knowing the arrangement we have will make things better for us in the long run is what helps keep my spirit soaring.

He tells me,  "Life gives us 'speedbumps' free of charge."  Things that get in the way of us being able to spend time together.  i value every second i'm allowed the priviledge of talking with Him, hearing Him speak, feeling His breath against my neck or Him just simply holding my hand and watching a movie.

There are many times where i feel cheated out of time with Master, but those 'speedbumps' just get in the way.  Work, school, family and social issues come up, lots of things...but if i let every little interruption of our time together bother me...frankly, i would never be happy.  i would be sitting in a stew of self pity and THAT would not make my Master happy.

i hate going to bed every night and being deprived of Master.  my human mind knows i need sleep as well as Himself, but my 'i've only spent an hour with Him tonight' rationalization kicks in and it becomes difficult for me to let Him go. It's not that it was only an hour, because honestly it's always more than that but, it's the not getting to do what i was hoping to do in the amount of time spent.  i get scolded often for this, and i AM getting better about it.  What time Master and i do spend together is always fun, exciting, hot and sexy...even if it's just watching a movie and vegging on the couch. 

It's Quality not Quantity for me.

Respectfully,
HisHeavan

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RE: Time With Master - 9/11/2008 4:43:00 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I don't get to see him as often as I wish but the time we do get to be together I cherish more than anything..even if it's a couple hours doing absolutely anything, chatting on the phone, even just a text message from him.

I admit I get upset when we can't see each other or for longer periods of time..he's well aware of this but we're both adults and we have to do what we have to do. It's not always pleasant but sometimes you just have to take the good with the bad and realize there will be better days in the future and keep that as a positive in your mind...and learn lots and lots of patience.



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RE: Time With Master - 9/11/2008 5:23:23 PM   
kallisto


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Status: offline 		I've learned over the course of my life that every minute counts.   You never know when you won't have even a minute.   Time is one of the most precious gifts I can give or receive. 

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RE: Time With Master - 9/11/2008 6:32:48 PM   
whiteslavebitch


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Status: offline 		After more than 2 years of LDR, I still treasure every moment we can spend together. Now I live within easy driving distance, and can see him more often, I'm
thrilled with every second we can be together. If something interferes with that, I absolutely hate it.

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RE: Time With Master - 9/11/2008 6:33:25 PM   
natasha66


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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

quote:

She figures an hour is not worth it.


Maybe it's not.  With him.  With someone else perhaps she would think differently. 

I'd rather have an encounter/time together that is quality.  What happens during the time together is more important than watching the clock and marking off the minutes. 
Quality > Quantity.



I'll vote for quality over quantity any day....

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RE: Time With Master - 9/11/2008 6:37:53 PM   
JessieMe


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Status: offline 		Many have stated that any time is worth it but I am wondering if this Master was expecting to play during their time together. When you take into consideration the aspects involved:

Warm up
Plateau
Bring down
After Care

It really does seem kind of rushed and would think that something may end up being left out. If a couple has a standing relationship where they are acustomed (sp) to each other and are able to get into head space rather quickly I can see where this would not be an issue...but perhaps as stated by others, this couple has not been together that long yet.

Having said that....for the others who said five minutes for a kiss, hug and snuggle...I totally agree ...absolutely worth every second together

< Message edited by JessieMe -- 9/11/2008 6:38:40 PM >

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RE: Time With Master - 9/11/2008 6:44:08 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Play inside of one hour, no thanks. I'd drop afterwards if I then had to run along.

But drive half an hour while he does the same to meet for lunch? Frequently, although I think we need to pick a new place. The one most convenient serves oversized portions of everything and I really don't want to take half a chicken caesar wrap home, the lettuce is no good the next day.

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RE: Time With Master - 9/11/2008 7:29:30 PM   
ExKat


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Status: offline 		  While I was dating, there was a dom who kept wanting me to travel into the nearest city for like 45 minute meetings with him. Apparantly, he thought it was fair that I'd have to travel 6 hours round trip, at considerable personal expense, to grab a coffee with him 2 minutes from his house. He never reciprocated the traveling. We didn't go on many dates.

Now that I'm in a relationship, I'd happily travel the 4 hours round-trip to just eat dinner with my master (or booty call!) He just never wants me to ^_^

~Katie978

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RE: Time With Master - 9/11/2008 9:15:09 PM   
patina


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Status: offline 		I was in a collar with a Master it was long distance.   I was happy just to get an email once a day.  When it went to only once a week i felt the relationship was not progressing, when it went 30 days with no contact i begged release.

It all determines on how much other attention she/he is getting and reason for such time frame. 

patina 

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RE: Time With Master - 9/12/2008 3:41:31 AM   
michelleryder


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Status: offline 		Even though we're 24/7 I still love all the time we spend together even the couple of minutes when we meet into each other at work.No wonder they call us love sick puppies!

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