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Losing my anal virginity Help!!!! - 9/13/2008 9:25:47 AM

buttermilkdreams

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My husband informed me the other day (while I was both tied up and gagged) that I will be losing my anal virginity very soon. I was speechless (sorry that was too easy). I didn't lose my oral or vaginal virginity to him and I think it would be very special if he could be the first in one sexual aspect of my life. I've done some reading and found that lots of preparation and lubrication are important and he knows that much (and probably more). I'm as nervous as the day I lost my vaginal virginity!!!! What I would like to know (and I understand that its different for everybody) is what can I expect when this happens? What does it feel like when it first goes in? How does it feel when he's all the way in? Can you actually orgasm from this? Any help, advice or information would be helpful.

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RE: Losing my anal virginity Help!!!! - 9/13/2008 9:38:38 AM

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I'm something of an expert--feel free to message me to discuss.

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RE: Losing my anal virginity Help!!!! - 9/13/2008 9:47:43 AM

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Grins* Well lets see here... Yes lots of lube... Yes it will hurt.. Yes, try to relax. I find clitoral stimulation makes a world of difference. Double penetration is totally erotic and hot. Incorporate toys if allowed. Take it easy take it slow. I hope he's gentle.
O! And a word on sanitation....
Once his cock has been in the rear portal, (lol) its not recommended you change camps without cleaning first. Obviously you dont want to get an infection vaginally, or become ill from putting your mouth where his cocks been. Going back and forth isnt always a good idea.
I prefer to do an internal cleansing with warm water and mineral oil first also. Going in shiny and clean makes for a more pleasant experience. Dont feel rushed to take it all in, if hes too big you may never be able to do so.
my Top knows he cant fuck me there like he does the other holes. He is respectful. I'd like to have all my facilities working well my entire life. All of that said, there are those out there who like to be anally raped. Each their own. This is how it's worked best for me. xox

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RE: Losing my anal virginity Help!!!! - 9/13/2008 10:21:18 AM

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hey..grins - some advice from me also....first thing that i find important is to be absolutely clean! i use an irrigator (plastic bottle/tube or shower attachment)..and i um...fill up and rinse out my tush until it is absolutely empty...

then - a good advice is to be really turned on - not that i think this will be a problem since it is your man and you obviously found a good one...smiles....start with a finger...rubbing and touching - maybe a small plug....get used to that - and then go for the real deal..

on your back or on all fours/belly - depends on yours/His preferences...s...

lube..lube...lube...lots of time..lots of time..lots of time...smiles..good luck!!

And what mzbehavin' said " O! And a word on sanitation....
Once his cock has been in the rear portal, (lol) its not recommended you change camps without cleaning first. Obviously you dont want to get an infection vaginally, or become ill from putting your mouth where his cocks been. Going back and forth isnt always a good idea."

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RE: Losing my anal virginity Help!!!! - 9/13/2008 10:31:45 AM

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My experience actually differs from other peoples it would seem but i will give it to you in case you are the same as myself.

Personally i dont like a lot of lube because that causes penetration too quickly for myself where as with very little it is a much slower rate of penetration. I also find that if i have clitoral stimulation that i clench all of my muscles which includes my sphincter.

As for how it feels... well my first time it felt very much like i had to go to the washroom. It was a strange sensation. In time i have found the sensations very different but when i began that is what came to mind. Some people like to start off with fingers. Personally, though i am sure it is psychological, i dislike that though skinnier toys are nice. Be your own judge here.

Orgasm via anal is very possible. I find the orgasm equally as different between clitoral and internal orgasm and indeed very pleasant.

My advice... go slowly and initially you should be the one to initiate the rate at which penetration occurs. As time goes by this isnt as important. Have fun and good luck.

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RE: Losing my anal virginity Help!!!! - 9/13/2008 10:33:54 AM

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i do not suggest using mineral oil at all for if a condom is used (it helps with cleanliness even if you aren't concerned about disease or pregnancy) then the oil can break down the condom

i personally am not that comfortable putting something that thick inside the body given its not water soluble; i remember reading it could cause issues in other applications so i prefer to avoid it if there's a choice. stick with lubricants and there's no question and they do make thicker ones for such events

the clitoral stimulation i also find helps greatly and yes i absolutely can orgasm from it

it likely will feel uncomfortable and strange - but well handled it shouldn't truly HURT. if its acutely hurting then something needs to change.

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RE: Losing my anal virginity Help!!!! - 9/13/2008 10:52:45 AM

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I know this may sound disgusting but I try to use the bathroom before the *cough* big *cough* event. I think this makes as much or difference as the lube does. Not being a female and having other devices used on me than real cocks I think my experience must be slightly different but I think the same ideas apply. I would suggest a small plug or anal toy to be used on you first to get warmed up. I can't take a large didlo all at once even with lube unless I have been loosened up a bit first.

Pain is frankly part of the package but you have to be sure to tell him when it turns from good pain to bad pain. You shouldn't feel sharp pains too much. It should feel like you are trying to open your mouth more than it wants to go (an idea to try to see what the opening up feeling is like).

Everybody else gave good advice. good luck and have fun.

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RE: Losing my anal virginity Help!!!! - 9/13/2008 11:04:04 AM

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I know this may sound disgusting but I try to use the bathroom before the *cough* big *cough* event.

Lol... Imagine the look on his face if he "went in" and found something already inside...

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RE: Losing my anal virginity Help!!!! - 9/13/2008 11:43:23 AM

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I agree with the clit stimulation advice but for me what works even better is two and I mean TWO, full strength cocktails in me first (Oops, strange choice of words). Lets try it again. I need two strong drinks before the fun begins.

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RE: Losing my anal virginity Help!!!! - 9/13/2008 11:45:55 AM

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my mistress fucks and fists my ass on a weekly basis

i can take her arm all the way to her elbow and the biggest strapon i can take is the 14 in bam

once that is allin the feeling is amazing

love bending over for her anytime she wants to take my ass usually twice a week

im always clean for her and yes i do enemas before ...makes it a much better experience for both of us knowing i am clean for her

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RE: Losing my anal virginity Help!!!! - 9/13/2008 11:49:36 AM

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Along with the lube & relaxing, two other tips that work....

Keep your face relaxed and let your mouth hang open. When your mouth is relaxed, other orifices tend to stay more relaxed, too.

When he starts to enter, and your sphincter involuntarily clenches, bear down JUST A LITTLE BIT like you are trying to push him out. That will also relax your sphincter. I emphasize the JUST A LITTLE BIT part....you don't literally want to push him out, of course.

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RE: Losing my anal virginity Help!!!! - 9/13/2008 11:47:45 PM

subbysubsubsub

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Some good advice here. For me, the 3 most important things are:

1) LUBE
2) being turned on (it really helps if I've already had an orgasm or if I'm close to one)
3) being RELAXED (I'm usually relaxed once I'm turned on)

My first experience was great and not at all painful (but there was lots of pressure). I was on all fours, and while he was in my pussy, he slowly worked in a small dildo in my ass. It felt wonderful! After playing with my ass for awhile, he worked in his cock while rubbing my clit. I was about ready to orgasm again!! Also, being on all fours was great because his balls would smack against my pussy during anal which adds to the sensation even more.

Try different positions and find what works best for you guys!! Have fun!

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RE: Losing my anal virginity Help!!!! - 9/14/2008 1:21:20 AM

monywildcat

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Thanks for the input (tee hee, pun intended!) ya'll this is very helpful information!

I have tried the anal experience many times with the x, and never ever liked it. I determined at that point in time that this just plain wasn't meant for me. Perhaps, though, it was the person involved that impeded a successful experience.

I would not be opposed to trying again, however this is not Daddy's thing. I know! I was surprised too! But that is okay. If he decides at some point in the future to try again, then I would be more than willing to try again too. Armed with the info that I have gleaned here, I am confident that things would be just fine. Dandy. Awesome.

Muchas Gracias!

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RE: Losing my anal virginity Help!!!! - 9/14/2008 1:31:32 AM

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As a Domme who loves doing ass play on boys ... and as a sub who adores it when Master uses her there ... here's some more advice!

If you have a "thing" about a finger going in there, he could wear a glove (also good protection against jewellery and fingernail scratches) ... make sure you're not latex-allergic or use a vinyl one or even a condom on a finger will do. Fingering is a good way to get you opened up a bit AND for him to feel "which way" your tunnel goes, people have different angles of passages and also changing body position will change that a bit too. If he gets the feel of you first, he's less likely to cause pain with his cock by jabbing an end wall! Use lube, more people like lots than don't.

I second the advice about not going from hole to hole ... pussy to ass is OK ... reverse direction is NOT because of the normal and necessary population of bacteria that reside in the large intestine. Also the advice to bear down a bit is good, I also find focusing on breathing OUT as he pushes in helps a lot as the change in internal pressures helps the sphincter open.

I can cum from anal, really enjoy it, I'm not mad on the clitoral stimulation as it all gets too intense then, but to each their own. I love getting ass spanked at the same time, or hair pulled! Mmmmmmmmmmmmm fun!

Only after effect I find is that I tend to pass a rather softish motion a few hours after the event ... I think it's the lube! Might be handy to have a panty liner in your panties when you put them back on (if you're allowed them of course) ... especially if you are going out ... avoids any little lube leaks!

Relax, enjoy ... and report back here!

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RE: Losing my anal virginity Help!!!! - 9/14/2008 5:35:28 AM

malloves69

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hey do you get to do him after ?

turn about is fair play as far as im concerned

you wearing a 6in or 8in strapon should do him quite nicely for his first time too

a man ...a woman ....a lazy afternoon ...strapons ....ass play ....sounds priceless to me

oh yes dont forget the lube

and once you do his ass dont forget his prostate ...he will love it i think ...i know i did

have fun mal

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RE: Losing my anal virginity Help!!!! - 9/14/2008 5:36:04 AM

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Lube? You guys get all the breaks....

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RE: Losing my anal virginity Help!!!! - 9/14/2008 5:52:46 AM

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ORIGINAL: mzbehavin

Grins* Well lets see here... Yes lots of lube... Yes it will hurt.. Yes, try to relax. I find clitoral stimulation makes a world of difference. Double penetration is totally erotic and hot. Incorporate toys if allowed. Take it easy take it slow. I hope he's gentle.
O! And a word on sanitation....
Once his cock has been in the rear portal, (lol) its not recommended you change camps without cleaning first. Obviously you dont want to get an infection vaginally, or become ill from putting your mouth where his cocks been. Going back and forth isnt always a good idea.
I prefer to do an internal cleansing with warm water and mineral oil first also. Going in shiny and clean makes for a more pleasant experience. Dont feel rushed to take it all in, if hes too big you may never be able to do so.
my Top knows he cant fuck me there like he does the other holes. He is respectful. I'd like to have all my facilities working well my entire life. All of that said, there are those out there who like to be anally raped. Each their own. This is how it's worked best for me. xox

Ditto entirely the above...
and an added extra caution here:
it is very easy in the heat of the moment to allow vaginal penetration directly afetr anal. However the kind of bacteria carried unwittingly in that particular hole can be qyuite dangerous.
it happened to me a few years ago and i got an infection about which i knew nothing unit lit had reached my kidneys. The pain of an kidney infection is severe and one i never ever want to exprience again. it also meant a helicopter flying in antibiotics to save my life. A warning!

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RE: Losing my anal virginity Help!!!! - 9/14/2008 8:08:16 AM

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My opinion, YMMV: Stop treating it like a huge deal and it will not be such a big deal. It is just another expression and exploration of sexual activity.

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RE: Losing my anal virginity Help!!!! - 9/14/2008 9:02:18 AM

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You've had loads of good advice here and i'll just add one other thing, anal is like any other activity, sometimes it works well and sometimes .... well not so much. My experience with Master was that for a while during our relationship anal was an activity that just didn't quick 'click' for us at that time, we'd done it before, we both enjoyed it but for a couple of months it was just not a happener.

If that happens, don't panic, just keep trying some ass play (fingers, toys etc.) until it starts to go smoothly again - panic = clenching = over / pain (either of which not the idea!). Good luck and enjoy (i know i do!)

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RE: Losing my anal virginity Help!!!! - 9/14/2008 9:08:44 AM

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Tristan Taormino has a great set of videos, books, and a website that will give you all the information you could ever hope to find on the subject of anal penetration. The website is Puckerup.com, take a glance and see what you think

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