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ORIGINAL: PriapicBratt

Prunesquallor,
Excuse me but I did not put the blame on him. Before you start in on someone maybe you should have the facts. This was not someone I had just met and not someone I had not spent time talking to. As a matter of fact I even had him meet my safe call person. He himself has apoligized and admits he misled me. Yes I learned a valuable lesson as did he I hope.

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ORIGINAL: theRose4U

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i think you are wrong James. Aftercare is done in most relationships , with the exception of pure sadists . Please don't generalize what you like , and expect that is normal for everyone.

Jenny, hoping that you'll enlighten me on this one.

Why would someone WILLINGLY allow themselves to be used and tossed aside like someone wiping dog poo off their shoe and call it a relationship?

I'm all for diff strokes and the like but in my world I don't get it. I tell friends as a joke, "hey let me take your money & treat you like crap I'll at least still love you in the morning" when they have a girlfriend use them; but in my world I can't imagine someone willing to base their life & relationship on something like that upfront & willingly.

Looking for insight.

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i think that it's really very mature and brave of you to have not only faced a situation that was way over your head, compared to what you'd talked about before with this man, but also to have realized what happened and that it wasn't a good pairing for you. you started to realize this 3 days ago, and with time, you show increasing awareness as to why it was wrong and what it is that you need.

i think you're doing fantasic in what you've come to know about yourself, so please do not think of yourself as stupid nor as ignorant. you've learned a great deal and to me seem very smart. go easy on you; you've done well and i hope that you will see this upon more time.

i wish you well and i think you'll have a good go at it the next time. i'm honoured to share a thread with you.

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I am very new at the lifestyle but have spent considerable time talking to and questioning people that are familiar with it. I recently accepted a collar.(I thought collars were for slaves? I am a Sub) After our first "session" I felt so empty and confused. To me it seemed more like being with a sadist. The "session" went fine but I need the care, passion, gentleness afterwards. Am I wrong in thinking the relationship should have both? I don't know what to do now.

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ORIGINAL: slavejali

Master has been known to pick flowers and give them to me, dance with me in the street and generally be very romantic and loving, he can also be demanding and make me hurt so good.

Everyone has different ideals for a relationship, including Master/slave relationships. You need to find one that is right for you.

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I am very new at the lifestyle but have spent considerable time talking to and questioning people that are familiar with it. I recently accepted a collar.(I thought collars were for slaves? I am a Sub) After our first "session" I felt so empty and confused. To me it seemed more like being with a sadist. The "session" went fine but I need the care, passion, gentleness afterwards. Am I wrong in thinking the relationship should have both? I don't know what to do now.

PriapicBratt

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ORIGINAL: fastlane

I love that song "I heard it through the grapvine."

Of course, unless you hear it from the source it is nothing but jealousie's and sour grapes.

Think about it.

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ORIGINAL: PriapicBratt

I am very new at the lifestyle but have spent considerable time talking to and questioning people that are familiar with it. I recently accepted a collar.(I thought collars were for slaves? I am a Sub) After our first "session" I felt so empty and confused. To me it seemed more like being with a sadist. The "session" went fine but I need the care, passion, gentleness afterwards. Am I wrong in thinking the relationship should have both? I don't know what to do now.