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sublizzie -> RE: More confusion about Collarme dynamics... (9/18/2008 6:19:19 AM)

Everyone has different viewpoints and definitions of what submitting, dominating, and playing are. In my view, I submit to the dominance of another when "playing" or doing my particular service kink. There's no need for sex to be involved. I like sex and was hoping I could find someone to serve and have sex with, but the sex wasn't as necessary as the serving. I would have had no problem serving a gay male dominant and was seriously thinking of starting to look in that direction before Santa arrived.

I tend not to look at profiles very often. On rare occasions I will, but not often. I enjoy looking at who is looking at me. It helps me learn about that person, especially if they are a poster.



subsong -> RE: More confusion about Collarme dynamics... (9/18/2008 6:32:40 AM)

   Looking is FUN,  and interesting !   Think of it as the cyber equivalent of sitting on a bench in a busy city park , and observing everyone who walks past .... sometimes you might even flirt .    [;)] 



OttersSwim -> RE: More confusion about Collarme dynamics... (9/18/2008 7:53:38 AM)

It's a community.  With real people.  It's not all about the sex...at least not for me.

I love to read people's profiles just to connect them with what they are posting.  :)



sunshinedreams -> RE: More confusion about Collarme dynamics... (9/18/2008 8:50:42 AM)

Just like in RL, I watch....In other words, I look at profiles and read the forums, but don't chime in much. I like to see the variety of interests and opinions.



RealSub58 -> RE: More confusion about Collarme dynamics... (9/18/2008 8:59:01 AM)

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ORIGINAL: aravain

I do realize that :) However, I don't even understand where their interest in what I've written would come from.



Fact:  If anyone says something/anything that perks my interest here on the forums, I look at their profile.

Fact:  If something intelligent is said I look at their profile so I have some inkling as to if they are dominant or submissive. 
 
Fact: I have all sorts of folk who look at my profile because of something I wrote here in the forums.

Fact: People want to put some sort of person to the words written in forums.

Fact:  It has nothing to do with desiring you, but wanting to check you out for hell of it.

Therefore:  stop worrying, its not always all about YOU! 



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: More confusion about Collarme dynamics... (9/18/2008 9:17:35 AM)

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ORIGINAL: aravain

Why are so many 'straight male dominants/switches' looking at my profile?

purely curiosity is my answer.

i get those who are bi/lesbian/trans/dommes etc perving my profile however i don't perve back. 



aravain -> RE: More confusion about Collarme dynamics... (9/18/2008 10:15:17 AM)

Interesting answers! Thanks everyone :)

It's an interesting dynamic. I had, originally, had a sort of mental 'disconnect' between the forum and the profiles. I suppose it didn't occur to me that for some people they're so blended!

It's a fun dynamic. I like having red on the side bar (it's fun! makes me feel interesting) I was just mildly confused :D

I should probably update my profile with some different infos with this latest revelation. XD Many funs!



littlesarbonn -> RE: More confusion about Collarme dynamics... (9/18/2008 11:23:24 AM)

If you post at all, you'll get lots of interesting people reading your profile. I'm a male submissive, specifically to dominant women. I get looked at by all sorts of people. In the beginning, it's a bit off setting, but then you realize people are just curious about the person posting. Then you get used to it.



littleone35 -> RE: More confusion about Collarme dynamics... (9/18/2008 3:14:49 PM)

I have female subs who have looked at my profile, i have has male doms looking at my profile I have even had sub men and switches looking at my profile.  It don't bother me. iIfigure since i post on the fourms someone though something i said was interesting and decided to see who wrote it.

Matt's littleone



ExKat -> RE: More confusion about Collarme dynamics... (9/18/2008 3:29:59 PM)

   People who look at your profile aren't all looking to bone you. Lots of times, people from the forum will peek at the profile to get a sense of who they're talking to. When I click your name from the forum, it takes me to your full profile. If I wrote something that sparked your interest, you could never imagine popping over to check out my profile and seeing who I am, even though I'm clearly not seeking gay male subs?

I'm definitely guilty of profile perving, and I get lots of views every day from people who are clearly just popping in from the forums.



windchymes -> RE: More confusion about Collarme dynamics... (9/18/2008 4:45:40 PM)

For the same reason people look at train wrecks and carnage at an interstate pile-up....it's there! [;)]



beargonewild -> RE: More confusion about Collarme dynamics... (9/18/2008 6:20:46 PM)

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ORIGINAL: aravain

Hmm... I'm so confused.

I'm very clearly a GAY male submissive... I have that declared and everything.

Why are so many 'straight male dominants/switches' looking at my profile? o.O It's starting to get really confusing. My profile hasn't been looked at once by any gay or bisexual male dominants... but I don't mind that so much.

I mean, I'd understand if I'd even seen them in the forums (and I do love seeing that forum people have looked at me :D) but as far as I can tell they haven't posted in areas I have (or at all in most cases).

So, what are these men looking for? Why did they look at my full profile? Even if they made a 'mistake' while searching and accidentally selected men instead of women or something... you have to select 'view full profile' in order to pop up on my 'Who's Viewed Me' tab, right? Why do they even bother looking?



LOL

I won't get too overly concerned about straight male or female posters viewing your profile. Chances are they are simply curious about you as a person. I mean hell, most people who have viewed my profile have been straight and/or bisexual females! Just relax and enjoy the forums and don't worry about who happens to read your profile, it's all a minor consequence anyways!



aravain -> RE: More confusion about Collarme dynamics... (9/19/2008 10:49:01 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ExKat
If I wrote something that sparked your interest, you could never imagine popping over to check out my profile and seeing who I am, even though I'm clearly not seeking gay male subs?


Probably not [:D] then again I seem to be in the minority. I'll usually only check out a profile if I want to send the person a message, or if they're someone that I want to show to someone else so that I can get a link.

Otherwise, if I was just dying to know, I'd probably just 'search' for you, and read what you've written there... if I understand correctly that doesn't pop up on the 'Who's Viewed my Profile' link... if it does then there's probably a few very confused people who get my name after every time I log in!

But then again, I do sort of have this conception of the forum space being *different* than the profile space. It's just a block I'll have to work past.



CalifChick -> RE: More confusion about Collarme dynamics... (9/19/2008 10:55:07 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ExKat
People who look at your profile aren't all looking to bone you.


Well fiddlefuck!  THAT  just ruined my day.


Cali



PrincessJ77 -> RE: More confusion about Collarme dynamics... (9/19/2008 1:01:29 PM)

Unfortunately, except for a certain few forum peeps, most people who've viewed mine also messaged me & went to the bulk folder.  (I don't do switches, subs or married...)



aravain -> RE: More confusion about Collarme dynamics... (9/19/2008 2:24:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

6'7 300 lbs???? shouldnt you be in the WWE or something???


Hah, I don't think so... I'm ultimately a pacifist :) I only hurt people when they ask me to! Or when they really really deserve it... or when I feel like it...

hmmm

actually, I only hurt people when it's not for money :P Easier way to say it.

Plus the weight isn't muscle... well, I suppose some of it is... but very little. :( That's why I'm trying to lose it... but lets not even get INTO that whole can of worms.


EDIT: Well now that was interesting *scritcheshead*



mzbehavin -> RE: More confusion about Collarme dynamics... (9/19/2008 2:42:59 PM)

 i perv everyone equally and am not gender or role biased. Then, having shortimers disease, i'll perv them again later because i forgot i ever did, or who they were, or they had an interesting post, or they looked at me, or well... whatever.
Its a profile free for all.
Isnt it?!



subeos -> RE: More confusion about Collarme dynamics... (9/19/2008 4:54:21 PM)

I liked to look at all kinds of profiles. From the forums to the pictures. I love learning about people as well. So curiosity and learning is my reason. I do not base it on gender or anything but that "person."

slave eos

~To Thine Own Self Be True~




girlivy -> RE: More confusion about Collarme dynamics... (9/19/2008 6:33:08 PM)

It is really worth the time wondering why people choose to do things?(speaking of course about the perving of ones PF)  If it matters that much, why not send an Cmail to them and ask them ? This way your answer will be stright from the horses hooves :)
Cheers!



subboi3382 -> RE: More confusion about Collarme dynamics... (9/20/2008 1:44:50 AM)

a lot of str8 men look at my profile and some even email me. some are just curious, some are only partly into guys and some are looking for other purposes lol



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