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RE: An example of why we don't participate in local &qu... - 9/17/2008 6:32:41 PM   
CallaFirestormBW


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Status: offline 		Wow, if I ditched "community" over a few jerks, I can't even imagine how many amazing experiences and how many interesting people I would have missed out on.


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RE: An example of why we don't participate in local &qu... - 9/17/2008 6:47:21 PM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		OP.... You'll just have to be big enough to forgive the jerk.  It's not his fault he was born male.  We all know that the human body doesn't have enough blood to think with more than one head at a time.

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RE: An example of why we don't participate in local &qu... - 9/17/2008 7:41:45 PM   
SweetDommes


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ORIGINAL: mztresn0w

People and their attitudes have never stopped me from attending any thing in my life. If I am at a munch, get together, or fetish event. I will just walk away from someone that makes snarky comments. I do the same thing at work or any vanilla event I may attend. I refuse to allow a small minded person to pull me down to their level. I hope you keep attending the munches and whatever other event you want to go to. If they can't drive you away with their snarky remarks then they lose in the end, because you are still there and hopefully enjoying yourself.


The problem here would be that the group in question only has about 6 members who regularly attend the munches ... so where exactly am I supposed to go?  And we don't go to fetish events, which is one of the problems (remember, I mentioned that the males seem to think that there is something wrong with us for not wanting to go to the play party?).

MsC - I sent him an e-mail off-list letting him know that I don't appreciate the tone that I'm getting from him.  I told him that in the future, he can keep his intentional snarkyness to himself and he should review for un-intentional snarkyness so that he doesn't come across that way if he doesn't mean it (although I made it clear that I felt it was all intentional) ... if he pushes it, then I'll turn psycho-bitch on him lol

Calla - as mentioned before, we don't really like people in general - this kind of behaviour (from more than "a few jerks" thank you ... once again, this was "an example" not the whole reason) just re-inforces that we'd rather interact with them over the internet where I have a button to effectively 'kill' them (seriously, once they are blocked/ignored, then as far as I know/care they are dead).

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RE: An example of why we don't participate in local &qu... - 9/18/2008 12:01:07 AM   
E2Sweet


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Status: offline 		Our local group is in a rebuilding phase of sorts and I have to say the overall vibe at the munches is very positive. People who attend just generally gel really well with each other. The only real problem I'm seeing lately is consistency in the turn-out from munch to munch... Chalk that up to living in the mid west...


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RE: An example of why we don't participate in local &qu... - 9/18/2008 12:40:08 AM   
lilsubl


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ORIGINAL: SweetDommes

we just don't like people in general when we are face to face with them lol


i'm with you there!!  i don't understand nor like most humans...they just baffle & confound me & it gets worse the more of them i meet face to face...when i accepted Daddy's collar he was kinda surprised & said, "wow, i made the cut??"  lol  i'm still looking for the ignore button in real life...it would come in oh so handy!!

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RE: An example of why we don't participate in local &qu... - 9/18/2008 1:29:17 AM   
azropedntied


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Status: offline 		The real life ignore button is just a 1/2 pivot turn and  a few steps , removing you from the offending human .Yeah i know so much more actual work but that's what it takes  .with the particularly offensive feel free to extend arm tward offensive human show it your palm finger tips skyward  prior to the pivot turn and  walking self removal .Laughing at them sometimes help seal the deal ..

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RE: An example of why we don't participate in local &qu... - 9/18/2008 1:56:15 AM   
Juliannadelion


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lilsubl

quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetDommes

we just don't like people in general when we are face to face with them lol


i'm with you there!!  i don't understand nor like most humans...they just baffle & confound me & it gets worse the more of them i meet face to face...when i accepted Daddy's collar he was kinda surprised & said, "wow, i made the cut??"  lol  i'm still looking for the ignore button in real life...it would come in oh so handy!!


Awww, I thought I had the market cornered for thinking the world is a festival of idiots and I somehow managed to be Queen of the parade!  What I really need are minions................


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RE: An example of why we don't participate in local &qu... - 9/18/2008 2:28:15 AM   
zakkan


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Status: offline 		You're considered lucky. My local group, which I don't attend, is almost like a secret society. 

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RE: An example of why we don't participate in local &qu... - 9/18/2008 3:07:00 AM   
Lashra


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ORIGINAL: SweetDommes

Yeah, but most of the time, I just don't have the desire to bother with them.  They bore me, mostly - this one in particular is just really getting to me with his snide remarks and condescending attitude about ANYTHING that I have an opinion on.  I figure if I vent here, I won't track him down and strangle him lol

Your playing right into his hands. He wants to upset you and he is. The best thing to do is ignore idiots such as this guy. His head is swollen with ego and immaturity but mostly, insecurity.

Yes I've run into male Doms who do not think highly of female Dominants and that is because we are strong and we aren't available to them. I get a lot of email here from male Doms who are tired of subsmissive women and want a "stronger" woman. Their words not mine. Personally, I think its BS they just want some pussy wherever they can get it from.

I don't do the public scene because I've heard to many bad things about it. I do not have drama in my relationship, nor do I want it.

So chin up, do not let the big bad male get to you. Particulary when you know the reasons for him acting that way.

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RE: An example of why we don't participate in local &qu... - 9/18/2008 3:36:14 AM   
LaMistressa


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Status: offline 		I consider myself fortunate in that I have a really good group of friends who are active in the local community, and we have a great group. But I do like people (and socializing in general), so that may color my experience. The people I don't like I ignore, and the world goes on. But I'm going to make a point tonight to thank and hug my friends - thanks for reminding me to be grateful for them. 

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RE: An example of why we don't participate in local &qu... - 9/18/2008 5:07:07 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		My introduction to community involvement started with swingers groups and nudist at the age of eighteen, with my husband.  I've never been involved with bdsm groups or communities because of my experiences throughout the years.  I have no interest in them, but then I don't go for group stuff with anything.  I guess I just get tired of ego's and one up's and the sexual focus coming in the form of meat market antic's.  I'm mostly turned off by the roosters.  That pot bellied dominant sexual king with the disco look of age's past.  It's enough to make me not want sex ever again! lol

I'd rather meet people on my own and go from there, but I have thought of going to some munches when I move simply because I can get out again and know a couple of people I respect in the area I will be in.  I will give it a try, but I really don't expect to be real involved.  I just tend to be more private about things and don't need the showmanship that is a real turn off and seems to be there whether it is a city board or business meeting or a kinky gathering.

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RE: An example of why we don't participate in local &qu... - 9/18/2008 7:00:16 AM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		Heh, I'm over it now.  I vented, and I played with the smilies lol.  He still hasn't replied to my e-mail, but at the same time, there were a lot of active conversations going on through the list for the group and I haven't gotten any of those either - he's a mod for the group, so he may have booted me LMAO.

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RE: An example of why we don't participate in local &qu... - 9/18/2008 8:01:54 AM   
CallaFirestormBW


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Status: offline 		I think, sometimes, it's harder to get around dealing with idiots and wankers when you're an introvert... and even more so when you're an introvert -and- judgemental (which I am... classic INTJ)!

Ok, I admit it -- my Darling is a social person... many times when I would have thrown up my hands and declared them all anathema, I've dipped my toes back in the water on her account. Havens forfend they ever piss her off so much that she leaves them to be hoist on their own petards... 'cause I doubt that I'd have the inclination to go back to bring them down when they droop to half-mast.

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