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ORIGINAL: UnknowingMaster

As some of you have already helped my wife (Slave2Him221), I thought it might be a good idea to post on here some of my problems. I love her and want to do/try things that make her happy. If this is something that she wants to try, I am willing to try as well. If it turns into something more, that is for the future to hold. Hopefully yall can help.

Coming from a completely vanilla point of view, having never even thought about any of this, I find the concept of being a master hard. I can understand the basic description of a master, but when it comes to rewards or punishments, it tends to become a little clouded. I understand that if I want something or order her to do something, she must do it or she will be punished. At the same time, if she does something well, she will be rewarded. The problem that I have is, how do I punish her... And reward? I definitely understand that we need to work things in after I have stabilized from my return home from Iraq... She provided me a link to her thread. I do not know if I am completely comfortable with a 24/7 M/s marriage, but if it works into that to where we are both comfortable, then I am not opposed. She has expressed the desire to only do it in private, but how far into the public would one take it? Only to where she is comfortable? I can read site after site, or book after book, but it will not compare to being there in person.

I think it just boils down to I need help in becoming a Master. I believe that I have the attitude to be a Master, especially after being in the Army. She thinks that I have the personality for being one. All I want is to be a gracious and loving Master that will be fair and protect her. Any suggestions or comments?

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ORIGINAL: UnknowingMaster

I understand that if I want something or order her to do something, she must do it or she will be punished. At the same time, if she does something well, she will be rewarded.