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I always find it a huge shame that Dom/mes often feel that the world must cowtow to their rules in order to be worthy of being involved with them. This sort of provincial thinking really is devisive and petty.
It makes it so hard for people with differing cultures and attitudes to relate and form a community.

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I always find it a huge shame that Dom/mes often feel that the world must cowtow to their rules in order to be worthy of being involved with them.

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As for insisting on respect, I will say that a certain degree of decorum is asked. The slave who signed off with Me last night with the closing phrase "G'night Kiddo!" is NOT going to get much of My attention until he shapes up! I am NOBODY'S "Kiddo"! Really!

Lady Sonelle

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ORIGINAL: FTopinMichigan

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ORIGINAL: riskrewarded

I always find it a huge shame that Dom/mes often feel that the world must cowtow to their rules in order to be worthy of being involved with them. This sort of provincial thinking really is devisive and petty.
It makes it so hard for people with differing cultures and attitudes to relate and form a community.

Hmmm...I find it a huge shame when someone generalizes about all or many, based on their experiences with "some."

K

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donyah think.

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As for insisting on respect, I will say that a certain degree of decorum is asked. The slave who signed off with Me last night with the closing phrase "G'night Kiddo!" is NOT going to get much of My attention until he shapes up! I am NOBODY'S "Kiddo"! Really!

Lady Sonelle

Well put! Respect is earned however a certain amount of respect is due anyone that hasn't proven they are unworthy of it. At least that's the way I see life myopically. Manners are justified at all times which is what I believe you are referring to as decorum. There's no excuse for poor manners excepting with those that have already proven they are the northbound end of a southbound horse.

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/scratches head in confusion

Is it me, or does the OP make no sense at all anymore? Where did Las Vegas come in? And WTF is this?

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donyah think.

Has a new language been developed that I don't know about?

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I always find it a huge shame that Dom/mes often feel that the world must cowtow to their rules in order to be worthy of being involved with them. This sort of provincial thinking really is devisive and petty.

As has been posted in many a thread, including by me, if you don't like it, move on. If one person just can't abide the terms another person has put on her own search, or her own life, the the two of you are not right for each other.

It makes it so hard for people with differing cultures and attitudes to relate and form a community.

Well, yes, I suppose it could. Especially if people generalize about large numbers of others and complain about their attitudes. If one is talking about this board in particular, in the short time I've been frequenting it I've noticed a wide variation in attitudes, mindsets, call it what you will, amongst the Dommes who post here. To me it does seem like a community.

This sort of small town thinking isnt very effective especially on the internet where one is bound to meet people who have different tastes and proceedures for doing just about everything.

It is a small town. There are only a few score regular posters here. But small town does not mean homogeneous. There is still plenty of room for variation. I live in a town of 6000 or so, and am surrounded by people from all over the world, all points on the political, spiritual, and moral spectra. I'm sure there are even a few kinky folk too...I just gotta find them.

The pendants will say, oh if only they did things properly!!, oh if only they read the rules!!
People have differing taste and likes, if one sets things up to their own liking and expects others to just change if they enter their own little world, that world will be very bland indeed.

Are you not then insisting on others following your rules? Your rule that if people have wants/needs/expectations that are too "conventional" or "mainstream" they are turning your world bland, and must change their attitudes and way of life?

I was raised in Michigan so I understand that small town mindset but a community of people with differing ideas and ways of doing things is such a joy if we are just not so myopic as to insist on comformity.

Some people like conformity, at least in some parts of their lives. But what seems like conformity may simply be like-minded people coming together to discuss matters of common interest.

I have not noticed too many people here insisting that others follow a protocol, or set of rules for posting here, or for life in general. If I do run across one, I'm free to ignore the posts and continue to muddle through my own life.

In r/l (for lack of an easier term) I've been lucky enough to have several Domme friends, one of whom is one of the best friends I've ever had. All of them are very different people, both on the D/s side and on the everyday "vanilla" side. I have not had any D/s interactions with them (well...except for one ) but there is no "conformity", no effort to remake the world in one particular image. No sorry...there is one common trait...far lower tolerance for BS than I have.

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I just read on a Las Vegas board a rant on how a Dom knows Las Vegas is rude but hes from the midwest, where its good to be polite, so the rudeness will make him mad and people just have to get used to it.

No buddy, youre on a Las Vegas site, telling Las Vegas people they dont act correctly, and they have to change to suit you.

Not likely.


Would that be the same way you want people to change here?


I meet lots of great people too who have a more thoughtful mindset and thats cool but I think people get too myopic in their groups or munches or lil chat rooms and miss out on the pleasures of diversity.

I'm not sure what the munches, parties are like out your way, but the ones I frequent are anything but conformist. Unless you count common interests in D/s, SM, and/or alternative sexuality as some sort of bland homogenizing force.

If I collected stamps, I would not go to a coin collectors meeting and complain that everyone was spending way too much time discussing coin collecting and their shared interest in it. You seem to insist on being that ornery stamp collector in this forum. People here share some common interests, and discuss them amongst themselves.

I'm sure that in their non-D/s lives they cover pretty much every base as far as politics, religion, morality, spirituality, you name it, goes. But here on a D/s themed message board, they --gasp-- discuss D/s related themes for the most part.


Tasha

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Two sides to each coin.
Phoenxx/Tony

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/scratches head in confusion

Is it me, or does the OP make no sense at all anymore? Where did Las Vegas come in? And WTF is this? quote:

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donyah think.

riskrewarded

Has a new language been developed that I don't know about?

IrishMist

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yes its called takethatstickoutyourbuttish

riskrewarded