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How to be bait for mistresses? - 9/17/2008 1:23:41 PM   
steelman1


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Status: offline 		Hi, I am new to BDSM, got a taste and now am addicted. But I am having trouble finding women to chat with. I am open to both sub and mistresses, but I want to know how to attract mistresses. I find that I have trouble breaking the first barrier, after that I am good. So can anyone give me tips on how to succeed in this lifestyle. Ladies, I want to know your thoughts, only you know what you truly want.

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RE: How to be bait for mistresses? - 9/17/2008 1:38:40 PM   
chamberqueen


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Status: offline 		Be respectful.  If you didn't catch that, be respectful.

I had a sub write yesterday, and his opening line was:  "How did the sex change operation go?"   Very bad opening line.  He was hoping for a spanking; instead he got blocked.

Mention something in her profile that you enjoyed or intrigued you.  Dommes get a lot of emails, and they want to know that someone took the time to read their profile.

DON'T write a wish list of wants and needs.  That can wait until you see if you have something in common, and hopefully until she asks. 

I tend to simply delete first time emails that only say, "hi".  I want some substance. 

Be yourself; don't try to pretend to be the best sub in the world because each Mistress is looking for something different.

Don't offer to move in immediately or to give yourself to her for life.

Write something about your vanilla interests.  That will make you seem like a more well rounded person.


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RE: How to be bait for mistresses? - 9/17/2008 1:55:34 PM   
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RE: How to be bait for mistresses? - 9/17/2008 2:17:05 PM   
Usako


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Status: offline 		A domme is the same as any other woman in my book. There is no magic recipe for talking to one. You would be respectful talking to a woman at a bar, right? Do the same with a domme. You would be polite talking to a woman on the bus, right? Do the same with a domme.

Etc, etc etc.

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RE: How to be bait for mistresses? - 9/17/2008 3:23:00 PM   
MsStarlett


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RE: How to be bait for mistresses? - 9/17/2008 3:28:15 PM   
Steponme73


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Status: offline 		Be yourself.  Show respect, be courteous, be honest & don't talk like a goof.

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RE: How to be bait for mistresses? - 9/17/2008 5:56:12 PM   
darchChylde


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Status: offline 		Bait?  So you want to be bait to dominant women?  Does that mean you want to trick then trap them?

Ok sorry, it was a fair question and the title of the thread grabs the attention; so it did what it was intended to do.  I'm just feeling a little snarky after a couple of threads were pulled that i repeatedly stated didn't belong where they were posted, i was enjoying the debate and it was taken away from me because the modgods gave me what i wanted; just no pleasing some people, eh?

Treat a dominant woman like a woman, succeed in your vanilla life and avoid the unworthy submissive syndrome; a beautiful woman may eventually lovingly tell you that you aren't good enough to lick the soles of her boots, don't take away her fun by jumping the gun.


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RE: How to be bait for mistresses? - 9/17/2008 6:00:22 PM   
LadyBeckett


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quote:

ORIGINAL: darchChylde

Treat a dominant woman like a woman, succeed in your vanilla life and avoid the unworthy submissive syndrome; a beautiful woman may eventually lovingly tell you that you aren't good enough to lick the soles of her boots, don't take away her fun by jumping the gun.



Well said!

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RE: How to be bait for mistresses? - 9/17/2008 6:11:59 PM   
chiaThePet


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Sing a song of sixpence,
Deep pockets on a guy.
Four and twenty sub boys,
Baked in a pie.
When the pie was opened,
Each boy began to sing;
"Some are tartish as a dainty dish"
"And some wear a bright cock ring."

chia* (the pet)

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RE: How to be bait for mistresses? - 9/17/2008 7:37:39 PM   
LadyLupineNYC


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Status: offline 		Read read read her profile!  Did I mention you should read her profile? And PLEEEEEESE no cut and paste form letters; I can't be the only on here who hates that.  It's like, so...how many OTHER woman did you send that to tonight? 30?   

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RE: How to be bait for mistresses? - 9/17/2008 7:42:33 PM   
darchChylde


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Status: offline 		From what I've read in the last few months, being chia can't hurt.

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Where the fuck do I post?

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RE: How to be bait for mistresses? - 9/17/2008 7:47:47 PM   
chiaThePet


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quote:

ORIGINAL: darchChylde

From what I've read in the last few months, being chia can't hurt.


Unless they trap me in the kitchen by the pie pans with a rolling pin.

chia* (the pet)

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RE: How to be bait for mistresses? - 9/18/2008 3:47:16 AM   
MsStarlett


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quote:

ORIGINAL: darchChylde
I'm just feeling a little snarky


You?  NO!!  Never.  That's my job.

quote:

ORIGINAL: darchChylde

after a couple of threads were pulled that i repeatedly stated didn't belong where they were posted, i was enjoying the debate and it was taken away from me because the modgods gave me what i wanted;



So that's how I keep getting into conversations and then 'lose' them. 


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RE: How to be bait for mistresses? - 9/18/2008 4:23:23 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Op from what I have seen on here if you grovel and beg that is the fastest way to their hearts. Trust me it works. I have taken it one step further. When Im begging I have a tin cup. If they turn me down at least they are kind enough to drop in a coin.

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RE: How to be bait for mistresses? - 9/18/2008 4:28:12 AM   
LadyLou


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Well, cover yourself from head to toe in Maya Gold Chocolate bars and chocolate chips cookies…hmmm, maybe attach them to your body with really tight pegs, or even nipple clamps. Walk into your local meeting of ‘Female Sadists Anonymous’, and enjoy your new found vocation as a masochistic vending machine

Seriously though, think about how you would approach a lady in real life that you liked. Assumedly it would involve polite, respectful, maybe witty banter. Two-way conversation is very important. Observe social norms and boundaries - a mistake many make on sites like these is to assume that all flies out the window because it’s a kink based site. Be active in your search. Read profiles, and only respond if you feel you are suitable and the profile is suitable for you. Be honest and clear about what you seek.

Oh, and have fun!

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RE: How to be bait for mistresses? - 9/18/2008 4:32:56 AM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		hmmmmmmmm...... Chocolate.   Works for me!

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It is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed,
the hands acquire shakes, the shakes become a warning,
It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.

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RE: How to be bait for mistresses? - 9/18/2008 9:09:17 AM   
darchChylde


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quote:

ORIGINAL: darchChylde

after a couple of threads were pulled that i repeatedly stated didn't belong where they were posted, i was enjoying the debate and it was taken away from me because the modgods gave me what i wanted;



So that's how I keep getting into conversations and then 'lose' them. 



Sorry MsStarlett, that's just how it works for the rest of us; you're just weird... ummm, special.

*huggles*


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I'm a male dominant switch whose experienced as a poly sub to a dominant woman
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RE: How to be bait for mistresses? - 9/18/2008 12:48:24 PM   
azropedntied


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Status: offline 		Start by getting a book called " How to capture a Mistress " read and digest it and retain it .
By the way the whole chocolate  thing did not work i only got melty and a few stray cats ,perhaps i was in the wrong  area .

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RE: How to be bait for mistresses? - 9/18/2008 2:35:10 PM   
E2Sweet


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quote:

ORIGINAL: steelman1

...I want to know how to attract mistresses....


1. chocolate
2. offer her punch and pie

But in all seriousness, there aren't any absolutely foolproof tricks that I know of. What seems to work in getting females to view your profile and stay around for a bit is to write up the best profile you possibly can, and post the absolute best pics you have at the time. Having something about your main pic that jumps out at you (I know rich colors or sexy imagery often make me look at a profile) is good, especially if you post in the forums.





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RE: How to be bait for mistresses? - 9/18/2008 2:37:46 PM   
E2Sweet


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

hmmmmmmmm...... Chocolate.   Works for me!


Aww, apologies for coming along and regurgitating your funny... I didn't read your post before I wrote my reply.


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