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age problems:( - 11/29/2005 8:09:58 PM

imyourslaveboy69

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i am 18 and i yearn to serve a mistress, primarily 24/7... i have no limits at all(at least none that have been discovered), and i am open to any situation... the problem i usually find is that i am usually too young to be taken seriously by any prospective mistress... because i am 18, they usually beleive it is just a fantasy of mine, and i do not really want to serve them 24/7... besides faking my age, which i do not want to do, because i would hate to lie to any mistress, how can i get around this age block?

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RE: age problems:( - 11/29/2005 8:15:28 PM

mnottertail

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I am a hustler for my front end mistress, I command you to suck my dick. After which you will lick my ass, all in preperation to swell your lips for my mistress.

Consider you. There is a hell of alotta life out there.

Having said that, perhaps there was a question or a comment you wanted to make?

LOL,
Ron
Or am I misunderstanding your no limits post?

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RE: age problems:( - 11/29/2005 8:16:50 PM

Snivilis

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well dear, you have to wait and see if any Mistress would treat you badly just because you are young...I am almost the age you are...I am 20 and people sometimes talk down on me because I am young...you will find your Mistress dear, don't worry...

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RE: age problems:( - 11/29/2005 8:21:45 PM

imyourslaveboy69

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i am not really worried about beign treating badly... i have a huge pain fetish... i want a mistress to take advantage of me and treat me like a dog...or lower...

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RE: age problems:( - 11/29/2005 8:21:55 PM

perverseangelic

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I think that your age is only -one- of the reasons you're not being taken seriously.

You say you have "no limits.' Take a minute to really -think- about what that means. That means you are willing to do -anything- for your partner. Are you willing to do -anything-? Keep in mind this includes stuff from as crazy as committing murder to as frustrating as never again eating salt.

From conversation with many many people, I know that individuals who declare "no limits" often/always get taken less seirously than those that can -realistically- outline what they are unwilling/unable to do.

It often takes time to figure that stuff out, I realize, but from the individuals I've been aquainted with, they say they would much rather be with someone who thinks realistically rather than ficticiously declares they have "no limits for any owner."

Again, while I know age -is- an issue, I think that rather than focus on age, I'd think about how you're presenting yourself. Perhaps rework your profile, at the veyr least make the colors a little easier to read :)

I started at a very young age too. Yeah, it was hard to get taken seriously, but it helped that I sat down and thought about who I was and what I was trying to get into. Also, I met partners in realtime, not through the net. I sought out places that I could meet people with like interests that were in my age bracket. You might try that. Look to your friend group. You might be suprrised. The very first people I belonged to were (and still are) my very very close friends.

Age is a problem, but it isn't insurmoutable. Focus on your presentation, meet people in realtime, and be realistic. I think those things help more than anything.

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RE: age problems:( - 11/29/2005 8:26:18 PM

KatyLied

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Ron:

quote:

I am a hustler for my front end mistress, I command you to suck my dick. After which you will lick my ass, all in preperation to swell your lips for my mistress.

lol

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RE: age problems:( - 11/29/2005 8:31:15 PM

onceburned

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quote:

ORIGINAL: imyourslaveboy69

i am 18 and i yearn to serve a mistress, primarily 24/7... i have no limits at all(at least none that have been discovered), and i am open to any situation...

Someone else on this board has been posted that their mistress is about to have them castrated. Would you consider this a limit? How about licking the unwashed boots of someone who has just returned from the stables?

Everyone has limits - one of mine is listening to speeches by our current President.

Now, as far as finding your domme.... may I suggest that you attend some munches? There are several in the Detroit area to choose from. I would like to recommend The Next Generation which is strictly for 18-35 year olds. However it is based in Ann Arbor and that looks to be quite a drive.

Still, you might consider joining their mail list and getting yourself known. They might be able to suggest some closer munch. Ah, but what is munch? You might care to read A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM Munches.

Some handy advice for male submissives is in 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression

And some good general advice is in The WizDomme Newbie Pack. Pay particular attention to the safety articles.

Hey, and welcome to Collarme. This is a wonderful place to learn and to trade experiences.

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RE: age problems:( - 11/29/2005 8:59:03 PM

mnottertail

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I knew I would be busted by somebody, but; hey, Katy didn't my shit sound horrible?

Ron

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RE: age problems:( - 11/29/2005 10:14:32 PM

GoddessDustyGold

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quote:

ORIGINAL: imyourslaveboy69

i am 18 and i yearn to serve a mistress, primarily 24/7... i have no limits at all(at least none that have been discovered), and i am open to any situation... the problem i usually find is that i am usually too young to be taken seriously by any prospective mistress... because i am 18, they usually beleive it is just a fantasy of mine, and i do not really want to serve them 24/7... besides faking my age, which i do not want to do, because i would hate to lie to any mistress, how can i get around this age block?

You also might want to re-think your profile. I admit I quickly scanned it, and though you complain that Mistresses think this is a fantasy for you, what you present shows that this is a fantasy for you! Your profile is mainly made up of one fantasy after the other.
It is eager and honest, but you do sound like a youngster who is willing to strip for the nearest Lady who is willing to fulfill any of the many fetishes you describe.
From your profile:
*I would be exceptionally happy to live as a full time slave for any mistress, but one night stands are also fine.*
One night stands? It's okay if you are just looking for play, but you seem to be offering yourself for whatever is available as long as you can get your experiences. That doesn't make the best impression on a Domina. At least for Me, your profile leaves much to be desired. You will learn in time, and you need to be patient, but it would also be wise of you to spend some time learning about the entire realm of D/s and not just the fetishes you are so anxious to satisfy.

< Message edited by GoddessDustyGold -- 11/29/2005 10:16:17 PM >

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RE: age problems:( - 11/29/2005 11:50:39 PM

mnottertail

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At the thought of throwing this all away, pal. These ladies, these types you are looking for, have given you some really good advice.

Liet them tickle your ears a little.

It is true, what they say.

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RE: age problems:( - 11/30/2005 4:30:49 AM

skareamoos

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In addition to accepting some of the good advice you have been given, you might also consider the fact that sooner than you now think, you will grow into a (perhaps) more acceptable age. At 18 you have that luxury, whereas at 75 I do not. Think positive.

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RE: age problems:( - 11/30/2005 4:43:52 AM

LadyHibiscus

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A friend of mine owns the Michigan Munches yahoo group---send a blank email to [email protected] to join, and you'll get a listing of the local munches sent to your very own mailbox. There is one coming up this Friday in the Lakeside Mall area. Email me on the other side, and I will give you directions.

Everyone has limits, as Ron and Chris have pointed out. I get approached by newbies all the time who want heavy pain play. Having that fantasy is a world away from being able to take it for real. Don't get me wrong---being inexperienced does not mean that you aren't a masochist, or that you can't work your way along quickly. It DOES mean that you have to be up front about your lack of experience, and the things you are interested in pursuing.

A friend of mine always answers the no-limits thing with "Wonderful, I need to practice my castration skills!" Me, I have always wanted earrings made from human teeth! Aren't molars the most beautiful things? <G>

She and I are being facetious----a dear friend of mine can tell you the TRUE story of how he was brutalized by an unethical dominant and her partner. Be sensible, and don't let your fantasy be the first thing people see about you.

Ms Francine

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RE: age problems:( - 11/30/2005 5:39:31 AM

MHOO314

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How about licking the unwashed boots of someone who has just returned from the stables?

Trust Me, this one has sent many a sub running and left Me with damn dirty boots!

All good advice, but one piece was missing from the threads--QUESTION #1--Why do you want to serve? Perhaps because you cannot define that, then that is what makes them feel it is a fantasy---If you cannot answer that clearly and succinctly-- then as GoddessDustyGold has intimated, you are offering yourself up for whatever and dear that is NOT submission--that is--well...

Do an honest assessment, then take a good hard look at limits and no limits---be very careful--
My best wishes and welcome to CM--

< Message edited by MHOO314 -- 11/30/2005 5:43:48 AM >

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RE: age problems:( - 11/30/2005 8:54:37 AM

MistressOfGa

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quote:

Everyone has limits - one of mine is listening to speeches by our current President.

Now THAT is funny!

My profile draws quite a few younger men. Partly because of My interests in diaper/sissy training. I had a young sub (19) and after playing, he has now decided this isnt the lifestyle for him. I dont know how much that says about Me as a Domme or how much it says about him as a young submissive, I only know that you need to be careful what you wish for. You MUST have some type of limits, it is so unrealistic to think that you don't. If I owned a horse and asked you to come to My ranch and suck it's cock, would you? To some submissives this might be a dream come true, and if so, then more power to you. But if this isn't what you had in mind, then yes, it is a limit. Whatever you do, DO NOT lie about your age. That is one of the worse things you can do to a Dom/me. Hang in there. I truly believe that there is a Domme out there who will look past your age and see the submissive that you are.

MK

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RE: age problems:( - 11/30/2005 9:08:48 AM

MistressOfGa

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Oh and also, you should consider your color choices for your profile. I had to highlight it to read what you had written. Since I have admitted to reading your profile, I will add this; there seems to be alot of *I* and *me* in it. It is what you want, what pleases you and how you can achieve it. In addition to what you want I would like to see what you can offer your Domme. Why do you want to serve? You also mention it being a fantasy of yours, if you look at this as just a fantasy, then perhaps you might consider seeing a Pro-Domme to live it out.

Good luck to you.

MK

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RE: age problems:( - 11/30/2005 9:14:45 AM

MsIce

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The first thing you should do is get rd of the red background behind your profile - it is totally impossible to read
Next I suggest you learn all you can about the lifestyle. Join your local group and wait and be paitent. When you are worthy you will be found

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RE: age problems:( - 11/30/2005 11:32:34 AM

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There is also the fact that you emphasize that you want an attractive/beautiful mistress. I always hate to see that in a profile. Let me guess, you want a 36-24-36, long-legged, blond haired and blue eyed, wearing top-quality fetish wear and high heeled boots, carrying a whip and basically being one of those "perfect dominants" that you see on the internet.
This is just a peeve of mine, 99.9% of women don't look perfect in the vanilla dating scene, the BDSM area isn't any different.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be attracted to someone, just keep your expectations realistic.

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RE: age problems:( - 11/30/2005 3:26:35 PM

LadyHibiscus

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Hmmmmmmmm.............he hasn't written to me yet.......

:)Francine

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RE: age problems:( - 11/30/2005 4:22:31 PM

AbstractSavant

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I'll point out another small detail that may help you. I always see the number "69" included in a username as a think that horny young teens do. Unless the person is born in 69, of course.

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RE: age problems:( - 11/30/2005 4:50:13 PM

LadyAngelika

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AbstractSavant

I'll point out another small detail that may help you. I always see the number "69" included in a username as a think that horny young teens do. Unless the person is born in 69, of course.

Ditto! Sends off creep signals for me.

- LA

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