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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

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ORIGINAL: azropedntied

Lady Hibiscus > what about just getting to know a bottom and having that bottom say here and present  themselves to you .Not so much i want you to be a " service Top " for me and do X Y Z  and many other  letters in the alphabet , but rather  the two of you  enjoy your common bdsm ? Perhaps i am in agreement with your statement but with added words , i dunno . 

Sorry, I must not be speaking clearly anymore...  I would LOVE to meet a bottom player that actually came out and said, I just want to bottom, none of that "serving" stuff!  (and I have met a few! )  I think people who love to PLAY are great, and I wish that people didn't feel this need to fit into a dom or sub box.  What I meant by disappointment is those who present as submissive then turn out to be anything but.   After trying to pull off a deception, they come off as selfish, rather than confused, and mess up their future chances.

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

It's unfortunate that male bottoms are viewed in a dim light. 

Akasha

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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

It's unfortunate that male bottoms are viewed in a dim light. 

Akasha

Hi Ma`am, could the reason many males are not open about being a bottom, be due to the fact that any who openly state that are accused of being "Do me" types ?

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ORIGINAL: MISTRESSKUMA

Well, as a girl who likes playing with men, my preference are males who are chemistry-wise compatible with me and really I don't care if hes bottom or sub titled, we just have to be into each other. And that is not easy to find. Look girls aren't like boys. Guys will play where ever they can. Guys will play with WHOEVER says "yes". Even if they don't want to admit it or not. Most guys are that desperate. They don't have a lot of standards. Girls do. Girls are picky. A girl isn't going play with a bottom just because it's a opportunity to get some sexual gratification going. Nope. It doesn't work like that. What's the bottom going to do for her? If he doesn't ring her bell, get her panties wet, guess what? She isn't going to lay one finger on him. And why should she? That's the problem. It has nothing to do with dommes and bottoms. It has all to do with the nature of men and women. Bottoms think because she's a domme that she will want to dominate every dick on the block. That's why your so dang right. It's a huge ass misconception. Bottoms have to mean something to the domme, something more than just a guy who wants some kink. Okay, bottom guys should go for male doms to play with them. They would have better luck. Male doms don't discriminate as much. Its true though OP ^^^

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ORIGINAL: hardbodysub

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ORIGINAL: MISTRESSKUMA

Well, as a girl who likes playing with men, my preference are males who are chemistry-wise compatible with me and really I don't care if hes bottom or sub titled, we just have to be into each other. And that is not easy to find. Look girls aren't like boys. Guys will play where ever they can. Guys will play with WHOEVER says "yes". Even if they don't want to admit it or not. Most guys are that desperate. They don't have a lot of standards. Girls do. Girls are picky. A girl isn't going play with a bottom just because it's a opportunity to get some sexual gratification going. Nope. It doesn't work like that. What's the bottom going to do for her? If he doesn't ring her bell, get her panties wet, guess what? She isn't going to lay one finger on him. And why should she? That's the problem. It has nothing to do with dommes and bottoms. It has all to do with the nature of men and women. Bottoms think because she's a domme that she will want to dominate every dick on the block. That's why your so dang right. It's a huge ass misconception. Bottoms have to mean something to the domme, something more than just a guy who wants some kink. Okay, bottom guys should go for male doms to play with them. They would have better luck. Male doms don't discriminate as much. Its true though OP ^^^

Overgeneralization. True of some guys, but certainly not all, and maybe not even most. I'd agree that, on average, women seem to be pickier than guys. But the assessment above goes way overboard.

Don't forget that your personal experience is a skewed sample. You're much more likely to be contacted by guys who aren't discriminating than by guys who are. There are plenty of guys who are very discriminating; by definition, not many women hear from them.

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ORIGINAL: MISTRESSKUMA

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ORIGINAL: hardbodysub

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ORIGINAL: MISTRESSKUMA

Well, as a girl who likes playing with men, my preference are males who are chemistry-wise compatible with me and really I don't care if hes bottom or sub titled, we just have to be into each other. And that is not easy to find. Look girls aren't like boys. Guys will play where ever they can. Guys will play with WHOEVER says "yes". Even if they don't want to admit it or not. Most guys are that desperate. They don't have a lot of standards. Girls do. Girls are picky. A girl isn't going play with a bottom just because it's a opportunity to get some sexual gratification going. Nope. It doesn't work like that. What's the bottom going to do for her? If he doesn't ring her bell, get her panties wet, guess what? She isn't going to lay one finger on him. And why should she? That's the problem. It has nothing to do with dommes and bottoms. It has all to do with the nature of men and women. Bottoms think because she's a domme that she will want to dominate every dick on the block. That's why your so dang right. It's a huge ass misconception. Bottoms have to mean something to the domme, something more than just a guy who wants some kink. Okay, bottom guys should go for male doms to play with them. They would have better luck. Male doms don't discriminate as much. Its true though OP ^^^

Overgeneralization. True of some guys, but certainly not all, and maybe not even most. I'd agree that, on average, women seem to be pickier than guys. But the assessment above goes way overboard.

Don't forget that your personal experience is a skewed sample. You're much more likely to be contacted by guys who aren't discriminating than by guys who are. There are plenty of guys who are very discriminating; by definition, not many women hear from them.

well if I said "Every guy" or "All guys" or "each and every guy" ..... I could see you thinking I was overgeneralizing. But I didn't. So calm down. I don't have to clarify it's "My opinion" with every single thing I write. Most people know enough about boards to understand that when a person writes "I" they are just justa talkin' about themselves and they don't need a disclaimer like "IMO" for every line they write. Also, most people know the difference between "'Guys' are... blah blah blah" VERSUS "'All' guys are...... blah blah blah." So unless you see me writing "ALL" or "EVERY" calm yourself about people generalizing. Relax.

And another thing. Who are you kidding about guys being discriminatory. Pleeze. Guys have the lowest standards ever. You know it.

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ORIGINAL: hardbodysub


In other words, picky guys don't pick you,

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ORIGINAL: MISTRESSKUMA
Everyone knows guys don't discriminate and will fuck anything with a hole. You know it.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I think it's true that many men ARE desperate, and will attach themselves to whomever for a bit of attention.   How else can we explain the barrage of emails, or the guys who go from person to person at the public events, asking to play?  I can't begin to imagine where these men fall on the spectrum of bottom<>submissive.  Perhaps nowhere?   It's sad that these unappealing and desperate types poison the well for those that are sincere, especially considering that the sincere and discriminating men are in the majority.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
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