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only anal sex??? - 9/17/2008 10:51:18 PM   
patina


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The thread of no sex got me to wondering of another type of dom.  A friend of min was a slave to a dom who only did anal sex.  He refused to do vaginal completely.  he talked constantly about it being the pathway for the masters seed to be loving and idolized for conception.  but he only did anal.  My friend was to masterbate to satisfy her needs. 

i wonder on 2 areas.  Would that not cause problems with only doing anal after a time.  Why not vaginal ?  i know there could be many reason, likes the tighter hole, maybe a complex from youth, fear of performance that way, fear of pregancy.  Just my mind always questioning things.

thanks all,  for any answers.

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RE: only anal sex??? - 9/17/2008 11:05:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		> there could be many reason, likes the tighter hole, maybe a complex from youth, fear of performance that way, fear of pregancy.

While I'm a firm believer of making full and complete use of all three holes of pleasure, I postulate that penetrating a quite unwilling anus is a turn on in and of itself for me (her mind is willing mind you, it's just that the anus is much tighter and less yielding than the other two love locations - so it is seemingly unwilling - hence the turn on).

It's a wonderful thing to "violate" her sphincter where even her own body vainly attempts to thwart your action ... but, taking your time, and with a bit of lube ... you always win in the end!

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RE: only anal sex??? - 9/18/2008 2:21:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		I've known a couple of women that perfer Anal sex and get off and cum harder being bent over and fucked in the ass, compared to getting it in their twats.  Go figure... everybody is a little different, and that's ok!  It simple makes the world a bit more of an interesting place.

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RE: only anal sex??? - 9/18/2008 2:39:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well, I'm not of the opinion that it's all about the dom and never have been.  That wouldn't have flown with me.  He'd either have to get over it or get a new girl.

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RE: only anal sex??? - 9/18/2008 3:12:40 AM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		Preference.  It's no different to wanting a woman with long red hair.
Damage?  Nothing that regular health checks wouldn't keep an eye on.
Many women can have orgasms from anal sex, so if your friend couldn't that is just her make up and more kudos to her for obeying anyway.
 
The only thing I would add is that anyone doing it because they fear pregnancy needs to get some sex ed.101.because it's not a failsafe.
 
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RE: only anal sex??? - 9/18/2008 3:54:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		Performance anxiety shouldn't enter into it. He couldn't do any kind of sex if he couldn't get it up.

Beyond that, one hopes he mentioned this before they started having a relationship. Otherwise it's bait and switch imo.

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RE: only anal sex??? - 9/18/2008 4:06:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		OK. Am I missing something. You can get pregnant from anal sex?? What are you going to be raising. A bunch of ass holes???

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RE: only anal sex??? - 9/18/2008 4:09:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		It isn't likely, but it is possible.  If she is bent over in doggy-style and some semen drips into her vagina...well, we all know (or I hope we all know) that it only takes one sperm to get a gal knocked up.

So, yep, as unlikely as it may seem, the possibilities exist.

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RE: only anal sex??? - 9/18/2008 4:38:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		  The thought that vaginal sex is the idealized way to concieve reminds me of the many teenagers who still cling to their "chastity" vows.

  They swear they will retain their virtue until they're married. And they try...but only vaginally. They're getting rammed from every other hole, but as long as they don't have penis-vagina sex, they remain pure in the eyes of God.

  Maybe the guy was just paranoid about getting pregnant.

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RE: only anal sex??? - 9/18/2008 5:15:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		Even if there is a drip it still has to penetrate the vagina. Is there any evidence that this has happened before. I have my doubts but there is Murphys Law.  I would like to apologise for the above comment.

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RE: only anal sex??? - 9/18/2008 7:21:47 AM   
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"Can pregnancy occur from having anal sex? Pregnancy cannot occur from the act of anal sex, but because the vaginal opening and the anus are very close together, there is the chance that sperm could leak into the vagina and travel to fertilize an egg."
 
I didn't bother to search for statistics regarding how many cases have been reported due to anal sex, however I believe this confirms that is indeed possible.  If you want actual numbers, please be kind and share whatever you find. 

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RE: only anal sex??? - 9/18/2008 7:31:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		i dated a man for quite some time that only did anal and i was perfectly okay with it for a while, but i missed the vaginal and he wouldn't cave-in, so then i began wondering if he was gay. i finally decided to go to where both people's needs were being met and not sticking around for someone who was so selfish all the time.

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RE: only anal sex??? - 9/18/2008 7:36:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		i think that only going for anal is self-centered and indicates an ignorance of what makes a woman tick...and im a total asswhore...but if that were all there was i would wander off distracted by the shiney new cock over there in the corner...i do tend to get distracted by shiney objects.

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RE: only anal sex??? - 9/18/2008 8:03:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		As much as I enjoy anal...and I do so love the sight of a round, luscious ass with my cock buried deep within it in every position I do when I take her vaginally...it isn't the only way to use my cock to fuck her.  I like to explore all the possibilities that make sense and to limit myself to one hole...when there are two other such lovely holes available...makes little sense to me.

It may be a complex from his younger years...maybe he always wanted anal and could never get partners to go along with it until he got into D/s.  Maybe he has a fetish for anal.  Maybe he just prefers the tension and, as someone noted, the seeming unwillingness of the anal area to be penetrated.  Maybe it is fear of getting her pregnant and a mistaken belief that this way, he cannot get her pregnant.  Or maybe he is just one of those who has decided that it IS all about him.  Whatever it is, I'd have to say...even before reading any further responses from the female submissives...that it seems like a good way to always be seeking a partner.

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RE: only anal sex??? - 9/18/2008 8:06:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile2

I've known a couple of women that perfer Anal sex and get off and cum harder being bent over and fucked in the ass, compared to getting it in their twats.  Go figure... everybody is a little different, and that's ok!  It simple makes the world a bit more of an interesting place.


Look at that... girls like me making the world a more interesting place.

Off to another country to make it more interesting.  oh yes... I have a new goal!
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RE: only anal sex??? - 9/18/2008 8:11:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

As much as I enjoy anal...and I do so love the sight of a round, luscious ass with my cock buried deep within it in every position I do when I take her vaginally...it isn't the only way to use my cock to fuck her.  I like to explore all the possibilities that make sense and to limit myself to one hole...when there are two other such lovely holes available...makes little sense to me.



The only possible clue I can suggest to explain why he only wanted to do her up the Gary is the result of a conversation I had with a Dom a while back … he felt that anal was “more dominant” as it caused the girl a) pain and b) humiliation … now if you took that to its (il)logical conclusion you might end up with someone who felt that any act in which a sub got any pleasure was “un-domly”.
 
Personally I think it’s horse-feathers, but there you are.
 
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RE: only anal sex??? - 9/18/2008 8:12:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Even if there is a drip it still has to penetrate the vagina. Is there any evidence that this has happened before. I have my doubts but there is Murphys Law.  I would like to apologise for the above comment.


Actually there doesn't have to be penetration at all, if sperm is near the vaginal opening the lil buggers can still swim up the vaginal fluid and away they go.

You can even get pregnant if you are dry humping with underwear on if it's cotton because cotton fibers are not an extremely tight weave and the sperm will travel thru. So all those girls that said "as long as my panties stay on" were playing russian roullette as well. lol

If the girl gives a guy a hand job, gets sperm on her fingers and touches herself before washing her hands she runs the risk of getting pregnant.

And amazingly enough, sperm will live outside the body for quite a while. Hardy lil monsters they are *S*

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RE: only anal sex??? - 9/18/2008 9:40:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		I had a partner for a while whose primary mate did not want him to have vaginal intercourse -- he could have anything else, including anal, but could only have vaginal intercourse with her...

To each their own.

In terms of health issues, there may be some relaxation of the anal sphincter over time, which will make anal sex more comfortable but doesn't have to have any long-term repercussions... and  practicing Kegels can prevent loss of muscle tone in the pelvic floor, anal verge and sphincter from becoming an issue. Most of the gay men that I've known have said that years and years of only anal sex hasn't caused them any physical issues, so I'd guess it isn't much different for a woman.

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RE: only anal sex??? - 9/18/2008 9:42:24 AM   
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And amazingly enough, sperm will live outside the body for quite a while. Hardy lil monsters they are *S*


Even more interestingly, the sperm that survive outside the body the longest are the ones carrying an X chromosome... Y guys are much less hardy.

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RE: only anal sex??? - 9/18/2008 9:50:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: patina

greetings all:

The thread of no sex got me to wondering of another type of dom.  A friend of min was a slave to a dom who only did anal sex.  He refused to do vaginal completely.  he talked constantly about it being the pathway for the masters seed to be loving and idolized for conception.  but he only did anal.  My friend was to masterbate to satisfy her needs. 

i wonder on 2 areas.  Would that not cause problems with only doing anal after a time.  Why not vaginal ?  i know there could be many reason, likes the tighter hole, maybe a complex from youth, fear of performance that way, fear of pregancy.  Just my mind always questioning things.

thanks all,  for any answers.

patina 


Hello patina maybe he spent toooooo much time in jail smile...Some use anal as BC and some just prefer a tighter hole as you stated,I have a girl that has shatters O"S from anal...I particular like anal and have it often, to some slaves they see it as humilation and I guess it is to a degree, that they have this fresh petal and Master prefers the dirty ol' booty hole...As always just the views if a kinky ol' master..bounty 

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